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[Wine&SilverBlue]

Do you see a male or female gyno? Which do you prefer and why?

I've always seen a woman, but she's away on vacation until I leave for school so I'm probably going to have to see a guy in her practice. My mom prefers seeing that guy to the woman I usually see....

Still, I'm a little creeped out about seeing a guy...

thoughts?

[tunatartare]

Ditto. I just get squeamish about going to male doctors in general. I have heart disease and I have to go to a cardiologist every 6 or so months, and I hate going to male cardiologists, but I have to anyways.

[honeychile]

It's much, much more than the clique "I wouldn't take my car to a mechanic who doesn't use one," it's a huge and possibly life-changing decision!

My own gynie had health problems of her own for a year, and I had to see a man during that time. When she came back, I told my doctor what the male doctor said, and she was absolutely furious!

Obviously, this is one thing I feel quite militant about. I simply cannot begin to understand why a man would be encouraged to go into gynecology.

[Kevlar281]

Originally posted by honeychile
Obviously, this is one thing I feel quite militant about. I simply cannot begin to understand why a man would be encouraged to go into gynecology.
$$$

[tunatartare]

Originally posted by honeychile
It's much, much more than the clique "I wouldn't take my car to a mechanic who doesn't use one," it's a huge and possibly life-changing decision!

My own gynie had health problems of her own for a year, and I had to see a man during that time. When she came back, I told my doctor what the male doctor said, and she was absolutely furious!

Obviously, this is one thing I feel quite militant about. I simply cannot begin to understand why a man would be encouraged to go into gynecology.
What did he say?

[winnieb]

I see a female gyno. I love her, she is sweet, gentle and very understanding. Two years ago I had to have surgery that my dr's partner was an expert in performing. She did all the exams and whatnots until surgery time-- the partner was a male, I consulted with him, had one exam prior to the surgery. I like him- he was nice and understanding and a great surgeon. I would see him again if need be---- but he is not the same as my female gyno.

[honeychile]

Originally posted by KLPDaisy
What did he say?

1) That I have no nerves where I was in pain, therefore, I was not in pain. (I felt like hitting him in the head, since he obviously had no nerves in his brain!)

2) Even though it is in my file that I am pro-life and have refused an IUD or the Morning After Pill on several occasions, he insisted I take a script for the the MAP.

(this is the killer)

3) A week later, he called to say that I had endometriosis. I asked for an explanation. He said, "You have cancer." Just like that - no description, no "go online & check it out", nothing.

Endometriosis is NOT cancer!!!! I was in shock & borderline clinically depressed for at least 4 days before I decided to make a few more calls and get some answers.

[tunatartare]

OMG! Wow. That's insane.

[honeychile]

Originally posted by Kevlar281
$$$

There's $$$ in proctology, too - THAT'S where men who want to become gynecologists should practice!

[Kevlar281]

Originally posted by honeychile
There's $$$ in proctology, too - THAT'S where men who want to become gynecologists should practice!
He if it's good enough for Eric Stratton...

[mmcat]

no excuse for that honeychile...
thank god you're ok.

[aggieAXO]

I would only see a woman gyno and for that matter also a woman therapist. Men just don't understand.

[ADqtPiMel]

Originally posted by honeychile

3) A week later, he called to say that I had endometriosis. I asked for an explanation. He said, "You have cancer." Just like that - no description, no "go online & check it out", nothing.

Endometriosis is NOT cancer!!!! I was in shock & borderline clinically depressed for at least 4 days before I decided to make a few more calls and get some answers.

The hell? What kind of crack addict is this guy? I have endometriosis and it's NOTHING like cancer.

I go to a woman gyno and she's fantastic, I love her.

[33girl]

I've been to both and I much prefer going to a male.

Just because it doesn't hurt YOU doesn't mean it doesn't hurt someone else with the same equipment. Not everyone is built the same way. The men I've been to have been much gentler during the exam.

I think unless you're in touch with what your own body does, you're not going to get a satisfactory result from a male OR female.

[AOPIHottie]

I have always had a female. I had a male for 1 check up because the female was out, and I just didnt feel the same. I like knowing that the female would be easier to talk to because SHE could go through the same things. Its just easier to me to talk to a female.

[preciousjeni]

For me, it's been more about experience and care.

I've seen both women and men in state health departments. All my experiences in these were AWFUL!

I saw both women and men in Planned Parenthood. Again, AWFUL.

When I saw gynecologists in private practice, I had much better luck. My favorite gynecologist was a woman (unfortunately, she had a stroke and passed a few years ago). She was very gentle and was careful to use warm instruments. She also talked through everything and explained any issues in detail.

In a way, I was very much at ease with her because she was a lesbian. I'm sure it had no bearing on her qualifications as a doctor, but in my mind, it meant that she knew how to work with my delicate equipment. I suppose that anything that comforts a woman psychological is good during an exam.

I also saw a man who was my gynecologist/obstetrician for a time. He was also wonderful - very gentle, informative and thorough.

[APhi Sailorgirl]

I see a male and wouldn't have it any other way. I go to the same ob/gyn that my mom has been seeing since before I was born. In fact my gyno delivered me and he and his partner delivered my sister (as my mom says, never go during shift change or there will be more people in the room than you really want;) )

He is very nice and gentle and always looks out for the best for me. When I had to have surgery he actually called to apologize to say he wanted to change the surgery so a doctor he trusted could assist.

I got very sick my junior year of college with female issues (so i thought based on symptoms). The only covered doctor in the area was female so I went. It was the worst doctor experience i've ever had. She was mean, started out by talking about my weight issues. I probably should have realized this office was horrible when on the phone they're diagnosisng me with a miscarriage based on symptons. EXCUSE ME!! It turned out to be a blood disease and thankfully i only had to see her once since i then went under the care of a hematologist.

I don't know what i'm going to do when i move b/c i don't want to change doctors.:rolleyes:

[Xylochick216]

My first-ever gyno experience was an emergency when I was 15 for ovarian cysts. The only person available was a male doctor, and I was traumatized. I've seen a female ever since just because I feel more comfortable talking to her about things. She's not necessarily high on personality, but she knows what she's talking about and is very professional.

I think it's just a matter of personal preference. I have friends that will only see males.

[PM_Mama00]

Originally posted by APhi Sailorgirl
I see a male and wouldn't have it any other way. I go to the same ob/gyn that my mom has been seeing since before I was born. In fact my gyno delivered me and he and his partner delivered my sister (as my mom says, never go during shift change or there will be more people in the room than you really want;) )



Sounds like we've had the same experience! My gyno delivered me and my mom has been goin to him for years so I know I can trust him. He's this cute little Asian man and probably the nicest doctor I've ever had. He's caring, understanding, and talks throughout the whole thing because he knows I get really uncomfortable. Is always asking how I'm doing and how school was going. I don't think I'd feel comfortable going to a woman. From a few of my friends, I've heard they'd rather go to a guy because women "know" what hurts and what doesn't, and men don't know what it feels like so they'll be more gentle.

