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AlphaChiGirl
07-04-2000, 01:08 AM
I've been hearing a lot (mainly from BGLO members) about people "perping"...I understand what it is (and I have some funny stories, too!), but what happens to these people once it's known that they aren't real AKAs, etc.? Are they reprimanded by the national organization, or are they just publicly shamed? I know there's no criminal action that can be taken...but what happens?

Also, although I've never heard of it, there's got to be some form of this in GLO's...any examples?

Intriguing15DST
07-04-2000, 01:42 AM
Actually, if someone says or does something in the Name of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority Inc. (member or not) they can and have been prosicuted for fraud. As far as your typical perp, sorors talk, and right or wrong, if they are found out, the chances of them ever becoming a Delta, or a member of any other BGLO are minimal.

AXO Alum
07-04-2000, 10:43 AM
AlphaChiGirl -
Actually this happened to us on our campus. A girl had stolen some letters and other AXO stuff from her roommate and was sporting it around. We have a very small campus though, so we were able to stop her before she did any damage. Our dean of student services went with our president and alum member to get the stuff back. The girl was like seriously mental and ended up leaving school shortly thereafter. She hadn't even gone through rush or anything so it wasn't like she was rejected by us (or anyone)...she just knew it was easy to steal from her roommate. This is what worries me about ebay - what if someone buys a badge and just shows up at a sorority/fraternity function? We have a very strict policy that no one attends a function until we have a positive ID through National's or the visitor's home chapter. I suggest that others do this also (as it is not hard for someone to find out passwords or whatever from members who have quit). For instance I know the entire ritual for another NPC group. I was not in a sorority yet, and my friend was and she hated it and told me what kind of hell I would go through during initiation if I pledged XYZ group. I didn't pledge them, obviously, but I suppose if I had any interest whatsoever I could just stroll up to a chapter member of XYZ at the university and have a conversation and get in. A good rule of thumb is to always speak to a person if she is wearing your letters - if she is an alum or visitor, she needs to be recognized, if not then you need to call the dean or whomever handles greek affairs and report her.

ManndingoNUPE
07-05-2000, 09:16 AM
I am not saying that I agree or disagree with it, but some people have been known to get beat down, for perpetrating a frat or sorority.

gloriajean
07-05-2000, 01:39 PM
Originally posted by AXO Alum:
AlphaChiGirl & AXO Alum-
A girl had stolen some letters and other AXO stuff from her roommate and was sporting it around.I know that it is NOT okay to wear the badge (i.e. pin) of a group that you don't belong to. What about the actual letters, though? I've seen cases where the boyfriend wears the letters of the girlfriend's sorority, and the girl wears the boyfriend's letters. I think each individual GLO must have a differing view on non-members wearing the actual letters
(i.e. Phi Gamma Delta's can't even wear their actual letters, it has to say FIJI)

(of course the wearing of another groups letters would nonetheless depend on the context--wearing the letters while drinking & cursing like a sailor would NEVER be okay).

Would this situation of the boyfriend-girlfriend be considered "perping" as a member of that group, since guys cannot join a sorority, and everyone knows this?

ZetaAce
07-05-2000, 01:55 PM
Originally posted by gloriajean:

Would this situation of the boyfriend-girlfriend be considered "perping" as a member of that group, since guys cannot join a sorority, and everyone knows this?


Gloriajean- This wouldn't be considered 'perping' but it would just be considered flat out wrong!

There have been cases of men saying they were in a sorority, (I can think of 2 right off hand). That's crazy, IMO. But there are some crazy folx out there nowadays.

I personally don't let anyone wear my letters. If that person is not a soror (or frat) then I would rather them not wear anything that says ZPhiB. I have a laniard that says Zeta Phi Beta on my key chain, (you know, one of the ones that goes around your neck) and if I let someone borrow my keys for whatever reason I will take it off.

I will wear one of my frat brother's jackets, etc. but that's an entirely different situation.

ZetaAce

AlphaChiGirl
07-05-2000, 10:34 PM
Originally posted by gloriajean: What about the actual letters, though? I've seen cases where the boyfriend wears the letters of the girlfriend's sorority, and the girl wears the boyfriend's letters.

Would this situation of the boyfriend-girlfriend be considered "perping" as a member of that group, since guys cannot join a sorority, and everyone knows this?
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Now, I wouldn't consider perping, because I can wear say, a Kappa Alpha shirt, and I think people would just assume I was shirted, and if I was wearing a pin, that I was pinned...(not that I was perping). Do BGLOs do this?

