I'm just too embarrassed when we...(not for the sensitive)

[AKA2D '91]

I could be the only person who feels like this, but there are times when some of our "own people" just embarrass the hell out of me.

For example:

1. There is a local TV commercial (furniture) and it targets "us" :rolleyes:. Anyway, this guy is on there "saying his line", the camera is all in his mouth, teeth are jacked. It's a mess. THEN you cannot understand what he says, it's like he is speaking in "tongue". The entire commercial is a hott mess. That just makes me :mad:.

2. When there is a crime, the reporters always want to show "us" falling out all over the place hooping and hollering. :o

3. A few colleagues were out for lunch. The service was not that great. The waitress also over charged us. So, there is a discussion about this with the manager. This sista then yells out, "Yeah, you know we're known for protesting." We were like WTF? :o :o :o Some put their menus over their faces, others left the table and restaruant in utter disbelief. (Now, I can laugh about it.)

Have there been occasions where you could have just gone under the table when one of our own has said or done something?

[straightBOS]

I was a tour guide in college. And following the end of a successful year, the boss lady took all of the tour guides out for a dinner celebration. I was the only black female tour guide, and there was new black male who had recently joined the staff.

He had decided to ask a friend of his, who was white, to join us at the dinner, which was okay with everyone. Well...:mad: :mad: (look at that, didn't even finish and I am already upset..)

Anywho, as the dinner winds downs and everyone is waiting for the desert, he feels the need to inform his friend-- and basically everyone at the table that he must be getting home soon as "Black people get niggeritist after a meal and he doesn't want to fall asleep at the wheel."

:eek: :mad: Lord, Lord, Lord, it was so unexpected I didn't know what to say. I just shot him a look, cancelled my desert and took my "niggeritist" :rolleyes: :rolleyes: butt home!

[cricket]

Most nicer restaurant include a tip charge with large parties. Whenever I go to dinner with a big group of friends, one of my friends ALWAYS takes out her calculator at the table to make sure the tip calculation is right. If it's even 1 penny off, she has to complain to the manager. "We" already have a reputation for being bad tippers and I think this just makes "us" look like cheapskates

I'm sorry but to me, calculators at the dinner table are tacky:rolleyes:

I'm also embarassed when we roll up in the movie theatre half an hour late, sit in the front row, with cell phones ringing and talk through the movie.:mad:

[Honeykiss1974]

Unfortunately, yes and it happened Monday.

I volunteer with an organization where I am the only minority (which is not a problem at all, everyone is great!) until this summer. We got a volunteer for the summer who happens to be a 16 year old african american girl by the name of Traci.

Anyway, me and the program director are in the office working when Traci walks in the office. The director says, "Traci, has your dad came yet?" Traci says "My dad? Please, he's black so you know he is running on CP time". :eek: The director ask "what's CP time" and then Traci says " Colored People's time. You know how we are always running late." :eek: The director just has this WTF look :confused: on her face and I just shake me head in embarrasment. :(

I plan to talk to Miss Traci the next time I see her. :mad:

[RedefinedDiva]

AKA2D, we are from the same city, so let me guess. You are referring to the "Credit Doctor" commercial with this CLOWN that is supposed to crippled with bad credit. Then he hops off the table after he FLATLINES and his credit is approved. That is one BIG mess!

Lets' not talk about how the news always zooms in on the folk who look like chickens just tap danced on their heads or talk the ones who are 20 years overdue for ordering "Hooked on Phonics."
It's sad.

Let's not even get on how they have local rappers trying to lure the young folks into watching judge Mathis by turning the promo into a mini-concert.

The one thing that makes me CRINGE is when young Black males INSIST on referring to themselves and everyone in the continental United States as "niggas" when "other" people are clearly within earshot. Not that the use of the word is acceptable either way. Then they use it REPEATEDLY! Can I whack them on the head with a dictionary/thesaurus?!

[cleopatrajones]

I took a sociology class on race and ethnicity at school and we talked about how minorities of a particular group are always associated with one another and that's one of the reason's we become embarrasses by someone of our same group even if we may not know them. (Just food for thought). Sometimes I refuse to be embarrassed when another Black person acts out in public (but it's hard). Sometimes I give in though especally at the restaurant I work at for the summer. Lord have mercy some Black people can be very mean to the servers even when the service is good. When I see or hear the other servers talk about how they were treated or when they don't get a tip from a Black table I really want to crawl under a rock. I just know that generalizations are being made at that moment in their minds and a lot of times I can't blame them.