[carnation]

Having delivered 8 babies, I've seen a ton of doctors and I'd say that they averaged out to be the same. However, if I'd had a choice, I would've seen only women for OB. A woman delivered my first one and she never made any stupid comments like the ones her male partner made. This is what he told me before I had my first one and I stupidly believed him:

"Oh, labor pains feel like gas pains. You can do it naturally."

Yeah, right! ASLFRose, who's tiny now, weighed 8 lbs. 7 oz. And I'm little and she was my first! The first thing I wanted to do after delivering her was go after him with a club.

A woman OB, especially one who had given birth, neeeevver would have said that.

[ZTAngel]

My first gynecologist that I ever went to was a man. He was my mother's ob/gyn and delivered both my sister and me.

After graduating from college, it was difficult for me to travel back to SoFla for appointments so I found a female ob/gyn in Orlando that was recommended to me by a sorority sister.

Now that I'm in Atlanta, I have to find another.

I don't have a preference of a male or female gynecologist. My only requirement is that they're a good doctor and I'm comfortable with them.

[FSUZeta]

i go to women gyno's-who better to sympthasize with pms symptoms and labor pains, than someone who has actually personally experienced them?

[cutiepatootie]

I have had both. My ob who delivered my son was male and he was the BEST dr in the entire world....very sweet, informative, senistive to my needs and talked to me on a non- medical persons level. Since i moved i have run the gamut of male dr's who are crud! Should never have lic. to be a dr.

My current dr is female and wish i had her before i had an emergency hysterecotomy at 36. The dr i had he was so clinical and nothng would change his mind. She reviewed the records and said we could of avoided the hesterectomy all together.

[honeychile]

Originally posted by cutiepatootie
I have had both. My ob who delivered my son was male and he was the BEST dr in the entire world....very sweet, informative, senistive to my needs and talked to me on a non- medical persons level. Since i moved i have run the gamut of male dr's who are crud! Should never have lic. to be a dr.

My current dr is female and wish i had her before i had an emergency hysterecotomy at 36. The dr i had he was so clinical and nothng would change his mind. She reviewed the records and said we could of avoided the hesterectomy all together.

That's heartbreaking!! ((((((((cutiepatootie)))))))) No one should ever go through unnecessary surgery, especially one so final!

I wanted to add that, when I told my (since retired) family doctor which gynecologist I see, he was very happy, and said that she was (and I quote) "the best female cancer doctor in the East." That played quite a role in my deciding to stick it out with her, even while she was ill herself!

[ZTAMich]

I see a female gyn but have had a male, once, when the female had to go to the hospital for an emergency with another patient. It was either have him see me or reschedule, which was not an option. I think I was less nervous having him see me bc I didn't have any time to think about it. While I agree that women usually are more understanding about things, I think men are less judgemental when it comes to some topics that come up in a doctor's office.

The doctor I see here in NYC I've reccommended to so many friends, she's got a great teacher patient base now! LOL

[cutiepatootie]

Originally posted by honeychile
That's heartbreaking!! ((((((((cutiepatootie)))))))) No one should ever go through unnecessary surgery, especially one so final!

I wanted to add that, when I told my (since retired) family doctor which gynecologist I see, he was very happy, and said that she was (and I quote) "the best female cancer doctor in the East." That played quite a role in my deciding to stick it out with her, even while she was ill herself!

Yeah the finality about is what makes me sad and very depressed at times because i wanted more than 1 child and the fact at 36 i am put automatically into menopause really angers me at times and also again very depressed. The dr i have now she is a very caring and compassionate dr so to chalk it up 2 very good ob/gyn and 3 really bad ones.

[Munchkin03]

Originally posted by ZTAMich
The doctor I see here in NYC I've reccommended to so many friends, she's got a great teacher patient base now! LOL

Can you PM me her name, so I can see if she's on my insurance? I have to change docs because of my new insurance. :) I don't have to go for a while...but sometimes it's nice to have some names.

I've only had female OB/GYNS for regular exams. I think I've had an emergency or two that required I see a guy--but the experiences must not have been fine, since I don't remember anything bad about it. In my hometown, it wasn't until about 92 or 93 that a female gyno was around, so my mother had to go to men out of necessity. Now, there are tons of women gynos around. I had two I absolutely adored--but, because of the stupid Florida malpractice insurance, they decided it was too expensive to practice the way they wanted to.

This reminds me--has anyone had negative experiences with a doctor? One of the doctors which I had who I adored--some teenage girls I knew had a terrible time trying to get BC prescriptions from her. "My son is going to Emory Medical School," she told a few people, "and he wouldn't want to marry a girl who had slept with half the football team." The first time I heard that, I didn't believe it---but enough people said it, so it had to be true. I liked her, however, and she seemed to be okay with me.

[jubilance1922]

For my first gyn visit, I went to my mom's gyn, who is a man. He was ok, but when I went off to school I found a woman who I loved. Now that I live in Atlanta, I have another woman gyn who is fantastic! I think I would be less forthcoming with a man than I would with a woman.

[KSUViolet06]

I've always seen a male GYN. It never really bothered me. He's pretty knowlegeable (sp?) of the female anatomy and very sensitive about female issues.

[Intense1920]

I used to have a male GYN. He was my mother's before me and delivered me. He made me very comfortable but he retired a few years back. I had a woman gyn but she was not personable. I tried to make small talk because I was nervous but all she would do is grunt. I don't have a male/female preference just would lole someone is knowlegable and makes me at ease.

[ZTAngel]

Originally posted by jubilance1922
Now that I live in Atlanta, I have another woman gyn who is fantastic!

Could you PM me her name and where her office is located? I'm currently looking for a gyn in the Atlanta area.

[valkyrie]

I find male gynecologists somewhat creepy. I mean, I just don't get it. I only see women.

I always thought I preferred to see women for everything, but I've been seeing a male psychiatrist, and he's awesome.