Finer Woman10-A-91
07-06-2000, 10:24 AM
No NPHC do not "shirt" typically. (However I have heard of this happening on Non HBCU campuses) It seems to me it become more of a campus thing in this case.

The only NPHCs that I am aware of doing that is Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc. and Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity, Inc. since they actually are officially related. I would never where the letters of say a Kappa, Alpha, Iota or Omega...and its not because I don't "love them"...its a matter of respect...their letters do not belong to me.


Originally posted by AlphaChiGirl:
Now, I wouldn't consider perping, because I can wear say, a Kappa Alpha shirt, and I think people would just assume I was shirted, and if I was wearing a pin, that I was pinned...(not that I was perping). Do BGLOs do this?

SoCalGirl
07-06-2000, 02:16 PM
Some fraternities and sororities have official chapter sweethearts. They are usually allowed to wear the letters but it also designates who they are. For example Greek Letters with Sweetheart underneath.

In my sorority mothers and blood sisters are also allowed to wear letters. But I wouldn't feel right about this unless it said mom or sis underneath. I've also seen hats with dad written under the letters.

I know that Kappa Alpha Theta has strict national policies about who can and can't wear their letters. While other glos aren't as strict with letters but regulate their crests. In glos without a national policy on letters it seems to differ from campus to campus.

One thing that I find interesting is this example. (It happens on my campus so this isn't fourth hand knowledge or anything like that.)

Sorority AAA and Sorority BBB

AAA won't let their pledges wear their letters. But they are more than willing to let their sports coaches from various fraternities wear them.

BBB will let their pledges wear the letters. But normally only if their cold and forgot a jacket, or something along that line. However, BBB would never dream of letting their coaches wear the letters.

I kind of understand the reasoning behind both but it's still mind boggling that such different practices are happening on the same campus.

DELTABRAT
07-06-2000, 04:29 PM
I posted a post (redundant) in another forum regarding something similar. I once saw a mom purchase some nalia for her son at a stepshow. He liked the way a certain fraternity stepped and wanted a shirt with the letters. The boy was like 15 or 16 (old enough to be mistaken for a perpetrator vs. an admirer). I was a neo at the time...I mean I was FRESH. I politely went up to the mom and suggested that she not do that because some members of the group may "mistake" him for a member and upon finding out that he's not, go off on her son, not physically (although I have seen this) but it could be embarrassing to him and he really wouldn't understand. She obliged and nothing happened.

I think a woman wearing a man's fraternity shirt is NOT right. If the woman is in a sorority, she (most likely) will understand what his letters mean to him and not try to "sport" them. However, if my boyfriend is in BBB Fraternity and I am "chillin" (you know what I mean) at the hezee and I wanted to run to that kitchen and I slipped his sweatshirt over my head, I don't think I should get the beatdown.Additionally I probably wouldn't break out a screwdriver and remove my license plates if my cousin wanted to borrow my car although I have been thrown off by men driving cars with DST plates and I'm driving by throwing up the signs and all and I realize it's her man/daddy/brother/whatever.

Just my $19.13.

DELTABRAT
07-06-2000, 04:31 PM
Furthermore, my boyfriend wouldn't be caught DEAD in a DST sweatshirt for any reason on earth. What's this about. I understand with ZPhiB and PBS, but I don't see that happening with other fraternities/sororities. I mean I can understand a brothah lovin' a sistah and all, but that's a little overboard.

[This message has been edited by DELTABRAT (edited July 06, 2000).]

Shelacious
07-06-2000, 11:07 PM
Originally posted by Finer Woman10-A-91:

The only NPHCs that I am aware of doing that is Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc. and Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity, Inc. since they actually are officially related.

And even for me, I won't wear Frat's letters. I will sport a ZPBS shirt or hat, but I am not a Sigma, and I don't know the secrets of Sigma, so I won't sport their letters. I don't have a problem with other Frat and Sorors who do this, but that is my preference.

This goes for family too-- way before my mother became a Zeta, she tried to wear one of my hats one day out in public, and I (gently) took it off her head http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif--at that time, the letters and the sorority they represent had no meaning to her, so why should she wear them? My grandmother is Zeta Amicae, and she wears Amicae para (proudly), NOT Zeta para.

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gloriajean
07-07-2000, 01:20 PM
A few questions:
Non HBCU campuses-What does this mean/stand for?
shirted-What does shirted mean? I always thought "pinned" meant something like engaged-to-be-engaged, but I have not heard of shirted before!
Thanks! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Finer Woman10-A-91
07-07-2000, 08:41 PM
My mom wanted to use my umbrella to go to the corner store. Guess what, I went instead.
Originally posted by Shelacious:
This goes for family too-- way before my mother became a Zeta, she tried to wear one of my hats one day out in public, and I (gently) took it off her head http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif--at that time, the letters and the sorority they represent had no meaning to her, so why should she wear them? My grandmother is Zeta Amicae, and she wears Amicae para (proudly), NOT Zeta para.

