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Rec letters were sent on time, research was done, she looked amazing and had great conversations. She met some amazingly strong, young women. My advice will be "Keep being you:)" |
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I think what I had to learn to accept when both my girls went through, one at IU and one at a top 15 academic university, was that this is not a scholarship or job interview. While they might have outstanding resumes and be attractive girls, they really have to click with those recruiting them. And IU I think there are so many going through that there is some aspect of luck and meeting the right people. At my other daughter's school there were about 400 PNMs and the sororities knew quite a bit about each one before they hit the door. At IU, I think they really don't. It probably is a little easier to fall through the cracks if you are from out of state and not from an area where there are already a lot of IU greek members. Some sororities use reccs more than others, too. There are 22 sororities at IU and 18 of those have been established there for 30+ years in permanent large houses. While these sororities get "ranked" on other websites, the reality is that they all have attractive, accomplished young women. I would not hesitate to accept a bid from any of these. Then there are four that are newer to campus, either unhoused or using more of a rental situation of a house. They are also strong organizations and 3 of the 4 did well during formal recruitment. Those I can understand a PNM hesitating a little more and saying is this really the group for me, but it seems that many have and have had great experiences. |
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My D is from OOS. She knew no one on campus when she arrived. She is a happy Jr now. I would say just have her be confident and reach out to every one of those chapters holding informal. There are email addresses listed on the Panhel website for a contact in each group. While she may have registered for informal through her Rho Gam, I would tell her to reach our directly to these chapter contacts and reintroduce herself mentioning something she remembered or liked about those groups. There won't be a lot of bids given out so she should be proactive. |
Thank you for your advice. She asked her Rho Gamma about contacting the houses via the emails provided and was told to wait until Friday.
I will pass your feedback on to her:) |
Good luck to her! I was able to find my home during informal and it's just as rewarding an experience.
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https://www.amazon.com/Paying-Party-.../dp/0674088026
This book and its companion, Parenting to a Degree, are set at IU. A research team embedded in a dorm, then followed the women for five years. It talks a lot about sororities. It's an interesting read for anyone curious about IU. |
Ordering now:)
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I have Paying for the Party but I didn't know about Parenting To A Degree - I'll have to read that one!
The dorm floor in Paying for the Party is in McNutt, which is where I lived my freshman and sophomore years at IU. (I was pretty sure that's where it was based on the excerpts I'd read before I got the book. There's a diagram of the floor layout in the book and that cemented it.) It was really interesting to read about a place I knew so well! |
Oooo I'm gonna get that one if google play has it.
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The book is good, but I believe there was a built in bias because the dorm was so self selecting- she got a bunch of people who were already a lot alike (and a few misfits who signed up for that dorm randomly). That would be my only caution to readers. |
Informal is just that, Informal
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Informal is really only beneficial to girls with connections to a house through friends/recruitment and girls who are interested in joining one of the open invite houses. |
Exactly, which is why I think Panhel should stay out of it except for groups that are having truly open events. Seeing that these groups have spots open just gets hopes up and will make rushees feel like they’re having to settle for second best when they never had a choice to begin with.
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