[squirrely girl]

i'm big on the female perspective, but i'm also HUGE on having a female nurse practitioner do everything. most NP have more 'hands on' experience and more practically oriented training.

generally speaking, my male gyno experiences have been pretty icky. one told me, during my cervical biopsy, that it wouldn't hurt much (kinda like menstrual cramping) because there 'weren't a lot of nerve endings there' - needless to say I DOES FREAKING HURT YOU stupid $hit. grrrrrrrrrrr, that trauma still affects me.

in general, i've always felt more judged by male doctors and i don't get the feeling that they 'understand'. just last week i had a male doc who felt the NEED to push on my bladder to check for signs of a UTI even AFTER the urine culture came back positive and I TOLD him i've got one and my chart shows a HISTORY of them. what kinda sick person truly needs to do that? one who just doesn't know what it is like to have a bladder infection. thats who. grrrrrrrrrrr...


sorry for the rant. GO FEMALE DOCS!

- marissa

[mu_agd]

I've always gone to female doctors. Even before seeing The Hand That Rocks the Cradle. I just feel more comfortable with them.

[aephi alum]

Okay ladies (and gents) ... you asked.

As a rule, I strongly prefer to see female doctors. Women in general, I feel, have more empathy with other women, and I do not believe a doctor can truly diagnose gynecological issues unless she herself has been through those same issues or could potentially be faced with those issues.

However... not all women, and not all gynecologists, have that empathy. I had a very bad experience with a female gyno when I was 14 (I was not sexually active; different issue) and I experienced physical pain during the examination. I therefore did not go for regular visits until about a year ago.

My current gyno is a woman. She is ok, but her office sucks...

[AChiOAlumna]

When I first started getting my annual exams, I was seeing a nurse practitioner at the college health center. When I graduated, I had a strange insurance and had a male doctor. It didn't bother me at all actually, so when I got a better insurance, I chose a male GP who was an OB/GYN prior to becoming a GP so I knew he could see me for a range of medical problems. He was wonderful!!!

When I had my annual, he was professional, and calming at the same time. When my mother was diagnosed with breast cancer, he had no problem accommodating my requests for early mammograms or any other requests...unfortunately he recently died in an accident, so I've got to find a new doctor....UGHHHHHH..

[ISUKappa]

I've had both female NPs (when I went to PP in college and just after I graduated) and a male doc (who is my PCP but used to do OB) do my annual. They were all about the same none neither better nor worse than the other (I mean, come on, it's an annual exam, like it's going to be a party?)

My first OB was male (just a different doc in the same practice as my PCP), but didn't know how to handle my m/c issues, so I transferred to a an actual OB/Gyn clinic and chose a female Doc. I haven't met her yet, but I've heard great things about her.

[AGDee]

I have had both over the years. I've had good and bad of both genders. The most amazing was the OB who delivered both of my kids. He was the most compassionate and caring doctor I've ever met. He truly believed he was assisting God in bringing life into this world. He was gentle and never made me feel uncomfortable. He guaranteed he would be there for every delivery himself (not one of these big offices where you didn't know which doc would be on call for your delivery). He was such a cheerleader in the delivery room. He really got me through it.

My primary care doc is a female now and she does routine gyn stuff and she's fine.

My gastroenterologist is a male and I like him a lot.

I figure, medical personnel are professionals and I am relatively comfortable regardless of their gender. They've seen it all anyway. After all the gastro procedures I've had, including surgery to remove a big chunk of my intestines, the gender doesn't really matter to me. I want a doctor who listens to me, explains his/her thoughts about my treatment to me and is straight with me about what's happening to my body and what we can do about it. My gastro sits with me and tells me his whole thought process and problem solving method in determining what course of treatment we should take next. I really appreciate that. He is also available to me by pager at any time and even called me one Christmas Eve when I was extremely ill to find out if I needed anything and to let me know he was going off pager for 24 hours for Christmas. He's just awesome.

Dee

[Dvyne Evolushun]

My current gyno is a male.

I went to a female gyno before and was very uncomfortable. I have horrible menstrual pains and went in for my annual pap smear. She gave me a very painful rectal exam (why????)!:mad: Then, she tried to talk to me about BC as if we were "homegirls" (i.e. "Girrrl, you know how it is when you and your man are out on a romantic evening, ...etc...etc...") I did not want to hear that after a rectal & I practically ran out of the office.

I was so traumatized that I wouldn't go for another pap smear for years. Then, last year I became pregnant. My family Dr. tried to get me in with his wife's OB/GYN, but she was full, so I ended up with a tall, built male with LARGE hands (ladies - he has a caricature on his wall of him lifting weights).

Anyway, he actually is pretty good, quick, and not at all painful. At times, he reminds me of House, but not as bad. He diagnosed me with endometriosis during my cesearean.

[christiangirl]

Ok, let me just spit out the horrifying-but-true statement so nobody's surprised.....no, I've never been to "that" doctor yet. Yeah, I know, it's terrible, but I'm scared, I can't help it. I had a physical last week and when my (male) doctor found out, he immediately told me he was making my appointment for me, he's not even leaving it up to me. :rolleyes: I know he's right, I'm getting used to the idea that I just have to.

But I'm very uncomfortable with the fact that he's setting me up with a male doctor, even if that's the best option for me (he's recommending me for a particular reason and his friend's a specialist). I don't want a man, I don't even like having a male physician, but he's growing on me. I'm not happy AT ALL about having a guy poking around down there, but hey, a specialist is what I need. It's not freaking me out so much anymore, but I do miss my female physician. After the appointment, I'll revive this thread and tell you how it goes...:(.

[ilovemyglo]

In college at the student health center there was only 1 doctor and one nurse practitioner- the doctor was an OB/GYN and anytime any female went there he automatically said it was either 1. Herpes 2. you were pregnant or 3. chlymida/ghonorrhea.

e.g. "I have a headache" "No, you have the clap"... "I have a fever" "No you have herpes"... "I think I have the flu like all the other 500 studentsin my classes" "No you are pregnant".

What a quack.
My mother made me see HER gyno when I had to go finally. It was a male and I kept telling her I did NOT want to see him I wanted a female and not some old man. He was the man that delivered me and for some reason that mortified me. She made me anyway, and as soon as it was over I told her I hated her. I've been going to a female ever since I it is what puts me at ease (or as much as one can be in that position!).

[AnonAlumna]

I can't believe you have never been to the gyno, christiangirl! I have always gone regularly, but after my aunt died of cervical cancer and I had my first abnormal pap...it's my new religion. I wouldn't be afraid of going, I'd be afraid of what could happen if I don't go!

To the question at hand...MALE!!! I had one woman as part of my gynecological experience. After being very harsh in our initial conversation, she proceded to CUT me during a very routine pap smear! Talk about bleeding! For my first pregnancy, I had an AMAZING OB. He's in a very rural area, and does mostly home deliveries. His wife was the nurse, and he had an amazing bedside manner. I'm pregnant with my second child, and if he weren't three hours away, I'd be seeing him again! Believe me, I've thought about moving to be closer to him!