[This message has been edited by Shelacious (edited July 06, 2000).]



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AlphaChiGirl
07-07-2000, 09:12 PM
Originally posted by gloriajean:
A few questions:
Non HBCU campuses-What does this mean/stand for?
shirted-What does shirted mean? I always thought "pinned" meant something like engaged-to-be-engaged, but I have not heard of shirted before!
Thanks! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Non-HBCU campus: any campus which isn't historically black. HBCUs include Florida A&M, Howard, Spelman, Morehouse, and Hampton.

Being shirted is something that occurs before a pinning takes place (but not in all situations), where the guy and girl are serious, but not to "pinning" status. I guess not all groups do this, but it has to be a unanimous decision amongst the brothers in order for it to happen.

beso
07-07-2000, 10:27 PM
"I think a woman wearing a man's fraternity shirt is NOT right. If the woman is in a sorority, she (most likely) will understand what his letters mean to him and not try to "sport" them"

I agree with DELTABRAT! My man and I are both members of LGLOs and under no circumstance would I feel right about wearing his letters or vice-versa. I didn't earn his letters and I don't know their meaning. I feel very strongly about the use of symbols and I won't even write out another organization's name in symbol form. I write out the entire spelling. I would often see females wearing fraternity letters to class and I felt this was disrespectful.

HER_STORY
07-08-2000, 12:00 AM
wow!!!!!! you checked your mom? i have often wondered about that.......i had a roomate and i remember her saying that her mom wears her para and the mom was not greek. but she did not feel comfortable asking her mom to remove the para because it was her mom and her mom had done so much for her etc.

Corbin Dallas
07-08-2000, 04:02 AM
By "wearing his letters" do you mean anything with the fraternities letters on it, or his actual letters shirt. I know I have a Jersey with LCA on it, and I wouldn't dream of giving it to anyone except a new associate, but I let my girlfriend wear my t-shirts that have LCA on them, or my hat.

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Lambda Chi Alpha
Theta Kappa Zeta Chapter
Rose-Hulman Inst. of Tech.

12dn94dst
07-08-2000, 03:50 PM
Originally posted by Corbin Dallas:
By "wearing his letters" do you mean anything with the fraternities letters on it, or his actual letters shirt.



We're talking about anything with the fraternity's letters on it

AXO Alum
07-09-2000, 09:54 AM
At our school, we could wear fraternity script shirts and hats, but nothing with the actual letters. When I say "script" I mean a shirt/hat with the organization spelled out...for instance, many of our sisters dated Pi Kappa Alpha's so they would wear shirts that said the name, but not PKA letters. We would also have mixers with other frats and soros so we would have tees made with our names on it and a design about the event. Also, we had some date-only events so we would have tees made that we could also buy for our man to wear (ex: Alpha Chi Omega's Annual Grab-A-Date party). Unless you were a little sister (they don't have these anymore) of a frat you would never wear their letters. I would have to agree that I wouldn't wear letters of a frat, but I think its okay when you have shirts made for parties and stuff.

Taykimson
07-09-2000, 11:50 AM
Now something that is quite popular but you usually see it on really small children, is a child wearing a shirt saying My mother is an AKA (or other sorority). Naturally no one thinks the child is perping http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif because of the statement on the shirt and age of the child.

I don't mean to side track this discussion but what do folks think of those shirts for children?

AlphaChiGirl, again not to side track but I want to add to your list of HBCUs. If anyone has a school to add or one you disagree with, if you don't mind please start another thread because as you can see the list is very long! Thanks!! http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

North Carolina A&T State University (my alma mater)
Tuskegee University (my husbandís alma mater)

