Lillymaddy,
PM here and I can hopefully help you out. I had a young woman who I knew through my daughter who had a lot of the same stuff you did.....but not a single rec...she was told by everyone that it didn't matter--I worked hard to get her 8 rec's......she got dropped after first round by the other 7.....and she was very impressive.....so I do think the rec thing is something to think about and also something you might want to consider in order to do COB.....so PM and I can help you out! |
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Hopefully you will consider trying again, but with recs this time. I second the recommendation for you to meet with the Greek Life advisor. They will be able to tell you if there are informal opportunities for bids (COB) this year or if you'll need to wait until Fall 2018. In the meantime, keep that GPA high, get involved in a few key campus activities, make friends with sorority women, and get those recs lined up!! |
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That because of your fear of family judgement, your "energy" might have seemed "off". Meaning that you want this but you're conflicted. My experience is that when there's an inner conflict then you can come across as a bit off. It's a self-sabotage of sorts. Not that the actives knew what it specifically was, just that something was off, maybe you came off awkward. I really believe for you to feel really relaxed and happy during rush, you can't have this type of energy going on. |
You have great tangibles but let's be real, at a school like yours I guarantee that every other girl has a high GPA and probably has recs. Pretty? Ok. Tons of girls in recruitment are pretty.
Connections are important. Not even just in the South. Depending on the school, women already know a large percentage of PNMs from high school, dance, cheer, sports, etc. Or just growing up in the same neighborhood. It matters more than you may think and more than people are at times willing to admit. |
You feel that you are shy and you stated you were afraid that people who might have provided recs would judge you, which to me (armchair diagnostician) sounded like you are not very self assured. Despite your attempts to improve in that area, you might have fallen short, and come off as shy and awkward, which might have been interpreted as uninterested. That combined with no recs might have been the problem, but we just don't know.
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