Finally, for those of you who talk about a female doctor knowing better 'what it's like'. I just don't necessarily agree with that. For example squirrley girl...my male OB told me my biopsy and colpo would feel like a harder menstrual cramping. And it did. We all have different thresholds for pain, and it might feel differently for different people.

REGARDLESS OF YOUR PREFERENCE...ALWAYS SEE YOUR GYNO!!!!

[aephi alum]

Originally posted by ilovemyglo
In college at the student health center there was only 1 doctor and one nurse practitioner- the doctor was an OB/GYN and anytime any female went there he automatically said it was either 1. Herpes 2. you were pregnant or 3. chlymida/ghonorrhea.

e.g. "I have a headache" "No, you have the clap"... "I have a fever" "No you have herpes"... "I think I have the flu like all the other 500 studentsin my classes" "No you are pregnant".

LOL. When I was in college, it was a running joke that if you went to the med center, you would be immediately diagnosed as pregnant, no matter what was wrong with you. Nausea? Pregnant. Headache? Pregnant. Broken arm? Pregnant. Even if you were male. :p

[JenMarie]

I go to the gyno regularly... however, I don't think I've ever established myself with one and only one. I've moved, lost insurance, gone to Planned Parenthood etc etc that every time I've needed an annual, I just kinda called up a few months before and got one. I've even gotten them when I didn't really want them... for example, when I changed my method of BC. (And having a pap with an unprepared mindset REALLY sucks.)

Thing is, whenever I decide to have children, my gyno will switch over to the high risk pregnancy gyno, who I'm not sure sees regular patients.

But bottom line, male or female, I most likely won't see the same dr twice. But I've had both good and bad regardless. But I don't necessarily mind having a male once in a while.

[ADPiZXalum]

My G doctor is male. I don't have a problem seeing a guy doctor because 1. He is so old and I mean it's a very clinical process, it's not weird to me at all and 2. he saved my mohter's life about 20 years ago so I trust him and he knows my family history better than anyone else. THat might be weird that my mother and I see the same doctor, but oh well.
I was diagnosed with endometriosis recently and he performed the surgery for treatment and things went very smoothly. I had never had surgery before and I was crying all the way into the surgery room, but he comforted me and he was right there when I woke up in recovery and came and explained everything he did and what was going on. I can call and ask him questions and he was very honest about my chances of having children one day, especially with my endometriosis being as bad as it is. He's fabulous, I'm just sad that he no longer delivers babies. not sure what I will do one day when (if) I have kids. We'll see!

[BobbyTheDon]

I read the warning. Why did I open anyway? Whats worse, why did I continue to read each post ?

[honeychile]

Originally posted by BobbyTheDon
I read the warning. Why did I open anyway? Whats worse, why did I continue to read each post ?

You're getting in touch with your feminine side?

[PhoenixAzul]

Mine is a guy, and he's the same guy my mom sees. He's nice and all, but he has this HORRIBLE toupe...i can't stop laughing just thinking about it. I have some *issues* that crop up related to my diabetes, and he's always willing to fit me in for a quick visit.

That being said..my first visit ever, I cried so hard, and was so horrified by the whole thing that I cried the whole way home. The second time I went I was OK, but still didn't freaking like it. I refused to let them do the brest exam too...I lied and said I needed to keep my insulin pump on and my bra was the only thing I could clip it to!

Horrible, I know. But I'm not sexually active, so I suppose my *need* to go isn't as great as it should be. Bah.

[ADPiZXalum]

Originally posted by BobbyTheDon
I read the warning. Why did I open anyway? Whats worse, why did I continue to read each post ?

It's what I like to refer to as morbid curiosity.....

[MoonStar17]

Originally posted by squirrely girl
generally speaking, my male gyno experiences have been pretty icky. one told me, during my cervical biopsy, that it wouldn't hurt much (kinda like menstrual cramping) because there 'weren't a lot of nerve endings there' - needless to say I DOES FREAKING HURT YOU stupid $hit. grrrrrrrrrrr, that trauma still affects me.


WOW this reminds me so much of my situation just last week!!!!

I normally see a woman nurse practitioner at the women's health clinic on campus for my pap smears etc.

well i had an abnormal pap and had to have a colposcopy and an endometrial biopsy.. i was SCARED out of my MIND!!!!

the doctor who comes in to do the procedures is this young guy who is a BIG ASSHOLE!!!!!!!!!!

well he was an hour and a half late for my appointmet so i was nervous as hell and my blood pressure was REALLY high..
then i get in expecting him to shake my hand, introduce himself and explain to me the procedures..
well he did NONE of these!! he just said ok spread your legs im going to do the procedure.. my knees were shaking! he saw them shaking and said.. "ohhh come on its not going to hurt there aren't nerve cells there" and i wanted to KICK him in the head when he got started.. he was very rough and had to do both biopsies twice because he didnt get enough cells. i was in so much pain!!!

THEN i ask him... so what is the worst case scenario for these types of biopsies (in all seriousness) i was trying to get more info! and he said ..."worst case...(insert his evil laugh) a hysterectomy and radiation treatment."
i wanted to DIE!!!!!! He was just being so casual and assholish about it.. making me feel like a baby for being in so much pain. i actually blacked out for a second after the procedure and he made a nurse come in to help me out. he didnt even ask if i was OK!!!

this is what happens when you have no insurance and have to use the clinical services on campus.

i just got the results back from my tests and they need to freeze my cervix on the outside to get rid of the superficial cells on my cervix. since i know this A-Hole will be the one doing it, im looking into alternative doctors.. i dont want to go through that trauma again :(


*edited to add* does anyone have information on cryosurgery or has anyone gone through it to remove abnormal cells on the outside of the cervix.. im really nervous about it and any info would be great!

[33girl]

Don't get anything done on campus surgery wise!!! Go to Planned Parenthood and get a second opinion.

I assume you aren't covered by your parents' insurance at all? If they have it, you should still be covered if you're a student.

[OleMissGlitter]

I go to a male gynocologist and he is amazing. He is caring, sensitive and he listens! When I started going to his women's clinic I didn't even think about what sex he was. I just went and the way I look at it, as long as I'm healthly I really don't care. Plus, when he does the exam there has to be a female nurse in the room. Apparently, at all clinics in Oxford they require that be/c I asked my friend who is a Labor/Deliver Nurse that once. She said it is just incase anything should happen that's not suppose to happen. But anyway, he is very nice and very good.

[AchtungBaby80]

Originally posted by aephi alum
As a rule, I strongly prefer to see female doctors. Women in general, I feel, have more empathy with other women, and I do not believe a doctor can truly diagnose gynecological issues unless she herself has been through those same issues or could potentially be faced with those issues.

