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Here is South Carolina- I don’t see any mention of references. Eight or so years ago the brochure (printed) I saw at my in-laws house specifically said references were not needed - I was SHOCKED. I was reading it right before my niece was heading off to USC.... with only one reference. Once home, I wrote one for my sorority and secured two more sororities for her. Less than a month before recruitment. You can guess how her recruitment went. Heavy cuts. Did not pledge. Later her freshman year she pledged COB and had a wonderful Greek experience. The girls were super sweet when we went to graduation. But I was left disturbed by the communication coming from The Panhellenic to the PNM. I think her formal recruitment would have gone differently if her family had any idea about securing references. |
We have seen this before. That line that says “It is the sorority’s obligation to find a recommendation for you”. Um.....no, that isn’t going to happen unless you are super-duper awesome, with tippy top grades, and a patent or cancer cure to claim. And that will happen toward the end of the process, not at the beginning when a rec might be crucial in order to advance to the next round. Bottom line-girls, do yourselves a favor and work real hard )it is work and it can be hard) to get one rec per house. Network with neighbors, relatives, teachers, you parents friends, your friends parents, girls from your HS who graduated before you, etc. Notify your contact list via FB that you are looking for recommendations. Have your parents and close relatives do the same.
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I feel like that was put together by someone who says “we don’t see color at all!” Which of course is a ridiculous and harmful thing to say. |
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Florida State’s Panhellenic Recruitment FAQ page still says recs “are in no way required and do not impact the recruitment process in any way.”
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My niece told me she was going through recruitment. I asked her what references she had, and she only had one from her best friend's mom. Then she and her mom said that you do not need references at South Carolina and pulled the brochure out to show me. It plainly stated that you did not need references to go through recruitment at USC. This then became a source of a marital argument between my husband and me. I kept whispering to him that they were wrong, that USC was very competitive and references were most likely a must. He said "they wouldn't write that in the pamphlet if it wasn't true." Oh and "things have changed since the 80s when you were in a sorority." And USC is different from the school you went to. Me: "Yeah, USC is COMPETITIVE, my school was not!" But I asked for my niece's resume - and once we flew home I wrote a reference for my sorority and secured a KKG and I believe a XO. These would have come in about a week or two before recruitment. Way, way late. Recruitment was brutal - from talking with my non-greek SIL - I don't know if she dropped out after heavy cuts or if she was actually released. My niece is a super outgoing, popular kid with great grades in HS. (She was in the honors program at USC and only made 1 B her entire college career - so grades were not a factor). But she learned most PNM - had tons of references. My husband then told me "What the hell kind of system tells you one thing and then expects another?" I know right after formal recruitment - the girls from the chapter she ended up pledging reached out to her and she went through an informal process to join. |
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Letters of Recommendation Letters of recommendation are not required but if submitted, are strongly encouraged to only be submitted electronically. If you have a coach, teacher, counselor, or mentor interested in writing you a letter of recommendation, they can make their recommendation electronically through the USC Sorority Recruitment Letter of Recommendation form by Aug. 4. The letter of recommendation form will open on May 1 and close on Aug. 4. https://www.sc.edu/about/offices_and...ecruitment.php It was under the legacy notification and letter of recommendation form section. |
That’s a SCHOOL recommendation form. It’s completely pointless as far as being the form that is preferred/required (depending on the GLO) by the sorority to offer a bid. Plus people who aren’t Greek - not to mention people who have zero to do with USC - not to mention men - can use it. What a confusing waste of time!! I can’t imagine what happens when these chapters get dozens of forms from Joe Schmo the science teacher from Walla Walla High. (Actually I can imagine - they go in the wastebasket) Plus the legacy section above makes it seem like the only time you need to use a form from a national sorority is when the rushee is a legacy. Gahhh, if you can’t do it right, don’t do it at all.
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Here's the bottom line: many NPC chapters require a letter of recommendation as part of the membership intake process. SO? Get the (insert adjective/expletive of your choice here) recs/letters. Just get them. There are so many excellent threads here on GC about how to secure recs. I have even written "informational recs" for pnms that I do not know personally, as a courtesy to my NPC sisters who ask for help with PNMs. It's no skin off my fingers to do it and I do not want to stand in anyone's way when it comes right down to it. /swerve: BlueBayou I had breakfast this morning with my Tri Delta buddy (the one I already told you about) and one of her pledge sisters was also at the same restaurant. :D You guys are everywhere! My friend also has a pine sticker with "alumna" on her car (don't ask me to take a photo, I won't, I was in the generation that didn't photograph anything! thank GOD for that!!!). About the sticker - envious, so I ordered a really cool kite decal for my rear windshield. I ordered some extras for my GC Theta sisters, too. I may mail them before Christmas. Don't hold your breath. |
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Back on topic/ I just don't understand why some school's Panhellenic that have a pretty competitive rush make it sound like references are completely not needed. Obviously some schools, like Alabama, do a much better job an realistically posting what is Panhellenic required and what is individual chapters may require. It's kind of like back in my day - we had deferred rush - so only college grades count. And the Panhellenic threshold to go through rush was something ridiculously low. Like a 1.75 or a 2.0. But a couple of the sororities had their thresholds set in the 2.75 range. For us specifically - there was one rush where more than 1/2 the girls were below our threshold and absolutely could not be pledged. At least now - most literature shows some sororities having higher grade requirements than the Panhellenic minimum. And I think I saw that Alabama had a chart that showed how many invites you are likely to get based on GPA alone. To me that is eye opening to a lot of PNMs who don't understand how grades really do impact their options. |
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I mean you can wish for something to be a certain way until the cows come home, but by denying reality, you hurt people, not help them. |
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