^^ "For The Record"

For the record, maybe?

ETA: Drolefille types way to fast.:p

Thank you both for the definition.

Oh, I know. Both of my parents went through rush around that time. My dad couldn't believe that Jewish men would join a chapter who wouldn't take them a year prior.

The discussion should cover not just being in A sorority, but also being in HER (the sister's/mother's/grandmother's) sorority specifically. Chapters are different, and chapters change over time. And sisters aren't carbon copies of each other, nor are daughters carbon copies of their mothers. So just because Lucy pledged XYZ doesn't mean her sister Ethel will also love XYZ ... Ethel may fall in love with ABC, or she may not want to go greek at all. Lucy may be disappointed, but she will have to deal.

I can't believe Precious Angel couldn't just hold it together for one party. Having to spend 40 minutes with what you think of as a "crappy sorority" (which could just be a negative reaction to your grandma ramming all things Sigma Kappa down your throat for 18 years) is not the worst thing in the world. If you don't like a chapter, just get through the party, be polite, rank the chapter last, hope your higher-ranked choices invite you back, and if you have to go back to the chapter you dislike, then lather rinse repeat - and if you end up at that chapter's pref party, then ISP or don't sign a pref card.

When I was an active in the 1970's, Jewish people were just starting to join non-traditionally Jewish houses. I had mentioned previously, that our sweetheart my last year was a Jewish Kappa. The downside was that we lost about one Jewish house a year. The Sororities seemed to do better. This wasn't at Lafayette, though, it was my previous school where I majored in Fraternity. At Lafayette, I pledged the library.

For a minute, I thought you were from my chapter! I had a similar event happen to me. We had gotten a letter from the grandmother about a legacy. Well, on the Panhel registration paperwork she only listed herself as being a legacy to one chapter, one the of TOP chapters on our campus. We knew she was coming and I rotated in and realized it was her. I am one of those people who can talk to anyone. I mentioned to her that her grandmother had sent in a letter for her but that she hadn't listed us as a legacy chapter. She then proceeded to tell me that she didn't list us because she wanted no part of being a Sigma Kappa. I said to her that I was sorry she wasn't interested because we have a lot to offer and mentioned some of our strengths. She would not talk to me and was extremely rude. I called grandma and told her what happened and grandma said..."Don't invite her back." So we regretted her. She ended up getting cut by all the chapters and then rushed again as a sophomore.

I had graduated and was not aware she was going through recruitment a second time. I was a grad student at the time at my college and went to the house to help out on bid night. To my surprise, there she was in our new pledge class and get this, she had listed being a legacy to Sigma Kappa on her registration that year. I went up to her and asked her if she remembered me and she said that she did. She then told me that her grandmother had called her right after I had gotten off the phone with grandma and she ripped the granddaughter for being rude at her chapter and rude to the nice girl from SK that she had spoken with on the phone. The new member said that she was embarrassed by her actions from last year and that she was glad she got the chance to apologize to me. Go Grandma!

SO I'm a freshman and I rushed last semester (Fall 2010), after the first couple of nights we were each being taken back to the computers to do our rankings and drop one of the sororities, well one of the Rho Gammas, Emily, took me back to do my rankings, this was the after skit night and I was left with a sour taste in my mouth from one house, first the girl that had shown me around at house tours was rude and the girl I spoke to at skit night seemed like your stereotypical airhead barbie doll sorority girl so I knew I was dropping that chapter, without a second thought I did, Emily checked to make sure I was sure and I said yes, well recruitment continued but I had to miss the last 2, and most important, days due to my brother getting married, I got a phone call saying the only offer for a bid that I got was from the chapter I'd dropped, I took some time to think and decided to go for it and accept the bid, I got back for bid day and low and behold, the Rho Gamma I'd dropped the chapter with was in fact in the chapter! She came up to see if I was ok and say how glad she was that I was there, I was so embarrassed I almost cried, I apologized to her for months; I felt terrible.
Note: The rude girl that showed me around the house is now one of my closest friends in the sorority and the stereotypical blonde barbie doll is my Big :) and the decision to accept that bid is one of the best I've ever made, even though I'm a legacy to another sorority on campus, I can't imagine being as at home there as I am where I am now

Not so much a "weird" story, but amusing. I was on my chapter's recruitment team this year and thus had access to all the information logged in the computers and the PMNs' applications. Our school very rarely receives recs and introductions, so we rely very heavily on the applications to provide us with information prior to recruitment. There is a space for PNMs to list any special information they wish the chapters to have- such as specific food allergies, physical accommodations they require, etc. For the most part, this is useful, but some women choose to make note of the most ridiculous things. Over recruitment week, we fall into referring to the PMNs by their odd notes... broke-her-wrist-three-times girl, allergic-to-aloe girl, flower girl (specifically stated she dislikes flowers- luckily she didn't attend pref). My personal favorite this year was the PMN who specified the kinds of shampoo she can and cannot use... as if we were planning on giving her a shower.

You mean everyone doesn't do that at their pref party? Oh great, I outed myself. Thanks a lot. :p

33's post reminded me of one that, regrettably, I had forgotten. It was the party prior to Pref, and an otherwise nice PNM started telling each sister she talked to what foods she was allergic to, and hoped we wouldn't serve at Pref. She may have told 5-6 different sisters about her shrimp and chocolate and milk etc allergies. One of the sisters said later, "Should we cut her or tell her to pack a lunch?"

Seriously, just don't eat the chocolate chip cookie if it's that bad! I see major red flags for sisterhood retreats, dinners at chapter, etc.

For real! I feel like allergies and dietary restrictions are not something to be discussed during recruitment. Because, I mean, honestly, who is going to take someone who's allergic to COOKIES? Cookies are AWESOME! :D

I feel sorry for anyone with food allergies, but yeah. Why not just avoid eating it? Why talk about it?

Unless it's one of those peanut allergies where they can't even be near it. I do know some people with children that are THAT allergic, but then again if they're going to an event they tell the adult in charge to not have any products with peanuts...instead of telling everyone in the room.

^If they're that allergic to peanuts that they can't even be in the same room with them, I feel like that's something that should go through the Greek Life office. They could notify the chapters to not serve anything peanut-related and then the girl wouldn't even need to worry about it. I think sharing your food allergies during recruitment is just a big old red flag screaming, "I'M REALLY HIGH MAINTENENCE!" or something.