Alabama A&M University, Alabama State University, Albany State University, Alcorn State University, Allen University, Arkansas Baptist College, Barber-Scotia College Benedict College, Bennett College, Bethune-Cookman College Bishop State Community College ,Bluefield State College, Bowie State University, Central State University, Cheyney University of Pennsylvania , Claflin College, Clark Atlanta University, Clinton Junior College, Coahoma Community College, Concordia College, Coppin State College, Delaware State University, Denmark Technical College, Dillard University, Edward Waters College, Elizabeth City State University, Fayetteville State University, Fisk University, Florida A&M University, Florida Memorial College, Fort Valley State College, Fredd State Technical College, Grambling State University, Hampton University, Harris-Stowe State College, Hinds Community College, Howard University, Huston-Tillotson College, Interdenominational Theological Center, J.F. Drake State Technical College, Jackson State University, Jarvis Christian College, Johnson C. Smith University, Kentucky State University Knoxville College, Lane College, Langston University , Lawson State Community College, LeMoyne-Owen College, Lewis College of Business Lincoln University, MO, Lincoln University(Pennsylvania), Livingstone College, Mary Holmes College, Meharry Medical College, Miles College, Mississippi Valley State University, Morehouse College , Morgan State University, Morris Brown College, Morris College, Norfolk State University, North Carolina Central University, Oakwood College, Paine College, Paul Quinn College, Philander Smith College, Prairie View A&M University, Rust College, Savannah State University, Selma University, Shaw University, Shorter College, South Carolina State University, Southern University A&M College ,
Southwestern Christian College, Spelman College, St. Augustine's College, St. Paul's College, St. Philip's College, Stillman College, Talladega College, Tennessee State University, Texas College,Texas Southern University,Tougaloo College, Trenholm State Technical College, University of Arkansas at Pine Bluff, University of Maryland Eastern Shore, University of the District of Columbia, University of the Virgin Islands, Virginia State University, Virginia Union University, Voorhees College, West Virginia State College, Wilberforce University, Wiley College, Winston-Salem State University, Xavier University of Louisiana

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Gina_lynn
07-09-2000, 07:57 PM
I know what I'm about to say is petty, but I have seen it happen so here it is..

I have seen girls who were very small in t-shirts and hats and even bibs (which just shows how young they were) that say I'm a future Delta, AKA ect. (I usually see these shirts at events where the little girl's mother is wearing a sorority shirt also)A picture was taken and forgotten. When that girl gets college age, she chooses to affiliate with another sorority and the picture resurfaces.

I've also seen little girs get harrased for wearing "letters" in a very innocent way. For example, I was in a city where the local Delta chapter had a Betty Shabazz Academy (a program that many Delta Chapters do to help steer young girls, middle school age in the right direction). The members of the Academy were harrased for wearing the greek symbols on a t-shirt that in all likelyhood was given to them by the members of the Delta chapter for participating in the program. That's a bit overboard.

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If you can't raise conciousness, at least raise hell!--Rita Mae Brown

AlphaChiGirl
07-09-2000, 10:21 PM
Originally posted by Gina_lynn:
I know what I'm about to say is petty, but I have seen it happen so here it is..

I've also seen little girs get harrased for wearing "letters" in a very innocent way. For example, I was in a city where the local Delta chapter had a Betty Shabazz Academy (a program that many Delta Chapters do to help steer young girls, middle school age in the right direction). The members of the Academy were harrased for wearing the greek symbols on a t-shirt that in all likelihood was given to them by the members of the Delta chapter for participating in the program. That's a bit overboard.


Gosh, the pettiness of some people. It's not as if the girls were trying to be Deltas...some people honestly need to get lives when it comes to this stuff. Harassing little girls your organization is BENEFITING is simply ridiculous.

Taykimson, it's quite alright--I was simply trying to give a list of schools with which most people on this board would be familiar. I'm always getting people who ask me if my school's an HBCU--getting it confused with Morris Brown College.

About the fraternity/sorority names on t-shirts publicizing the events...I always thought this was okay. Like, you didn't have to be a member of one of the groups to wear one of those.

DELTABRAT
07-10-2000, 12:26 AM
Taykimson:

Set it out girl, as far as the names of the HBCU's.

I think Alpha Chi Girl just listed some of the more "popular" ones for those that didn't know http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

Anyway, about the baby shirt thing. I don't have a problem with it. I think it is relative though. For instance if the child is REAL young (like 1-4 or 5...it's *cute*) If the child is 13 or 14...hmmm...I don't think so. Addditionally, I think it depends on the gender (this may be obvious for most) but I have a son and I don't think he will be wearing a shirt that says "My mom is a Delta." Ya know. Additionally, most of the shirts I have seen with this usually say Delta (for my Sorority). Not Delta Sigma Thete of DST or the Greek symbols. That's kind of hard to get away with in your Sorority because the symbols are the letters and vice-versa.

Does the baby shirt thing bother you at all?
I don't mean just for AKA, but for any sorority.

I think they are cute http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif if it is the "right" situation (like the one's named above.)