However... not all women, and not all gynecologists, have that empathy.

Exactly what I was going to say. I prefer female doctors as a rule because the male doctors I had to go to while I was in college thought they knew everything there was to know about "girl problems" when they really didn't know jack. However, I have been to lady doctors who would barely give you the time of day, much less answer any questions or explain anything.

Edited to add: MoonStar17, I'll PM you...

[Lady Pi Phi]

Originally posted by PhoenixAzul
...But I'm not sexually active, so I suppose my *need* to go isn't as great as it should be. Bah.

It doesn't matter whether you're sexually active or not, doctors say that you should go every year when you turn 18.

[Lady Pi Phi]

Originally posted by MoonStar17
WOW this reminds me so much of my situation just last week!!!!

I normally see a woman nurse practitioner at the women's health clinic on campus for my pap smears etc.

well i had an abnormal pap and had to have a colposcopy and an endometrial biopsy.. i was SCARED out of my MIND!!!!

the doctor who comes in to do the procedures is this young guy who is a BIG ASSHOLE!!!!!!!!!!

well he was an hour and a half late for my appointmet so i was nervous as hell and my blood pressure was REALLY high..
then i get in expecting him to shake my hand, introduce himself and explain to me the procedures..
well he did NONE of these!! he just said ok spread your legs im going to do the procedure.. my knees were shaking! he saw them shaking and said.. "ohhh come on its not going to hurt there aren't nerve cells there" and i wanted to KICK him in the head when he got started.. he was very rough and had to do both biopsies twice because he didnt get enough cells. i was in so much pain!!!

THEN i ask him... so what is the worst case scenario for these types of biopsies (in all seriousness) i was trying to get more info! and he said ..."worst case...(insert his evil laugh) a hysterectomy and radiation treatment."
i wanted to DIE!!!!!! He was just being so casual and assholish about it.. making me feel like a baby for being in so much pain. i actually blacked out for a second after the procedure and he made a nurse come in to help me out. he didnt even ask if i was OK!!!

this is what happens when you have no insurance and have to use the clinical services on campus.

i just got the results back from my tests and they need to freeze my cervix on the outside to get rid of the superficial cells on my cervix. since i know this A-Hole will be the one doing it, im looking into alternative doctors.. i dont want to go through that trauma again :(


*edited to add* does anyone have information on cryosurgery or has anyone gone through it to remove abnormal cells on the outside of the cervix.. im really nervous about it and any info would be great!


Yikes!!! That's awful. I really would have kicked him in the head. "Sorry Dr. you must have hit a nerve and I lost all control of my leg".

Secondly, there should be a female nurse in the room at all time while a male OB/GYN is examining you.

[squirrely girl]

seriously! eghhhhhhhhh icky biopsy memories.

- marissa

[DigitalAngel126]

Originally posted by AChiOAlumna
[BI chose a male GP who was an OB/GYN prior to becoming a GP so I knew he could see me for a range of medical problems. He was wonderful!!! [/B]

I'm currently looking into switching doctors... Aside from the fabulous things I've heard about the one I'm looking at, this is one of the main reasons why I'd like to see him... He's got a family practice, but is also OB/GYN.

[Sister Havana]

Female. I would feel very uncomfortable with a male doctor for those kind of things.

Christiangirl, I have a friend who hasn't ever been to the gynecologist...and she's 32! She thinks she doesn't need to since she is not sexually active.

[RedRoseSAI]

Originally posted by MoonStar17
WOW this reminds me so much of my situation just last week!!!!

MoonStar, you absolutely should not take this lying down (no pun intended)! I'm sure you want to forget all about the whole, horrible experience, but this "doctor" needs to be told that his bedside manner ABSOLUTELY STINKS! I would contact the supervisor and let her/him know of your experience. Perhaps as a result, the next patient he "treats" will be treated a little better!

[JenMarie]

Originally posted by Sister Havana
Christiangirl, I have a friend who hasn't ever been to the gynecologist...and she's 32! She thinks she doesn't need to since she is not sexually active.

My old roommate never got checked up. She wasn't active, but I kept telling her a yearly pap also detects cancers and other funky problems that you don't necessarily get from having sex!

I have Kaiser and they recommend that if you've had normal pap results, you only have to go in every TWO years.

Anyone else heard of this? Or follow this?

[MoonStar17]

Thanks to everyone who PMed me. I have been doing my research and am looking into a second opinion just to make sure I was told everything...and to possibly get some questions answered.


I have also written a complaint letter to the Director of the Health Services complex about my experience. And from talking to some other girls I know, apparently I am not the only one a few of their friends and some of them have also had negative experiences with this "doctor"


thanks for all the great advice :)

[DZTUBAGIRL]

MoonStar17, I read that you had to have a Colposcopy. Well I got a phone call from my doctor yesterday saying that I too had an abnormal pap. They want to do a Colposcopy. What in the heck is it? I am scared out of my mind! I know you didn't have the greatest experience but how bad was it? Any encouraging words would really help me not go insane. Thanks a lot!

[MoonStar17]

DZTUBAGIRL,

I just PM'ed you :)

[AKA_Monet]

I've seen both male and female gynecologists... Right now, I see a very good female gynecologist, although she doesn't hook me up with extra tests--no need according to her, I do argue medical facts about past conditions I have had since I started seeing a gynecologist as teenager...

Since I'm about to be 37 years old, I had huge concerns about my genetic predisposition to fibroids and other female related cancers. And the fact that AA women suffer from these kinds of issues moreso than other women at younger ages, I really wanted to know what my reproductive health was like since I've NEVER been pregnant and want to have children, sooner than later... My current insurance allowed me to see a nurse practioner that I got to give me an intrauterine ultrasound. I had to lie about feeling pain during my period, etc. but I got it done. Well, the results were extremely boring for folks to read as they called it...

ZTAngel-- I have an excellent male gynecologist in ATL who did laser surgery for me. I will have to search the world for his name, but I have it somewhere... There is also the Women's Center that made the original referral that was pretty good 15 years ago. But, they may be poor now... The Dr. was located in Cobb Co. Ironically, my godfather is an ob/gyn in Nashville and was under consideration for the Surgeon General during the Clinton Admin. But they thought he did one to many abortions and block his vote in the senate... The senate failed to consider that miscarriages are considered "spontaneous abortions" by insurances and they counted his handling of that procedure... Now he does research in gestational diabetes and speaking tours...

