I absolutely agree there is a big difference between "I cannot see myself in this house, ever" and "well, they weren't my first choice but they were up there, so I'll give them a try." And there are some ladies who really felt comfortable in all houses they preffed and would be equally as happy for a bid from any of them. A PNM never, ever has to accept a bid if she absolutely doesn't want to and the Recruitment Counselor needs to make it absolutely clear that if she lists the sorority anywhere on her preference card, that means she is willing to accept a bid from them.
Things were done in private at our campus, as well. Each morning of recruitment our (then) Rho Chis would meet with us each individually to go over our invite lists and make sure we were okay with who and how many we got invited back to. There was one morning I was absolutely crushed I didn't get invited back to some particular houses and my Rho Chi was the only one who knew. Same thing went with our bid cards. They were given out individually and each girl had her own moment to open and see what it was. If she felt like she wasn't able to accept the bid, she told the Rho Chi in private and then had the opportunity to leave before the rest of the Bid day activities began. |
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I know a lot of people look down on ISP/suiciding, but when you're on a campus with 2-3 NPCs, I think it's a lot more likely to happen. The 2 current sororities on my campus are very different, and it's easy to figure out where you're most comfortable. I was highly discouraged to suicide even though I would have not been happy with a bid from the other organization. When I finally understood how bid matching worked, I realized how close I could have been to receiving a bid from another sorority because I was told I HAD to put both down. |
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At IU everything is done one on one too. The Rho Chis were assigned to dorm floors, and she would come to your room to deliver your lists. I dropped out of formal midway through, but I assume your bids or "We're sorry..." envelopes were also delivered to you in your room as well.
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Do y'all remember a few years back when a PNM told us that at her school on Bid Day, the PNMs stood in a circle holding hands and shut their eyes and the Rho Chis came around and tapped the shoulders of those who didn't receive a bid and they had to step out of the circle? Then everyone opened their eyes to see who was still in the circle and had a bid.:eek:
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carnation, I don't remember that, but it is awfully unkind to do that. |
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That is just plain cruel!!!!!! When we signed our bid list, we had to give a telephone number where we would be between 4-6pm that day. If we didn't get a bid, we would get a phone call during those hours. If we didn't get a phone call, we had a bid, and were to show up at the Greek Advisors office at 7pm to receive it, then we rushed outside the Student Union to meet up with our new sisters! |
I'm not a huge fan of James' starting these threads questioning the operations of the NPC.
Seems to me like it's perfectly rational to be like, "Hey, I don't get why girls have to list x number of groups on their cards, even if they would only consider one of those groups." To ask honest questions and want honest answers. That's not really what this is though. James certainly understands the concepts behind formal rush -- probably more so than any other male on here -- so why stir stuff up just to stir stuff up? Our rush system isn't perfect, but right now, it's the best that we have to work with. James has basically pointed out a problem that isn't a problem -- as you ladies demonstrated -- so..... what's the point? |
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James--you're just cackling behind your computer at all the trouble you stir up, aren't you? ;) |
Most likely in a sorority of medium size, you will find a niche and be comfortable. Sororities' missions are essentially the same-- to promote friendship, academic excellence and community support. You will find women eager to find a common bond, and will no doubt make friends in any sorority that you pledge, whether it was your first choice or your seventh.
That being said, it IS your choice. As I always say, Greek Life is a great experience, but getting involved with some aspect of campus life that you enjoy is what will define your college experience. If you don't get out of recruitment what you had hoped, there are scores of other organizations on campus where you can form fraternal bonds and wonderful experiences. So, if you go through recruitment, do keep an open mind. And also remember, if you go to prefs and you fill out a bid card, you are bound to the results of that bid matching for a full school year. So why not give it a shot? What do you have to lose? |
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Yeah, I don't think the shoes analogy "fits":p |
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