Another time I was on the bus at school in the morning and it was full or White people (I think I was the only Black person on). My school is predominatly White and very rich and fairly conservative. Two Black girls got on the quiet bus and started talking extremely loud about how they were going to "beat this other girl's ass". I really wanted to jump off the bus and get away from them. (I hate feeling like that) Why can't White people ever feel this embarrassment about their mannerless people?:(

[neicy81]

I won't say too much because "they" are probably reading right now but.....

when we show our azzes in public.I was coming from a sports type game room and a group of people who were clearly adults were hollering and shouting at motorcyclists and asking could they get on.One lady even got on!!She didn't even know him!

When we are on public transportation or anywhere really using more curse words than subjects and verbs.

When we have embarrasing characters/hosts/concepts on our own cable network.Cita and Hits are very disturbing.

[Steeltrap]

The scenarios that have been described are all embarrassing, but I'm not surprised at anything that I've read. If you are in an environment where there is no proper modeling and values transmission, it seems likely that you will act an azz in public.

Let's take an example of the girls. If all they see is their mom, sister, grandma, aunts, et al, squawking and talking about kicking one's butt, they might be tempted to model that.

Such behavior is, IMO, one of the unintended negatives that came out of integration and open housing laws. With housing options opened up, the stable, middle-class folks moved away from those that are less fortunate, draining some communities of people who lack couth, among other things.

[loviest95]

Well I had one of those experiences this morning..

I was at the doctor's office... my nurse and were exchaning pleasant converstation when another nurse comes into the examining room... {the latter of which is one of us}

She begins to talk about her club experience last nite.."Gurl about 30 girls wanted to fight me so I pulled out my box cutter.. and my man told them that they would have to pay him and pay me just to suck his d$#% !!!... and see that b@!#$ has been tryin to put voodoo on me but like I told her -- I know voodoo, too my family is from Louisana..."

I could not believe that she just wallked in to my examining room with that MESS:mad: :rolleyes:

Then there are those stupid questions I encounter..

I was buying baby furniture and my hubby was going to pick it up. After getting my name the salesperson {also one of us}, she asked for the name of the person that would be picking up the furniture.
Seeing that the man had the same last name as mine she asks

"Oh so your daddy is gonna pick it up?" I told her no my husband would be picking it up-- she asks me if we are really married or do we just live together?

And at the grocery store.. while buying formula I was asked where my WIC paper was or was I going to use food stamps..I told the cashier {one of us} neither.. she said "you think you too good for food stamps and WIC?" ..Well you black just like me!!

:rolleyes: :mad:
WTF

[delph998]

Originally posted by loviest95
WTFWell I had one of those experiences this morning..

I was at the doctor's office... my nurse and were exchaning pleasant converstation when another nurse comes into the examining room... {the latter of which is one of us}

She begins to talk about her club experience last nite.."Gurl about 30 girls wanted to fight me so I pulled out my boxcutter.. and my man told them that they would have to pay him and pay me just to suck his d$#% !!!... and see that b@!#$ has been tryin to put voodoo on me but like I told her -- I know voodoo too my family is from Louisana..."

I could not beleive that she just wallked in to my examining room with that MESS:mad: :rolleyes:

Then there are those stupd questions I encounter..

I was buying baby furniture and my hubby was going to pick it up. After getting my name the salesperson {also one of us}, she asked for the name of the person that would be picking up the furniture.
Seeing that the man had the same last name as mine she asks

"Oh so your daddy is gonna pick it up?" I told her no my husband would be picking it up-- she asks me if we are really married or do we just live together?

And at the grocery store.. while buying formula I was asked where my WIC paper was or was I going to use food stamps..I told the cashier {one of us} neither.. she said "you think you too good for food stamps and WIC?" ..Well you black just like me!!

:rolleyes: :mad:
WTF


WOW is all I can say right now!

