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Drolefille 02-01-2011 09:20 PM

Seems like back when food was served at parties, that having PNMs provide a list of allergies to their Recruitment Counselors and then it's on each sorority to either provide an alternative should they choose.

But I suspect that probably wasn't done back then either :p

Tulip86 02-01-2011 09:28 PM

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Originally Posted by FleurGirl (Post 2025856)
^If they're that allergic to peanuts that they can't even be in the same room with them, I feel like that's something that should go through the Greek Life office. They could notify the chapters to not serve anything peanut-related and then the girl wouldn't even need to worry about it. I think sharing your food allergies during recruitment is just a big old red flag screaming, "I'M REALLY HIGH MAINTENENCE!" or something.

Um.. no
I'm one of those people who is allergic to peanuts (10% of all people are allergic to them to some extent) and because not all recruitment events and sorority activities during recruitment (like eating peanuts/peanutbutter before rushees arrive) can be controlled, notifying Greek like office is not the only option. I always mentioned it as a small byline in a note or phone call to the person responsible. Still do when attending dinner/food parties, just to avoid awkward situations of me not being able to eat, or worse, having to leave, and making someone feel bad about it. There is nothing high maintenance about a bad allergie. But mentioning it a lot and talking about it with actives is weird and unnecessary. And I think you should only ever mention it if it could affect the situation. Peanut allergie when served peanutbutter? Yes. Shampoo-specific allergie during round 1? No.

Tulip86 02-01-2011 09:35 PM

The weirdest I ever encountered was a girl who walked in during the first night of pledging, day after bid-day, in my junior year. I had been away on an internship and we had a really large group of NMs so I didn't recognize all of them yet. We started talking and she went off about how glad she was the got in to XYZ, and not ABC, and how horrible everyone at ABC was, and how she knew from the start she was going to be an XYZ. I don't think she noticed she was at the wrong place standing in a room full of ABCs! I kindly pointed the way to the other group, very glad she was not one of ours!

FleurGirl 02-01-2011 09:37 PM

^I didn't mean to offend you. Serious allergies are no joke. I just thought the level to which it was being discussed in that situation was super excessive and high maintenance. If it's something that could be super dangerous then it should of course be mentioned subtly and to the right people, like you said. Sorry if that didn't come out right :(

Tulip86 02-01-2011 09:40 PM

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Originally Posted by FleurGirl (Post 2025873)
^I didn't mean to offend you. Serious allergies are no joke. I just thought the level to which it was being discussed in that situation was super excessive and high maintenance. If it's something that could be super dangerous then it should of course be mentioned subtly and to the right people, like you said. Sorry if that didn't come out right :(

Don't worry! Not offended :) Just think it's very important people know about those allergies. I know my group almost landed me in the hospital the first time I met them by serving brownies with tiny bits of peanut in them and not mentioning that! Now that would be a weird rush story: PNM in hospital after Brownie-gate '06 LOL

txAOII_15 02-01-2011 10:17 PM

i love reading all these stories. my school has deferred rush that will begin this sunday and itll be my first time going through it on our side, so hopefully ill have tons of stories. :)

aephi alum 02-01-2011 11:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Drolefille (Post 2025858)
Seems like back when food was served at parties, that having PNMs provide a list of allergies to their Recruitment Counselors and then it's on each sorority to either provide an alternative should they choose.

But I suspect that probably wasn't done back then either :p

I rushed back in the day when food was served at parties (the food was fruit/cheese/veggies/cookies, little nibbles, no 7-course dinners or anything) and PNMs were not asked about food allergies. I suppose that if someone were highly allergic to peanuts or some other food item, she could mention it to her rho chi. It never happened, to my knowledge. A PNM who was, say, lactose intolerant would just downplay it and stick to "safe" items like fruit and water. Even my favorite psycho rushee (about whom I posted years ago in this thread) didn't walk into parties saying "Hi, I'm 'Sue' and I have Crohn's and I can't eat X, Y, or Z."