PEACE

Taykimson
07-10-2000, 12:44 AM
DeltaBrat & AlphaChiGirl,

I wasn't trying to "show you up" with the list of HBCUs. I thought it was pretty impressive and wanted to share. Besides I don't know if you caught the singling out of 2 HBCUs in particular http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif.

Now to the subject at hand. The My Mother is an AKA shirts are cute on little ones, the smaller the child, the cuter it is. The only reason I will not allow my daughters to wear them when they are older is so they will not have to deal with "Oh you think you have it easy because you are a legacy." Legacy is a topic for another thread http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

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HER_STORY
07-10-2000, 01:43 PM
i remember when i was a student at tuskegee, we had a lot of foreign students that did not know any thing frats and sororities or did not really have a good command of the language. anyway there was this guy that bought a sorority shirt and was wearing it. some of the members were like ok, he doesn't know better. but one member got up in his face and told him to take it off. then when he refused she was trying to coax him to cut the shield off. her sisters had to literally drag her away. she was making a complete fool of her self. is it really that deep?

Eli
07-10-2000, 01:54 PM
I think its wrong to harass people- however a the same time, the ONLY people that should wear Greek letters are members of that organization. (They must EARN the right to wear letters). Otherwise, you might as well get rid of a pledge period- ya know, we can be the type where people buy their way into a fraternity!

Easy E www.angelfire.com/va2/gammachi (http://www.angelfire.com/va2/gammachi)

blu_theatrics
07-10-2000, 09:02 PM
I know of one instance were a bruh was driving down the street and saw a homeless man with one of his orgs t-shirts on. He stop and went to talk to the man, acttually thinking he might be a bruh and wanting to help in some way, but anyhow when he found it wasn't a bruh he decided to go to the store around the corner and by the man a nice outfit. (It was the middle of the summer and he had on cut off heavy pants...obviously he was vey hot) and he gave the man the outfit and the man agreed to give him the t-shirt....sort of an even trade. i though that that was very nice. Not only did he spend time talking to this man even whenm he wasn't a bruh, but he also brough him a far better outfit than the one he had on for the t-shirt.

I mean a lesser person wouyld have went and just demanded the shirt.

Gina_lynn
07-11-2000, 02:04 AM
How do you all feel about Pan T-shirts that list every organization on them? We had an incident where the Pan wanted to get shirts made for all of the members (in White Gold and Green) and some Organization's represenitives didn't want to do it either because the letters would have been on the back of the shirt (some orgainzations have rules about that) and they would be wearing someone elses letters, and someone else would have been wearing theirs. I'm sorta torn on that one.

As far as the young man getting the man a new outfit in exchange for the t-shirt.. that's the image I have of an Omega Man!!!

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If you can't raise conciousness, at least raise hell!--Rita Mae Brown

Eli
07-11-2000, 10:24 AM
I think Pan Tshirts are okay, only if you are a Greek and a member of one of those organizations on the shirt.

Easy E www.angelfire.com/va2/gammachi (http://www.angelfire.com/va2/gammachi)

DELTABRAT
07-12-2000, 12:41 AM
Soror (Gina_lynn):

I think the Pan T-shirts are okay. We had a stepshow once and the shirts for the organizations in the show had all of the organizations represented in the shirt. If there is protocol around letters and symbols on the back of the shirt, I could see that being an issue. I could also see there being some dilemma if your organization's colors are not represented on the shirt. White, gold and green. Okay, that takes care of...(thinking http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif)...if you want to get "TECHNICAL" our colors are not REALLY represented in that. Many of the org's colors have white in them (REALLY), our doesn't, nor does KAPsi. I might trip but who knows...maybe they could only get three colors and those were MOST representative.

OO-OOP!!!

BlueReign
07-13-2000, 04:01 PM
I have really enjoyed reading the above. Even though we are off the original topic let me add my experiences. I saw a neighbor of mine wearing an Omega Psi Phi t-shirt and she said it was her man's shirt and she had stolen it from him. I told her she obviously didn't know what she was doing and she should take it off before something serious happened to her. LETTERS ARE EARNED AND IT IS AN EARNED PRIVILEGE TO WEAR THEM.

Last month my boyfriend's mother (who I hope is my future mother-in-law) took my SGRho umbrella. I was trying not to be petty but I couldn't help it. Needless to say, I went over to her house the very next day and kindly asked for my umbrella back http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

true?
07-13-2000, 07:02 PM
Would that Omega man have stopped to look at the homeless BROTHER if he wasnt wearing the colors? Would he have took him shopping if what he believed to be his source of privilege wasnt at stake?