To those who have to undergo extra stuff like Colopscopy. That is just the visualization of the cervix, up close and personal. Does it hurt? Well, how wide can you open up? Usually a "kid's" (and you all are young ladies to me) vaginal canal are relatively small and taut--strong abs. So, they have "fittings" on the scope to detect these abnomalities on the cervix--they are trying to see how big, the color and how bad they are... They can scrape them off once visualized, the same day--that feels like the biopsy and can hurt some folks... They can add a chemical "peel" or cryofreeze them--sometimes that hurts... Or they laser them off--that's invasive and dangerous if clotting doesn't occur properly...

Best thing to do is to get tested for EVERYTHING... Make sure you do not have it... If you need the Colopscopy, you may need other things and the fact you are young, it can worsen very quickly...

The next thing you need to KNOW is "protect yourself at ALL times" and "just say NO"... It ain't about the fact that he's cute, he don't like using a condom, he'll kicked me to the curb if I don't--it's about your future reproductive health--do you want children when your 28-35, safely, without costly infertility treatments? Then, EFF the dumbisht, those little boys need to watch and wait. If they want skank, they can have skank... But you don't have to be stank with them and endanger your own health...

And if you get unbelievable diagnosis, get a second opinion--even a 3rd if you have to. Verify... Make them show you your paperwork--they have to legally do that anyway. They don't have to give it to you, but they can show you the test outcome. Many insurances are posting their lab data now to protect themselves legally... It's about papertrail... You are your OWN health advocate. Don't settle until you get an accurate diagnosis that you clearly understand... Not EVERY doctor graduated with honors and the top of his or her class and is board certified... Most don't like to put codes into the computer for accurate diagnosis and get jacked by the pay. And many have seen a gazillion patients since 6 AM for 7 days and think things are routine when they don't have alot of info to go on...

Besides, med schools aren't teaching the "let's examine and go developing and figure" process of elimination--that for the "translational clinical trial researchers to do". Med schools teach the "triage on the battlefield" method of seeing patients and the more info you give someone, the better off you are.

Why? Because insurance jacked up this process... That's why the patient MUST be their OWN advocate and NOT wait for a fair and accurate diagnosis... Watch your symptoms... Mark the dates and times of your periods, their consistency (heavy vs. light; chunky vs gooey and the color), the headache intensity, how long is the period, if you don't take birth control, what does your ovulation goo look like and when does it start; do you get sick after your periods because of lowered immune system; mood swinging and depression, whatever else that happens and BRING that list with you with dates, times, etc... You don't know how much that will help clinic folks out... Besides, that chit gets put into your permenent record so when you get jacked for some psychotic chit and decide to sue, you got that papertrail to follow... Because a TEAM of doctors (mainly from the insurance provider) will decide your diagnosis if you sue--and most of the time, you can't sue without probable cause unless your very rich...

Y'all need to realize doctors are human too and don't know everything although they do have to take some class on "being an asshole doctor 101 'cuz I passed my residency program"... Ironically, they HATE folks like me with a Ph.D. 'cuz I call them on their thought process with the genes and chromosomes... That's why the older doctors find me interesting because they have all these questions that I have to answer... The younger ones, well, some care about questions, others are like, how many patients I need to see to pay off my student loans... It's unfortunate, but that's the way it is now until something happens to advance medicine... That will happen in our lifetime, how I don't know.

[christiangirl]

Ok, ok. My doc really wasn't playing, I got a call yesterday from somebody trying to see when was good for me. And I get the feeling that my doc was somewhere close because anytime it sounded like I wasn't sure what he wanted checked, she'd put me on hold and come back with, "Well, he said..."

:rolleyes:

I'll bump this thread up on the 16th...if I don't....just know how much I loved you all...keep me in your thoughts and don't forget me...:(

And hey, we have bad campus doctors like that, they'll try so hard to tell you you have an STD. I came in for a headache and he really asked me, "When was the last time you had sex?" I'm thinking, what on earth does that have to do with a headache, but I just politely said, "Never, I'm a virgin." He just put down his pen, folded his hands, and shot me a look over his glasses. :mad: TALK ABOUT OFFENDED, I yelled, "Well, I am!" and he sighed all big and said, "Well, okay then..."

[tunatartare]

Bumping this because there was an article about this in this month's Glamour. A male med student wrote a piece about how he wants to go into OB/GYN and he was discouraged by other men from doing it saying that most women wouldn't hire him. It goes on to talk about it and he says that men should be gynecologists.

My friend and I had this talk over th e weekend and she and I both agree that men should not be gynecologists. I don't care if you have a medical degree, but unless you have a vagina then you don't know how one works. Wednesday night I had to go to the ER because I had ruptured cysts on my ovaries and the doctor that was assigned to me was a man. He gave me two Tylenol (no joke) for the pain. He really thought that was going to do it for me.

[MoonStar17]

Originally posted by KLPDaisy
Bumping this because there was an article about this in this month's Glamour. A male med student wrote a piece about how he wants to go into OB/GYN and he was discouraged by other men from doing it saying that most women wouldn't hire him. It goes on to talk about it and he says that men should be gynecologists.

My friend and I had this talk over th e weekend and she and I both agree that men should not be gynecologists. I don't care if you have a medical degree, but unless you have a vagina then you don't know how one works. Wednesday night I had to go to the ER because I had ruptured cysts on my ovaries and the doctor that was assigned to me was a man. He gave me two Tylenol (no joke) for the pain. He really thought that was going to do it for me.

TWO TYLENOL?!!?!?! :eek:
I would have thrown the tylenol at him and then kicked him in the balls to see if tylenol would help him with THAT pain.

men just dont get it.

i hope you are recovering well from your ER visit....

[ADPiZXalum]

Originally posted by christiangirl
And hey, we have bad campus doctors like that, they'll try so hard to tell you you have an STD. I came in for a headache and he really asked me, "When was the last time you had sex?" I'm thinking, what on earth does that have to do with a headache, but I just politely said, "Never, I'm a virgin." He just put down his pen, folded his hands, and shot me a look over his glasses. :mad: TALK ABOUT OFFENDED, I yelled, "Well, I am!" and he sighed all big and said, "Well, okay then..."

It is rumored that at the "Quack Shack" (the medical center on Baylor's campus) that they have even given a guy a pregnancy test. :D They think everyone is having sex and going to hell! Neither of those beliefs are true. Thankfully, when I had a sinus infection, they just gave me my Z pack and sent me on my way. :)

[tunatartare]

Originally posted by MoonStar17
TWO TYLENOL?!!?!?! :eek:
I would have thrown the tylenol at him and then kicked him in the balls to see if tylenol would help him with THAT pain.

men just dont get it.

i hope you are recovering well from your ER visit....
That actually was exactly what I wanted to do with that Tylenol. Thank G-D the nurse taking care of me was a woman....
I'm feeling a lil better but still really sick. Going to my gyno after work today.