[carnation]

Well, neicy, I guess I'm considered one of "them"...but I just wanted to assure cleopatrajones that whites do indeed die of embarrassment when another one acts up in public, particularly one of the "white trash" type. Likewise, I've seen Asians and Hispanics cringe when other Asians or Hispanics make fools or spectacles of themselves.

Another thing that's embarrassing is when I'm out of the South and I hear and see another Southerner acting like someone from The Dukes of Hazzard. That's how the South gets the rep we have.

One great thing about GC--I know that GCers of all races have apologized to others in posts and pms for nasty behavior from others of their race--as in, "Sorry about that, he/she isn't representative of what all of us think.":)

[Sexy Mocha]

About 2 weeks ago, my friend and I went out for drinks with a woman we met at a campaign dinner. We unknowingly walked into an Irish owned/operated/frequented bar/restaurant. As we came in the door, the music stopped, people dropped their drinks, the lights flickered.......(Ok, ok, I'm embellishing a little, but I was just trying to get you all to feel me on this one) Anyway,by the looks on everyone's faces when we walked in, it was apparent that not too many of "us" came into this bar. Well, we decided to stay and have our drinks anyway. About 15 minutes later, 2 white men (very distinguished looking) came over to our table, tried to holla, and asked if they could join us. We agreed and they sat down and bought us a round of drinks. We were really having a great time, when to my (and my friend's) horror I hear the black woman that came with us saying the 3 most embarassing things anyone could say in that type of environment:

1) "Well you know what they say...the blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice." :eek:

2) "Have any of you ever dated black girls? (black girls...I'm a grown a$$ women dawg!)...........Because you know what they say..Once you go black, you never go back!":o

3) (Her explanation to the now inquisitive white men on why once you go black, you never go back):
" Cause when we do our thang, we do it right! We make sure we smack it up, flip it, rub it down......." :mad: (Oh. no!)

My friend and I were like WTF? Is she really saying this? We were so embarassed and ashamed of her...
She was saying stupid things like that all night. I couldn't wait to get out of there and hem her loser a$$ up.

[prayerfull]

Between Sorors Loviest and Sexy Mocha, I can barely hold my composure right now...in fact..as soon as I finish typing this, I'm running to the bathroom 'cause I'm laughing so hard that I'm about to...well y'all know the rest.

What embarrasses me?....when one of "us" does a dumb a$$ thing like leaving her children in the car for 2 hours to get her hair done, causing the children to die. Plain damn ignorance.

[Steeltrap]

Originally posted by prayerfull
Between Sorors Loviest and Sexy Mocha, I can barely hold my composure right now...in fact..as soon as I finish typing this, I'm running to the bathroom 'cause I'm laughing so hard that I'm about to...well y'all know the rest.

What embarrasses me?....when one of "us" does a dumb a$$ thing like leaving her children in the car for 2 hours to get her hair done, causing the children to die. Plain damn ignorance.

Hear, hear. And what will be more embarrassing, if it happens, is that some jackleg "activist" will try to explain away the actions of that mother, err, piece of human garbage, and blame it on "she's-poor-and-black."
:mad: :rolleyes:

[AKA2D '91]

Soror ST, you know I got the idea about this topic from YOUR post regarding the lady getting her hair done, but leaving the kids in the car. :eek:

RD Diva: yeah, that's what I'm talking about and that "nurse" girlllll I HATE that commercial with a passion.

[Honeykiss1974]

[We were really having a great time, when to my (and my friend's) horror I hear the black woman that came with us saying the 3 most embarassing things anyone could say in that type of environment:

1) "Well you know what they say...the blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice." :eek:

2) "Have any of you ever dated black girls? (black girls...I'm a grown a$$ women dawg!)...........Because you know what they say..Once you go black, you never go back!":o

3) (Her explanation to the now inquisitive white men on why once you go black, you never go back):
" Cause when we do our thang, we do it right! We make sure we smack it up, flip it, rub it down......." :mad: (Oh. no!)