Yall have to remember ...
as highly as you think of your groups...
there are people (and yes even black people) who have never heard of them ...
or cannot differentiate one group from the other...
Until college I didnt know there was a difference between the Reds the Pinks and the Blues... or the golds, the purples etc.
Still dont see it but
in any case
SOME PEOPLE JUST DONT KNOW
Particularly in some urban neighborhoods...
where few go to college
so stop thinking someones automatically
a perp...
and get over yourselves with that beat down stuff

ZetaAce
07-13-2000, 07:37 PM
True?- NO ONE said that he thought the man was a perp. If you read the whole story you would see that he stopped to ask the man about the shirt because he could have been his frat brother, why is that so hard to understand?

And why was it necessary to add a superficial comment about getting over ourselves? http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/rolleyes.gif

ZetaAce

true?
07-13-2000, 08:21 PM
I did not say
the Omega man accused the homeless brother of being a perp...
peep my entry one mo time...
but the thread is about what happens to perps so my point is to not automatically assume someone is, but to realize some dont know and it could be an honest misunderstanding.
Which happens more than you think...
Just as the colorless rock FUBU hard now
People should make themselves aware of what they rock
but then again people are people and some pretty colors can be so inviting

the getting over part?
its true
so whats the probelm
its a universal crime of which yes even I am sometimes guilty
people too busy biggin up themselves to consider other possibilities
so
Americans get over yourselves
hampton running rappers
get over yourselves
and yall too
but if you want to get heated
Really
Ive seen more offensive things on this site posted by your fellow greeks

Still take it as you want to

true?
07-13-2000, 08:48 PM
read my previous post in two parts...
Part one
Im questioning if the Omega man would have recognized a brother in need if that brother wasnt wearing purple and gold. Being their whole slogan of service, manhood etc.
Are some colors what it takes to see that somebody needs help?
And the sequel
think of it as an overall response to this thread
Not meaning to patronize...
all in the interest of clarity

Gina_lynn
07-13-2000, 09:45 PM
True?-

The beauty of the story about the frat and the homeless man is that ONCE HE KNEW FOR A FACT THE MAN WASN'T FRAT, HE STILL TOOK THE TIME TO CARE ABOUT THE MAN AS A HUMAN BEING. It appears that you simply want to be synical about the story for no (apparent) reason.

I also don't buy the idea that "some people just don't know". Why would you wear something across your body without knowing what it means? For all you know (If you don't know as you claim) my greek letters could really be the international symbols for people who like to get smacked in the back of the head by perfect strangers. You walk around in them, and you'll end up with a concussion. That goes for paying good money to be a walking, talking billboard for companies you don't own stock in, and wearing (or commenting on) colors you know nothing about.

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If you can't raise conciousness, at least raise hell!--Rita Mae Brown

true?
07-13-2000, 10:31 PM
My interpretation of the story: the Omega man was so set on his letters not being violated that he bought the homeless man something else to wear other than the purple and gold.

Im not saying "I dont know" is everyones excuse or is a valid excuse from everyone. But I will tell you that if you roll through where I live people will look at you and say whats that on your chest

Why would you wear something across your body without knowing what it means? People do it all the time. You've probably done it yourself. Besides my Fubu example, what about people who rock headwraps thinking theres a whole other meaning behind it when most Africans will tell you its like wearing a baseball cap.

Or calling a sista a chickenhead without thinking about what that means.

Please this list could go on and on. The point is it can happen and it does happen. Didnt alot of people mention older parents and neighbors accidentally picking stuff up? Not everyone is trying to perp

HER_STORY
07-14-2000, 07:26 AM
gina_lynn,
what the other person said was true, some people just don't know. once one of my cousins and i were talking about sororites and one of my other cousins that went to community college kept asking all these questions and i remeber asking my self how could she not know. i also had someone (a female)ask me to bring them back a frat shirt and when i asked why they replied that they likes the colors. i told them no, that they could not wear that shirt because it was disrespectful. i am saying all this to say that while some people play like they don't know, aloot of people really don't know.

HER_STORY
07-14-2000, 07:29 AM
true,

i understand what you were saying with regards to the omega incident !!

Gina_lynn
07-14-2000, 09:33 AM
My point isn't that there are people who don't know about "greekdom". No dobt there are those people, my point is that you shouldn't be willing to do something that amounts to endorsement (ie wearing t-shirts, doing calls, hand signs ect) without knowing what it means.

I think people are missing this point because we are using it in reference to something as "small" and (to some) "petty" as greekhood. But if someone were to walk down the street wearing a swastika (sp?) and said that they were wearing it because it was a "pretty design" (I liked the fraternity/sorority's colors), you wouldn't buy it. You are held accountable for the things which you choose to associate yourself with. Because of this you should know what the colors and symbols that you wear on your body mean.

