It's best to do activities that you feel a connection to and are passionate about. There is no one-size-fits-all. Every sorority has all different types of women.

Even if there was a one-size-fits-all activity (and I reiterate that there is not), joining an organization just because you hope it might help you get into a sorority would not be a good use of your time. Focus on your interests, and join activities based on that--this method will ensure you are happy with what you do and you will be more inspired to get more involved and take on leadership roles.

I'm sorry that you did not get a bid, but the best thing to do right now is to:

• keep your grades high,
• get involved on campus with things you are excited and passionate about,
• meet more people around campus,
• take an honest and reflective look at your recruitment experience and what you need to improve (i.e. You say your GPA is "fine," but that does not mean it is good; being "talkative" doesn't mean you don't need improvement in conversation skills; also reflect on whether you were truly open to all the chapters, as well as your attitude and presence; etc.),
• if you meet sorority women around campus and the situation presents itself then try to get to know them and/or befriend them (hopefully this doesn't need to be said, but don't be creepy).

Active members just want to see you in something you can be passionate about. It wouldn't hurt if you were involved in something related to what you want to do in the future. But one good student organization with which you are involved in leadership is better than a whole slew of clubs you care nothing about. Involvement is quality over quantity.

From reading your previous post, it sounds like you may have just needed recommendation letters. And that's okay. You should have no trouble getting them. Keep in mind, some schools have a separate junior quota, so maybe next year will be better. I know at my school, it is hardest to get in as a sophomore.

As a junior, you have a certain advantage. You can use this semester to make connections with actives so that, next year, recruitment is just a fun time hanging out with your friends.

At the end of the day, there is no "typical sorority woman", so there is no one activity that will set you apart from the other PNMs. Just get involved with something that you love, so you can talk about during the parties. Good luck!

Quite frankly, if you are a junior and have spent 2+years on campus without getting involved in anything you’re passionate about, that’s a huge red flag to me as a sorority member. It makes me think you want to join a sorority as a socializing shortcut, not that you want to bring anything to the chapter.

You shouldn't be joining organizations in order to impress sororities. In sorority recruitment, we tell PNMs to be yourself.

YAL is wildly diametrically opposed to LGBT activism and a feminist club but okay:confused:

I'll believe that when Rand Paul runs and wins as a Democrat in Kentucky, but I digress.

Regardless, you need to show sororities that you've done stuff, not just joined a bunch of clubs. Anyone can join a club and put it on their resume, but helping plan and execute events, raising money, tabling-all that is the stuff that takes time and isn't glamorous, but proves that you care and were committed to the group.

"Doing basically anything" reeks of desperation to get in to any sorority, which is an attitude they will smell from a mile away. So does doing stuff just to impress them. If you were going to join all those groups to begin with, why did you ask us what we thought they would want?

You have to have confidence in who you are as a person, not what you think a sorority wants, because a) you have no clue what a sorority wants b) there's no one ideal person any sorority is looking for and c) even if that person did exist, pretending to be her just to get a bid would make you miserable because you would be putting on a persona the entire time you were a member. Join and do the stuff that you want to do, regardless of whether you think a sorority would like it, because they're causes you're passionate about and want to see succeed.

Please don't be THAT pnm who joins and/or forms every org under the sun, then tries to cap-off her prowess by joining a sorority. Exhausting yourself with activity will additionally bleed precious study time. Sorority women understand the major time and activity requirements their organizations require of new members and evaluate pnms accordingly.

And you've rushed TWICE before? Just know that the sororities DO remember you from previous recruitments. they may be less likely to consider you because they've considered you before.

I had a lot of health issues freshman year. Also, depression hit me pretty hard :(
Once sophomore year rolled around I got myself back together. Now I'm the founder of my own club, and a member other orgs on campus!! Would it still be considered a red flag?

I will be honest, I think you're over thinking things. Yes, you've had some health issues (and I'm glad you're better), and yes you've previously rushed. You are an upperclassman and depending on your campus that may or may not have an impact on your opportunities. We have no way of knowing the specific criteria that chapters use to determine which members will get an invite (that info is private).

Keep in mind too that greek life isn't necessarily the end all be all for everyone. What is it that you're hoping to get out of joining a sorority? I think you really need to do some self-reflecting if you're a founding member of another club and participate in other clubs how are you going to balance that with sorority membership obligations and keep your grades up?

The best advice, if you do decide to go through recruitment again, keep an open mind to all groups. Each of them are wonderful and have something great to offer. Keep in mind that membership goes beyond college too. At this stage, getting an invite from any group would be an opportunity to jump on provided you can manage your obligations. Best of luck.

I would definitely do my best to find recs for all the sororities. The alumnae writing the recs can explain your issues and the reaons for your delays, which would be a huge help to you.

I do tend to overthink things sometimes... Would lack of involvement on campus be an important factor in releasing someone from FMR? I'm just trying to think of why I got released so I can improve

I phrased this VERY badly, but what I was seking with this thread are organizations with good reputations. I don't want to join a group that, for example, pockets 90% of their money they raise for "charity" when better organizations are out there.

Forget that! The groups aren't looking at the balance sheet of other orgs. Join ones that YOU care about. That's all you need to do. Quit trying to make yourself over in their eyes. Be the best YOU you can be. Get recs. Have over a 3.0 at the very least.