[33girl]

Originally posted by KLPDaisy
Bumping this because there was an article about this in this month's Glamour. A male med student wrote a piece about how he wants to go into OB/GYN and he was discouraged by other men from doing it saying that most women wouldn't hire him. It goes on to talk about it and he says that men should be gynecologists.

My friend and I had this talk over th e weekend and she and I both agree that men should not be gynecologists. I don't care if you have a medical degree, but unless you have a vagina then you don't know how one works. Wednesday night I had to go to the ER because I had ruptured cysts on my ovaries and the doctor that was assigned to me was a man. He gave me two Tylenol (no joke) for the pain. He really thought that was going to do it for me.

I disagree.

That's kind of like saying anyone who hasn't given birth or been a parent shouldn't be an obstetrician.

[aephi alum]

It's all about the empathy.

As I've said earlier, I strongly prefer women doctors because I feel they have more empathy, particularly for problems that affect only women. Show me a male gynecologist who's ever had a menstrual cramp, let alone given birth. :p

However, not all women have this empathy, and not all men don't have it. Example (warning: TMI ahead): I used to have the cramps from hell (no longer - praise be to the pill! ;) ) One afternoon when I was 13, my mother picked me up from school and told me she had to run some errands before we went home. I told her that I had bad cramps and really needed to take some Advil and lie down. She said, "It's normal" and refused to take me home. Twenty minutes later I was throwing up in the middle of Macy's. :( Did I mention that my mother is a doctor? And that she specialized in pain management? :rolleyes: Yeah... I haven't forgiven her for that one.

[ilovemyglo]

Is it just me or do they always want to have in depth conversations while they are doing the exam?
Like "So, where are you working? What do you do? Oh that sounds fun! Are you dating anyone? How long?"

My gyno also sees two of my good friends and my sister in law... she is always "so how is so and so and so and so..."
Can we wait til your head is out of my crotch to talk? Please?!

[tunatartare]

Originally posted by ilovemyglo
Is it just me or do they always want to have in depth conversations while they are doing the exam?
Like "So, where are you working? What do you do? Oh that sounds fun! Are you dating anyone? How long?"

My gyno also sees two of my good friends and my sister in law... she is always "so how is so and so and so and so..."
Can we wait til your head is out of my crotch to talk? Please?!
thank G-d this has never happened to me

[MoonStar17]

Originally posted by ilovemyglo
Is it just me or do they always want to have in depth conversations while they are doing the exam?
Like "So, where are you working? What do you do? Oh that sounds fun! Are you dating anyone? How long?"

My gyno also sees two of my good friends and my sister in law... she is always "so how is so and so and so and so..."
Can we wait til your head is out of my crotch to talk? Please?!

OMG i thought i was the only one who felt like this. The nurse practioner I see works in my office building, so shes always talking to me about work things and asking me how my boyfriend is..and how things are..blah blah blah..

i get so aggitated cause I feel so exposed and its not one of my "better" moments.. so how can anyone carry a conversation?!

[christiangirl]

Originally posted by christiangirl
I'll bump this thread up on the 16th...if I don't....just know how much I loved you all...keep me in your thoughts and don't forget me...:(

I HAVE NEVER BEEN SO VIOLATED IN MY LIFE!!!! :mad: :mad: :mad:

Okay, that's an exaggeration, but it was really uncomfortable. Turns out he's the man who delivered me. So my mom kept saying, "Well, at least it's someone you know!" Okay, mom, the last time I saw him was how many years ago while I was upside down and balling my eyes out. :rolleyes: Well, the first man to check me out down there was the first man to give me an exam down there, I almost wanted to say, "It's all the same stuff, you don't need to check, really..."

His hands were really cold and when he pressed on my stomach, I couldn't help but laugh (I'm ticklish) then he jammed his fingers in and pulled the vaginal walls apart and ALL THE GIGGLES WERE SUPPRESSED. There was nay a "tee-hee" out of me, it hurt so much. After that it was over, I wasn't there for a full exam. But I didn't like it one bit. :mad:

[SDTSarah]

By the way, if anyone needs a good gyno on the south side of Atlanta (she's a GP, but she's really good), I have a really good doctor. She's very gentle and never forgets to WARM everything.

[CutiePie2000]

Originally posted by ilovemyglo
Is it just me or do they always want to have in depth conversations while they are doing the exam?
It's actually to try to distract you, or take the focus off of what is going on...it's not that they actually give a isht as to what you have to say.

[CatStarESP4]

I see only female OB/GYNs due to their prospective and that I feel comfortable seeing one. It just puts me at ease when I get that internal exam.

Last year, I was diagnosed with an ovarian teratoma on one of my ovaries. It consumed that ovary. A female gynocological surgeon performed surgery to have it removed (fortunately, it was benign). During the pre-surgical visits, she made me feel comfortable and more relaxed about the procedure.

[nikki1920]

My first OB/GYN was a man. He was THEE best. He taught me that I was my own best advocate, and if any doctor was doing anything to make me feel uncomfortable in ANY way, that I needed to tell them to STOP and end the appointment. Many of us will not do that for fear of looking stupid or silly or whatever. ALL of my GYNs will be measured against him because he was that good. He was the kind of doctor who was ALWAYS running late because he took however much time the patient needed. My midwife was the same when I had my daughter.

I don't buy the theory that men dont make good GYNs because they dont have the same equipment. Some medical professionals are just assholes by nature, but will take it down if they are CALLED on it and a formal complaint is given. They are there to serve you, not the other way around. Don't be afraid to ask for someone else, if you can.

And in regards to pain, you have to make it relative. Not just "it hurts", but be as descriptive as possible: on a scale of 1 to 10, its a 7, it feels like someone with a hot iron is stabbing my uterus (I've said these things!). I have had some rough female doctors perform my annual tests, and I let them know when it hurts or feels uncomfortable. It's YOUR body and its unique. What they do for others, may not work for you, but they won't know that until and unless you tell them. The key is to try to relax as much as possible and to keep breathing normally.

EVERY woman should see a GYN yearly after the age of 18 or when she becomes sexually active, whichever happens first. Not being sexually active is NOT a reason to avoid the GYN. If you are uncomfortable, do what we are doing here. Ask your girlfriends, talk to other women about issues specific to us and don't be embarrassed. We've all been in the stirrups, and can offer some advice to someone.

WebMD is a great source of information. Has anyone else ever had a Bartholin's Gland cyst? I had one last year and it was VERY painful.

[AlphaFrog]

I will be going back to the OB/GYN who delivered baby #2 for sure. The appt that I had my pap smear, the nurse got out all of the equipment, and I assumed the position, etc. She did my normal check down there and listened to the baby. Then she told me she was done and I asked if she was going to do the pap smear, and she said that she had already done it when she checked me. It was so painless, I didn't even realize she had done it.