In terms of a lot of questions about what my letters mean, I expect that and really rather enjoy it. It gives me a chance to brag, http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif and at least I know that that person had the good sense to ASK what something means rather than just go out and get a shirt and find out the hard way.

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equeen
07-14-2000, 11:51 AM
Originally posted by Gina_lynn:
...But if someone were to walk down the street wearing a swastika (sp?) and said that they were wearing it because it was a "pretty design" ...

I'm deviating a bit from the topic here, however it is very sad that the swastika now has such negative connotations because of the the Nazi regime. It was (and still is) used in many forms in the Hindu Indian culture to represent positive things...however, even knowing this, my own default reaction is shock, when I do see a swastika. It's a horrible example of how a symbol has become twisted to represent completely opposite of what it truly means, and the misrepresentation has so thoroughly pervaded social consciousness.

I guess the moral of the story is definitely in keeping with the point of discussion: educate yourself about the symbols you see around you, and what they mean to the symbol's originators or owners. And furthermore, don't assume that just because you see a symbol(s), you can make a blanket assumption about what/who you see associated with it.

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thatgirl
07-14-2000, 01:03 PM
But if someone were to walk down the street wearing a swastika (sp?) and said that they were wearing it because it was a "pretty design" (I liked the fraternity/sorority's colors), you wouldn't buy it. You are held accountable for the things which you choose to associate yourself with. Because of this you should know what the colors and symbols that you wear on your body mean.


Let's not pretend. First off, we KNOW some people just don't CARE what the shirt says! I know quite a few people who don't know a Greek from a Bi-State Bus. People act so haughty sometimes. If you read what true? was saying, you'd know that it DOES have some merit. As far as 'knowing what you wear on your body means', if we were heading that, then all of these clothes with Chinese symbols on them wouldn't be so popular. People wear what they like, and what something means to you may not be the same thing that it means to another person. Case in point: Erykah Badu wears a headwrap b/c she feels that it connects her with her roots. Someone else might wear one because it matches their outfit. That DOESN'T mean that they're an Erykah Badu PERP, does it? You can't assume that everyone is a PERP. Some folks don't know. As far as the situation w/the Omega and the homeless guy...my daddy always told me that Fair Exchange Ain't No Robbery. True that he may have wanted to get the shirt off the homeless guy's back, but what he did was still commendable. The bottom line is that you can't expect people to feel the way that you feel about something that they know little or nothing about. You can't TAKE the shirt off of someone's back. You don't have that right. If that was the case, then paraphrenalia shouldn't be available to the general public. And NO, I am not a perp.

Corbin Dallas
07-14-2000, 01:10 PM
One of my brothers was in Japan last summer, and he went into a pawn shop or used clothing store or something. In the shop, he saw a LCA wind jacket, and a Delta Sigma Phi Letters Jersey. He bought the jacket because he'd wanted one and it was nice and cheap. He could have bought the jersey too, come back to the states and walked around his hometown sporting it, or wreaked havok in it and Delta Sig's would have been blamed. He just left it there though. I'll bet in other countries those letters don't mean much, if anything to anyone except those who went to college in the states, and cared enough to learn what it meant.

I would assume that some Japanese person probably was in the fraternity mentioned but it didn't mean much when he got back to his homeland, or he bought the shirt here because he liked the "design" then got rid of it. Same goes for the LCA jacket.

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Rose-Hulman Inst. of Tech.

DELTABRAT
07-14-2000, 01:34 PM
I am being soooo petty here, but...where in the post did it say the man was an Omega? Perhaps I missed it. It really doesn't matter what he was...just asking.

At first I was pissed at true?'s response, but I do have to agree with some things he/she said.

There is a huge difference between people who are TRUE PERPS and family members throwing on a shirt just to go out to the garage to get something...a family member driving a car with a license plate or grabbing the keys with the keychain. PERPS are people consciously representing a frat/sorority (with nalia, calls, hand signals, etc)...and usually are knowledgable about the fact that what they are doing is WRONG. These people RUN the other way if you say "Hey, soror." Sweat if you ask them history. Not homeless people/family members. I agree that we may feel that we are "saving" certain people from embarrassment by "suggesting" they don't wear the shirt/take the umbrella. If I suggest something like this, that is usually my reasoning...NOT "You don't understand my letters...I earned them...you did not...how dare you disrespect. etc., etc.

