Advice on dealing with my little
Thanks for the help!
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I am willing to bet that it does not align with your organization's values to bash her online without talking to her in person. |
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And all FSL orgs have internal discipline procedures. It sounds like you'd best familiarize yourself with those procedures. If she's a new member (not initiated), you probably have a different procedure than you would with an initiate. The only little I ever got was someone I had to blackball. Sucks sometimes, but if they aren't going to be credits to your organization, then the Big is a critical part to new member quality control. |
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It sounds like taking these concerns to the standards board is the way to go, especially about the heavy drug use. If it's something the chapter isn't going to approve of, why would they want her as a member? |
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Questions that popped to mind: Has she been initiated? How did she end up as your Little?
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Bringing up another issue that just bugs me. You say you love her. Do you really? Or is that just something you feel like you're supposed to say? Because it doesn't sound like you like her, even a little bit. And that's ok. You don't have to love all of your sisters and you don't have to like everyone you meet.
And if you haven't had initiation yet, I'd get to brass tacks and get her outta there, if that's what needs to happen. |
The drug behaviors you described warrant standards/judicial board attention. That is risk management territory.
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It sounds like your chapter needs to find a new way of pairing bigs and littles, stat.
Also, everyone who's saying "get standards involved" - keep in mind we are only hearing one side of the story. |
Standards exists to hear both sides.
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I mean we are only hearing one side from the poster. Her perceptions and reality may not match. It's happened before. If that's the case, dragging a girl into standards certainly won't help her engagement in the sorority.
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I'm just taking this thing at face value. Only OP knows if what she gave us is the whole truth. Based on the OP giving the whole truth, I certainly think taking the case to standards would be merited.
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Yeah, because drugs.
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