She is eligible for snap bids no matter where in the process she drops out. What would matter is whether she is on a group's radar and what their procedures are for extending one (MS rules for their group so can't say what that might be).
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I do know what happened with her with at least 2 of the sororities because members angrily shared. They had wanted her but other members insisted with the limited amount of invitations they had, they didn't need to be "wasting" them on in-house legacies. I also know from a member of one group there that her Hispanic sister and her Asian cousin were cut the year before because some members argued that "they're black and they wouldn't fit in this chapter". The Asian cousin was my own Southeast Asian daughter. Several members were so upset that they called us because they wanted her but I told them that the girls would've had a bad time anyway in a chapter where some of the sisters rejected them because of skin color. I did ask the girls to share it with their higher-ups.
There is a myth that no members share membership selection information at all; that we are all close-lipped. On the contrary, I have heard what has gone on in several membership selection sessions of other sororities, usually because one or more members is outraged at what went down. |
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I do know for sure.
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If you were not a super moderator, I'd swear you were trolling. |
No troll. Years of being a Greek advisor. Seven Greek daughters and about 15 Greek nieces. Good Panhellenic reputation.
You're a KD? I've been told what went on in several KD membership selection sessions in the past few years. And other groups. |
Certainly she has not sat in on multiple membership selections at various sororities. It's not allowed. But when you are an active alum, interacting with other Panhellenic alums, perhaps at the same university, I have been told you might share information with your trusted friends. Might. Or might not.
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Not to mention that those of us who have known her for years, both on-line and irl, know her to be of impeccable reputation.
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FWIW you may (or may not) think or believe that nothing that transpires in chapters is communicated or shared outside the chapters. I know better. And good luck trying to put any sort of stop to that. It's human nature, fundamentally. We all have experiences to share re: severe cuts due to legacy status. Today's PNMs and actives are completely dialed in to information and ferreting out same. |
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I said that carnation has no way of knowing what truly transpired in membership selection. Period. This is the same thing that I've seen people IN THIS THREAD remind other GC posters for years. We remind PNMs, their moms, and other alumnae of this all the time. It does a huge disservice, especially to PNMs and their mothers who are sad that they were dropped from chapters, when we act like they could know what transpired. In this circumstance, we have a very hurt PNM and her aunt who are looking to understand what happened - something that can make normally very rational people go a bit more into emotional territory. Having gotten angry and upset phone calls from alumnae who didn't understand cuts or other recruitment results when I served as recruitment adviser for several years, I have more experience with that than I would care to admit. I hope carnation's niece finds a home. Truly. |
There's nothing wrong with my reading comprehension. But thanks for being concerned.
Speaking of reading comprehension, carnation's niece did find a home. Yeah. Uh huh. |
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No dirty deletes here, owning my own snark. Maybe we all need ... um ... something? |
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