I actually have a non-weird rush story along these lines. I was speaking to a PNM during a party (I think it was the round before pref), and we got onto the topic of food, and she mentioned to me that she was diabetic. Well, I was Bid Day party chair, and when I learned she'd matched to us, I made sure there were some sugar-free cookies and Diet Coke for her. She became my little. :)

Drolefille 02-01-2011 11:11 PM

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Originally Posted by aephi alum (Post 2025930)
I rushed back in the day when food was served at parties (the food was fruit/cheese/veggies/cookies, little nibbles, no 7-course dinners or anything) and PNMs were not asked about food allergies. I suppose that if someone were highly allergic to peanuts or some other food item, she could mention it to her rho chi. It never happened, to my knowledge. A PNM who was, say, lactose intolerant would just downplay it and stick to "safe" items like fruit and water. Even my favorite psycho rushee (about whom I posted years ago in this thread) didn't walk into parties saying "Hi, I'm 'Sue' and I have Crohn's and I can't eat X, Y, or Z."

I actually have a non-weird rush story along these lines. I was speaking to a PNM during a party (I think it was the round before pref), and we got onto the topic of food, and she mentioned to me that she was diabetic. Well, I was Bid Day party chair, and when I learned she'd matched to us, I made sure there were some sugar-free cookies and Diet Coke for her. She became my little. :)

Exactly I would think if it were an issue today that I'd make it a rule to tell the Recruitment Counselors, but it doesn't make a lot of sense to tell the chapters themselves as a pre-pref thing. If it comes up in conversation naturally, ok sure no big deal, but not the way it was handled.

But like you, I'd have made the effort to have something edible for someone who was allergic/diabetic/etc.

DeltaBetaBaby 02-02-2011 09:52 AM

Hold up...is there no food served at pref anymore?

Drolefille 02-02-2011 09:55 AM

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Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby (Post 2026008)
Hold up...is there no food served at pref anymore?

I don't know if some still do, but I believe the vast majority do not serve food anymore. We served beverages at a few parties, but I don't think pref was one of them, and it was similar at a chapter I helped at.

Someone with a bigger/SEC/more formal recruitment experience correct me if my assumption is wrong?

AnchorAlumna 02-02-2011 10:04 AM

Some do, some don't. We didn't when I was in school at the U of Alabama about 1880, but a chapter I advised was one of only 4 at their school, and they did full meals.

Drolefille 02-02-2011 10:09 AM

^^ Are there provisions for PNMs with allergies at schools that still do food?

LocalLove9 02-02-2011 10:16 AM

We still do food, not meals, just snack-y finger food type stuff. I don't think I really ate while rushing, maybe snacked on cheese and crackers at a couple of houses. Food is definitely optional for the pnms. If a pnm had an allergy, she could easily avoid eating, unless it was a super severe allergy.

Alumiyum 02-02-2011 10:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Drolefille (Post 2026021)
^^ Are there provisions for PNMs with allergies at schools that still do food?

Chapters have finger food (usually little squares of cheesecake, chocolate covered strawberries, little cakes at some chapters...that sort of thing) during pref only at my campus, and though we never had a PNM with a severe allergy while I was active there is a spot on the sign up sheet to list allergies or other special needs. I'm sure the chapters would have no problem accommodating a PNM that needed a different food option. Surely that would be the case at just about any school that has food/snacks?

ETA: I would think food allergies and illnesses like diabetes would be common enough that it wouldn't be a shocker to have to make changes to the menu. I'm actually surprised that we never had a PNM with either food allergies or diabetes while I was active. We never did in my chapter, either. Just a few vegetarians...and yes, we provided alternative food options for them at events.

PhoenixAzul 02-02-2011 10:48 AM

I've been a type 1 diabetic (insulin dependent) since I was 9, and usually, I just handle it by asking for water or just not eating what is there or eating just cheese.

During recruitment, I just sort of expected to not be able to eat at parties, so I ate before hand.

When I pledged my chapter, I became the default food buyer because I knew what I could and couldn't eat. And I always brought the Diet Coke ;-). But I don't know if I'd mention that in a first round party, unless it came up or unless I was going to pass out from hypoglycemia.


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