My friend and I were like WTF? Is she really saying this? We were so embarassed and ashamed of her...
She was saying stupid things like that all night. I couldn't wait to get out of there and hem her loser a$$ up. [/B]

WHAT!!!!!!!!!!???????????!!!!!!!!!!! :eek:

[Serenity]

I have this one co-worker who always irks me whenever a group of us go out to lunch or dinner. She always has to ask exactly what comes with each entree (not a problem) and compares that to the price of the dish ~ in front of the waiter/waitress. Like say the steak dinner is $21.95. She'll ask what it comes with (salad, bread, side items, etc.) then she'll be like: "FOR $21.95!! I'm not paying $21.95 for that little bit of food!! Hmmmm, what do I get with the salmon?" It never ends. Then no matter how the dish is prepared there is always something wrong with it. Hence, her refusing to tip because of "bad service". And the thing is she has money. She's just cheap.

I have refused to go out with the group if she goes because she reminds me of Chris Rock's character in "I'm Gonna Git You Sucka" when he goes to the chicken place and asks how much for chicken wings and acts like it's too rich for his blood, even asking for the price of ONE wing. Then he pulls a whole wad of money from his pocket. Plus, when I go out I like to enjoy myself and have a good time. The negativity spoils my appetite.

It also makes me want to run and hide when "angry black man" (my ex was one of these) goes out to eat the same night I do. You know the type that proceeds to cause a scene and demean the waiter/waitress calling him/her every bad word in the book over the smallest most insignificant thing. On top of that, nothing management does is satisfactory (paying for the meal, drinks on the house, etc.) and even you're thinking the person is clearly overreacting. Then, people start looking at you to see if it's going to turn into an all-out riot in the restaurant. Next thing you know, people start asking for doggie bags and stuff and trying to leave before it really gets out of hand.

[PINKPOWERPUFF]

What embarrassed me the most, recently?

99.9% of the 2nd Annual BET AWARDS!

[CodeBlue_R3]

Hello,

As many of you may already know I'm a multicultural female (black, amerindian, and latina=black through skin color) that is pursuing the career of a sports doctor. Now what really urkes me is the people who choose to talk to "White" patients on a professional level and talk to "Black and other minority" patients on a broken-lower level. This is a high pet peeve of mine. I believe everyone no matter who they are should be treated the same until they deserve otherwise (I'm a waitress for the summer-and I know some people can really piss you off, By the way for those who don't know there is a such thing as a "TIP" and it is green with a dead president on it. It has been a stereotype that a high percentage of "our" people won't tip more than $3 if anything. That also gets to me).

Another peeve is the fact that all our women have to be advertised as "hoochies", "models", or "dancers" why can't we have professional women-more nurses, doctors, lawyers, and anything that requires more than a high school education.

Ok-enough of that.

[shani]

About three-weeks ago I had an job interview and I was one of three black young-ladies and there were two black men. Tell me why the two men walk in with jeans, dirty white tee shirts, and a pair of timberlands. The interviewer politely told the two that there clothing was inapporiate (sp). Then they had the nerve to make a scene in the office causing the employer to call the police. Now I understand that not everyone has the luxary of having alot of clothes but I felt that what they did was completely out of line...

Awhile back while I was still in DC i had to go the Social Security office because I misplaced my card. After waiting two to three hours with all types of CRAZY people around me a black woman got in front of me and said "I need my check because I have to go by my crack"......... WTF

I know that some people GC aren't big fans of BET..but at Howard BET was one of the 8 channels of we had during the first semester. One day HITS came to Howard and asked a fellow student to show her thongs and she did on national TV.. I'm still looking for her a$$ on campus.. Just to ask her what in the hell was she thinking :confused: !!

[lovelyivy84]

If you wanna talk about US situations- how about Greekfest?

I went to Jones Beach GreekFest and was DISGUSTED by what I saw. First of all, there were maybe 5 Greeks at the event total (I was a neo, seasoned Sorors told me about it, but I guess it's one of those things you have to see for yourself to believe). Second, why come every black woman not in a BGLO there had to have her azz hanging out? Why come all these nasty ass men were out there with video cameras trying to 'catch' something? Why come MEMBERS OF BGLO's were out there DRUNK as hell in LETTERS. I was just mortified all round.

And WORST of all was all my Jamaican folks out there acting a FOOL. I turned around. walked the damn MILE back to the bus and went home!