I will never go back to OB/GYN who delivered baby #1. Fake nails + checking for dilation = OUCH X 100!!!!

[Benzgirl]

Three of my cousins -- all male -- are OBGYNs. I wouldn't hesitate to go to any of them, if they lived near me. Unfortunately, they all live over 1500 miles away.

[SydneyK]

Three of my cousins -- all male -- are OBGYNs. I wouldn't hesitate to go to any of them...

Wow. Really? :eek:

I would be completely uncomfortable with a family member as my OB/GYN.

[honeychile]

Wow. Really? :eek:

I would be completely uncomfortable with a family member as my OB/GYN.

Me, too! My roomie finished her OB/GYN rotation with an intern she liked, and I've been with her ever since. I learned the hard way to NEVER recommend a good doctor - now, it's almost impossible to get an appointment!

[Scandia]

I have only seen female gynecologists.

I do go to a male endocrinologist who does have to check on my chest and back for certain signs- but he wears gloves and it is SO clinical that it is as if I were being checked by a robot. I have been going to him for 12 years and do not mind it one bit.

I had an EKG done once by a very handsome technician. But a gynecologist is where I draw the line.

[ForeverRoses]

I have a female OB/GYN and wouldn't trade her for the world. If she wasn't my OB/GYN, I could see us being good friends. However, since she IS my OB/GYN, I think going out to dinner would be pushing it! (we do have a friend in common so this is not totally far fetched)

In fact at my last visit, she even told me she was going to miss seeing me since my womb is now closed for business and I will only be seeing her for my yearly appts.

My sister-in-law is a dr. but even though I love her dearly, she is not coming near me for a OB/GYN medical procedure unless it is a life-threatening emergency! (because of the comfort factor, not becuase she isn't a great doc)

[AlphaFrog]

My sister-in-law is a dr. but even though I love her dearly, she is not coming near me for a OB/GYN medical procedure unless it is a life-threatening emergency! (because of the comfort factor, not becuase she isn't a great doc)

You mean you don't want to share "down there" will all of your husband's family??:p;)

[ForeverRoses]

You mean you don't want to share "down there" will all of your husband's family??:p;)

It's actually my brother's wife, which makes it even worse!

slight hijack but, the wife of my cube-neighbor is a LD nurse at the hospital where I delivered #3. She was working the day I went in and actually REQUESTED to be my LD nurse. Luckily they had already assigned a nurse to me. Not that I don't like the wife in question, but having cocktails at the Christmas party with my LD nurse would creep me out.

[Infamous12]

I've had both a male and female GYN. (Changed due to insurance) Both are excellent in their practice and make me feel totally comfortable. I was searching for a minority dr. and everyone recommended the guy, claimed he was the absolute best in the state!

Funny tidbit of info: My current GYN (the man) asked if we'd met before because I looked familiar. I told him yes and that my mother has been one of his patients for years - but that he hasn't seen me recently. He looked a bit puzzled at first, then I went on to say: So yeah, you recognize my face from my mom, I look just like her but we first met when you delivered me. :p

[Benzgirl]

Wow. Really? :eek:

I would be completely uncomfortable with a family member as my OB/GYN.

Two of them are brothers. One delivered his brother's baby (sister-in-law was a doctor too). I guess we aren't that modest.

[SydneyK]

Two of them are brothers. One delivered his brother's baby (sister-in-law was a doctor too). I guess we aren't that modest.

This is going to sound crazy, but I think I could be (mostly) comfortable having a family member deliver a baby... but for yearly check-ups (and for that matter, for the check-ups throughout pregnancy), not so much. Having given birth twice now, I'm pretty much of the opinion that there's no room for modesty when it comes to delivery. That's just part of childbirth. But, I don't feel the same way about check-ups.

I think it must have something to do with all the hormones/adrenaline/etc... of childbirth. Or maybe it's because hubby is there during childbirth (and not check-ups). I dunno.

[AlphaFrog]

Or maybe it's because hubby is there during childbirth (and not check-ups).

I had a c-section and I could NOT have my husband there for that. I don't know why, I just wouldn't have felt comfortable with him seeing INSIDE my uterus.:p Plus, he about passed out when they drew blood at my first appointment, so I think that would have put him in shock.

[ForeverRoses]

This is going to sound crazy, but I think I could be (mostly) comfortable having a family member deliver a baby... but for yearly check-ups (and for that matter, for the check-ups throughout pregnancy), not so much. Having given birth twice now, I'm pretty much of the opinion that there's no room for modesty when it comes to delivery. That's just part of childbirth. But, I don't feel the same way about check-ups.

I think it must have something to do with all the hormones/adrenaline/etc... of childbirth. Or maybe it's because hubby is there during childbirth (and not check-ups). I dunno.

I agree that you lose all modesty during childbirth. In fact I remember them asking if a student EMT group could observe when I had #2. At the point the entire USC marching band could have been in the room and I would have been fine with it as long as they were all random people. But for some reason I would have been weirded out with family members being there.

[WVU alpha phi]

My friend's dad is an gynocologist and his mom and sisters all go to him. I absolutely can not imagine my dad doing my yearly checkup- and what if you get a positive STD test or something like that back? That would be a little awkward at the dinner table.

[Wolfman]

As a recently married man, I've been subjected to all manner of gynecological information and concerns with my wife, who goes to a mle OB/GYN. I have to admit though that I might be a bit uncomfortable going to a female urologist.

P.S. A fellow Que, a professor of OB/GYN at a midwestern medical school and a great physician, humorously goes by the monniker "Twat Doc."

[1908Revelations]

I would only see a woman gyno and for that matter also a woman therapist. Men just don't understand.
Me too!


P.S. A fellow Que, a professor of OB/GYN at a midwestern medical school and a great physician, humorously goes by the monniker "Twat Doc."
I love you Wolfman, but that name HAS GOT to GO!! :o


My GYN is a woman. My mom still goes to the one who delivered me and my brother, he's nice and all, but I wanted to go to a woman.

[fyrnymph]

My one experience with a woman was not good - I like my current (male) gyno.

[AlethiaSi]

I go to a woman now, at a clinic with only women. My last appointment was super easy and almost pleasant... as much as it could have been at least lol

I have been to a male gyn, I didn't particularly enjoy the experience.
My primary care physician was a woman, then she left the clinic and I had to go back, so I went and saw a guy doctor. No biggie really... but I am going back for my physical and I swear to god if he said don't be on your "menses" in this f*cking high pitched voice i was going to shove a tongue depressor into his eyes. lol.:p