Then again every woman in my family is a DST so we never really had to worry http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/smile.gif

My Zeta aunt wouldn't be caught dead with some other letters...you know what I mean.
PEACE

Wynna
07-14-2000, 07:55 PM
"Then again every woman in my family is a DST so we never really had to worry"

I'm sorry, I have to say that this is amazing! I am the first person in my family to go to college so you can understand why this is unheard of to me. That's wonderful!

I'm sorry for straying from the topic at hand; I just had to say that. http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/wink.gif

AlphaChiGirl
07-14-2000, 09:35 PM
Originally posted by thatgirl:
As far as 'knowing what you wear on your body means', if we were heading that, then all of these clothes with Chinese symbols on them wouldn't be so popular. People wear what they like, and what something means to you may not be the same thing that it means to another person. The bottom line is that you can't expect people to feel the way that you feel about something that they know little or nothing about. You can't TAKE the shirt off of someone's back. You don't have that right.

EXACTLY. For that matter, we don't know what the crest means on Tommy Hilfiger clothes, or what the horse means on Ralph Lauren Polo, or the sheep on Brooks Brothers, but we wear it anyway, with little care towards what those symbols mean. The same goes for people wearing Greek letters...it's a shame, but we can all be considered guilty of it in some way, shape, or form.

blu_theatrics
07-14-2000, 11:43 PM
Originally posted by DELTABRAT:
I am being soooo petty here, but...where in the post did it say the man was an Omega? Perhaps I missed it. It really doesn't matter what he was...just asking.



Thank you, I am the original poster of that story and I beleive I did not mention an organization, so I wouldn't have to go through the what this or that org stands for.
A person who posted after me said that sounds like an Omega man and it just took off from there....lol

But I beleive that the moral of that story was that for those that don't understand, educate them and then everything will probably be fine.

But I feel that that should exemplify what every man should be like and it is what many greek men are like.

Anyhow for the record the man I was talking about was an Phi Beta Sigma

Gina_lynn
07-14-2000, 11:53 PM
Originally posted by AlphaChiGirl:
EXACTLY. For that matter, we don't know what the crest means on Tommy Hilfiger clothes, or what the horse means on Ralph Lauren Polo, or the sheep on Brooks Brothers, but we wear it anyway, with little care towards what those symbols mean. The same goes for people wearing Greek letters...it's a shame, but we can all be considered guilty of it in some way, shape, or form.

You're right, I don't know what any of those things mean.. and I don't wear them!!!!! For a very short time I owned stock in the parent company of Jones of New York, and that is the only "name brand" that I care to display across my chest. Also, don't assume that because a practice is wide-spread that it is unavoidable or right (think lemming). So because we have allowed our culture to degrade to the point that you are willing to display anything that "looks cool", I'm am supposed to further add to the chaos by adding my greek letters to the "meaningless symbol but cool colors" pile? NO!!!

PS. I'm the one that incorrectly attributed the young mans actions to Omega Psi Phi, I heard Bruh, and thought Omega. Sorry http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/frown.gif

Eclipse
07-15-2000, 12:06 AM
Gina_lynn,
While I think what the Omega brother did was admirable, I think you are missing some of the reality of what True? is saying. I have distributed clothes to the homeless before and 9 times out of 10 what is on their minds as they are picking out clothes is: 1) is it clean? 2) does it fit? I have yet to hear anyone ask what the little horsie thingie is, say I don't wear X-brand because of their history of supporting certain causes etc. When you are trying to be clean/warm/dry etc. the 'design' (which is what the greek letters are going to mean to some) on the shirt is quite insignificant. The larger question in that example is, in my opinion, why did someone who obviously knew the significance of the 'design' feel it was o.k. to give it to Goodwill, a clothes closet,etc? Of course it could have been a family member of the fraternity member, but it would still seem to me that they would know.

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Discogoddess
07-15-2000, 12:24 AM
Eclipse:...And that's why Greeks need to dispose of paraphenalia according to their organization's guidelines, to avoid confusion.

True?: I'm interested to know if you have purchased clothing for homeless people, "just because." So what if the Omega MAY HAVE BEEN (he's not on the board, so we can't ask him what was on his mind) stopping to see about this man because there was a possibility he was his fraternity brother? A blessing still came out of the situation.

All: The real challenge is to all "get off our high horses" and find SOLUTIONS, not SALVES to the homelessness crisis in our country. Putting on a few clothing drives or volunteering at a shelter ain't gonna cut it any more. If anyone in the Chicago area is interested in being part of the solution, I can direct you to a number of organizations that are in the trenches.

DG

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