[BLUTANG]

Originally posted by shani
Awhile back while I was still in DC i had to go the Social Security office because I misplaced my card. After waiting two to three hours with all types of CRAZY people around me a black woman got in front of me and said "I need my check because I have to go by my crack"......... WTF

lmaooooooo


i am thoroughly embarrased when "we" don't wear clothing appropriate for our body type OR appropriate for the occaision. There is a young lady that works in my building that is what the fellas would consider thick. She looks like she's either on her way to the club or in from a long night of partying EVERY DAY, i call her style of dress "loud." She comes in the office wearing tight pants, low-cut shirts, the sandals me and my girls call the "strappy h* shoes" form-fitting dresses, super-fabulous jewelry, ALWAYS with hair to match. YES, i said hair - red dress = red hair in her guide to fashion education. she walks down these halls like someone from vogue or elle is about to pop out from the elevator and offer her a modeling contract, but ol' girl is a MESS... the other people in the building shake their heads when she walks by and i've heard the bad comments... but get this. There are a few older black ladies in the office and they CONTINUALLY tell her she's cute. :confused:

[loviest95]

Originally posted by BLUTANG


lmaooooooo


i am thoroughly embarrased when "we" don't wear clothing appropriate for our body type OR appropriate for the occaision. There is a young lady that works in my building that is what the fellas would consider thick. She looks like she's either on her way to the club or in from a long night of partying EVERY DAY, i call her style of dress "loud." She comes in the office wearing tight pants, low-cut shirts, the sandals me and my girls call the "strappy h* shoes" form-fitting dresses, super-fabulous jewelry, ALWAYS with hair to match. YES, i said hair - red dress = red hair in her guide to fashion education. she walks down these halls like someone from vogue or elle is about to pop out from the elevator and offer her a modeling contract, but ol' girl is a MESS... the other people in the building shake their heads when she walks by and i've heard the bad comments... but get this. There are a few older black ladies in the office and they CONTINUALLY tell her she's cute. :confused:


Those older women are playin her for the fool!:mad:

[Monique]

Grocery Store Embaressment.....
I was in the grocery store and it was packed with white people. I'm just shopping and all of a sudden a ghetto fab woman comes in with her hair up to heaven comes in talking loud and using all kind of foul lanuage. Nigga this Nigga that. So i'm trying to walk away from her cause i am soooo embaressed. When she just busted out.*Damn where all the Nigga wenches at..working in the kitchen ..hahahahaha. Say Nigga(whiteman in his late 40's was red as hell) u know where the forty's at..My man just got out of the pen and we finna go f*%k and drank and smoke some weed.*I almost fell down becasue i was running so hard to get out of their.

Block buster
My family and I went to blockbuster for a Movie night. So we had like 5 different movies and were tryong to decide what to get. It must have been really bored because EVERYBODY was at BB. So we were in this super long line and still couldn't decided what to get. This white couple was behind us with only 1 movie so we said*Yall can go in front of us* They smiled and said thank u and walked in front of us. They must have had around 5 friends with them so everyone was walking in front of us when we heard realllyyy LOUD*Say Niggas This ain't 1965 during slaverytime:eek: Don't let them crackers buss in front of u like that. Kick They azz,Buss em in they MOFO face..Damn These crackers:eek: :confused: .Slavery been over since 1965. We is Free to do and say what we want to the white man.*:eek:

Yall..... i was sooooooooo embaressed. Yall I love Being Black and I love my black people, but at that moment I wanted to be any other race but black. i WANTED THE FLOOR TO EAT ME. I cannot express to u how that made me feel.. Especially when all the white folks sarted to laugh and say*1965 huh brother:rolleyes: * I felt so badddd:(

I HATE WITH A PASSION TO BE PUT IN THESE TYPES OF SITUTIONS:mad:

Why must some of us act like this.
My aunt saysthats simple because there are 3 types of us..African-Americans,Black folks and NiGGas...
When I asked her what is the difference, she told me to keep on living:confused:

[FeeFee]

I'm embarrassed whenever I ride the subways in NYC and our folks just feel the need to talk loud enough so that the entire train car can know their entire life stories :mad: Another thing that pisses me off to no end is when there are young black and hispanic people on the train saying "n****" this and "n****" that, not caring that there are people on the train that are not of their ethnic background (if you know what I mean) and it doesn't matter whether it's young boys or girls.
:o

[KnowledgeEternal]

- I went to the mall last weekend with a female friend of mine. When we were leaving, a car full of young(younger would probably be more accurate) black guys pulled in front of us BLASTING their music. The problem wasn't the volume(well..not entirely). The problem was that the song they were playing was literally filled with swears. I'm driving behind these kids and every other word is f-this and nigga that. I'm looking left and right at these white/black/asian mothers and fathers looking in disgust/rolling up their windows/peeling in the opposite direction. I was embarassed to be the car behind them. Whenever people looked over they saw both of our cars and I know they lumped me in with whatever preconceived notion they had about those kids.


- I went to a private elementary school and I was one of TWO black kids in the entire school. (Grades 1-8) Why did the one other black kid have to go ahead and start stealing things out of peoples bookbags AND bring a knife to school? Needless to say he was expelled. You can imagine how it must feel to be the only black kid in an all white school in an all white town after the last black kid was kicked out for stealing stuff and bringing a weapon. Not fun.

[Honeykiss1974]

Originally posted by Monique
Grocery Store Embaressment.....
I was in the grocery store and it was packed with white people. I'm just shopping and all of a sudden a ghetto fab woman comes in with her hair up to heaven comes in talking loud and using all kind of foul lanuage. Nigga this Nigga that. So i'm trying to walk away from her cause i am soooo embaressed. When she just busted out.*Damn where all the Nigga wenches at..working in the kitchen ..hahahahaha. Say Nigga(whiteman in his late 40's was red as hell) u know where the forty's at..My man just got out of the pen and we finna go f*%k and drank and smoke some weed.*I almost fell down becasue i was running so hard to get out of their.

Block buster
My family and I went to blockbuster for a Movie night. So we had like 5 different movies and were tryong to decide what to get. It must have been really bored because EVERYBODY was at BB. So we were in this super long line and still couldn't decided what to get. This white couple was behind us with only 1 movie so we said*Yall can go in front of us* They smiled and said thank u and walked in front of us. They must have had around 5 friends with them so everyone was walking in front of us when we heard realllyyy LOUD*Say Niggas This ain't 1965 during slaverytime:eek: Don't let them crackers buss in front of u like that. Kick They azz,Buss em in they MOFO face..Damn These crackers:eek: :confused: .Slavery been over since 1965. We is Free to do and say what we want to the white man.*:eek:

Yall..... i was sooooooooo embaressed. Yall I love Being Black and I love my black people, but at that moment I wanted to be any other race but black. i WANTED THE FLOOR TO EAT ME. I cannot express to u how that made me feel.. Especially when all the white folks sarted to laugh and say*1965 huh brother:rolleyes: * I felt so badddd:(

I HATE WITH A PASSION TO BE PUT IN THESE TYPES OF SITUTIONS:mad:

Why must some of us act like this.
My aunt saysthats simple because there are 3 types of us..African-Americans,Black folks and NiGGas...
When I asked her what is the difference, she told me to keep on living:confused:

I am http://www.click-smilie.de/sammlung/fragend/fragend002.gif and http://www.click-smilie.de/sammlung/sauer/sauer055.gif at both of those scenarios !!! OMGoodness !!!!

[AKA2D '91]

Originally posted by Monique
Grocery Store Embaressment.....
I was in the grocery store and it was packed with white people. I'm just shopping and all of a sudden a ghetto fab woman comes in with her hair up to heaven comes in talking loud and using all kind of foul lanuage. Nigga this Nigga that. So i'm trying to walk away from her cause i am soooo embaressed. When she just busted out.*Damn where all the Nigga wenches at..working in the kitchen ..hahahahaha. Say Nigga(whiteman in his late 40's was red as hell) u know where the forty's at..My man just got out of the pen and we finna go f*%k and drank and smoke some weed.*I almost fell down becasue i was running so hard to get out of their.


Now this? I hope that didn't happen.

Block buster
My family and I went to blockbuster for a Movie night. So we had like 5 different movies and were tryong to decide what to get. It must have been really bored because EVERYBODY was at BB. So we were in this super long line and still couldn't decided what to get. This white couple was behind us with only 1 movie so we said*Yall can go in front of us* They smiled and said thank u and walked in front of us. They must have had around 5 friends with them so everyone was walking in front of us when we heard realllyyy LOUD*Say Niggas This ain't 1965 during slaverytime:eek: Don't let them crackers buss in front of u like that. Kick They azz,Buss em in they MOFO face..Damn These crackers:eek: :confused: .Slavery been over since 1965. We is Free to do and say what we want to the white man.*:eek:

Yall..... i was sooooooooo embaressed. Yall I love Being Black and I love my black people, but at that moment I wanted to be any other race but black. i WANTED THE FLOOR TO EAT ME. I cannot express to u how that made me feel.. Especially when all the white folks sarted to laugh and say*1965 huh brother:rolleyes: * I felt so badddd:(


My aunt saysthats simple because there are 3 types of us..African-Americans,Black folks and NiGGas...
When I asked her what is the difference, she told me to keep on living:confused:




cut my throat and call me speechless
:eek: :o

[Steeltrap]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
Soror ST, you know I got the idea about this topic from YOUR post regarding the lady getting her hair done, but leaving the kids in the car. :eek:



Glad you ran w/this idea, Soror.:)

It's just so frustrating to see behavior that we're discussing. My parents would have none of it -- they lived through segregation, Jim Crow, et al (my mom's going to be 75 this year and my dad, had he lived, would turn 80). Because they lived through that kind of garbage and created a great life for their family, I owe it to myself and them to conduct myself in a certain way.

Dignity and common sense are soo important.

On Soror Lovelyivy84's post: Why do WE, NPHC and other BGLO members, have to show out? I thought we were supposed to be a cut above, as it were.
:confused:

[Professor]

LMBAO - - -

It never fails when I walk downtown with co-workers for lunch I run into cousins - folk that I know from childhood and they greet you with "What's Up N****R." - - - N****R you got it going on. You know those type of remarks made in front of co-workers. Well of coures my co-workers look as if they will piss in their pants and later say "Is it ok for Blacks to use the "N" word. Hell, I don't know what to say myself because many of us pubicly use the word. Just listen to some new music.

[allsmiles_22]

There was a black woman that used to cause a hissy fit whenever we went out to lunch. We were the only two black females in our department and we work in a predominately white area.

Embarrassment #1: We took her out to lunch on her first day. We went to a seafood restaurant. She ordered two entrees. The first dish was “absolutely nasty…is this thing cooked….leave it to ya’ll to just combine any old mess”. The second dish, as she told the manager (he came over because a customer was dissatisfied with a entrée), "was so much better, I can't believe you make that other crap". Dessert came around and we went through the fiasco for a second time. I just looked at my manager’s face and knew she was shocked.

Embarrassment #2: We took other new hires to a Chinese restaurant, this time her food was too hot. She went on and on about how the food was so hot, she called the server over and demanded a menu to see where it stated the dish was spicy. When she didn't see the spicy sign the server was ordered to take the food back and re-cook it without the hot ingredient. She then proceeded to ask for the manager to ask him why the menu didn't state which dishes were spicy/non-spicy. I just sat there while our manager had that “what the hell is going on” look on his face.

Embarrassment #3: Again instance in which her, another coworker and I went out to lunch. The cashier was trying to verify the orders, but before she could get it out Ms. Hissy Fit gets loud with her in the busy store. She ended her tongue lashing with "see you done made me get black up in here". I wanted to leave the store so bad after we had gotten our food. I didn’t drive so I sat in embarrassment while the other customers walked by and looked at us in digust.

Three strikes she was out. So I kindly declined when there was a group outing with her included. There are ways of going about things with tact, she didn't have any and she was trying so hard to act so uppity.

[lovelyivy84]

"there's a war goin on in the black community right now and there's two sides.

There's black people and there's niggas, and niggas have got to go!

Every time black people wanna have something, ignant ass niggas fuck it up. "

What do you guys think of this statement? Of course there is a degree of truth in it, but do you think it's elitist at all?

This whole convo kinda reflects the gaps in our own society between the haves and have-nots. Middle class morality vs. a ghetto mentality.

And the gap only widens every year.

[Steeltrap]

Originally posted by lovelyivy84
"there's a war goin on in the black community right now and there's two sides.

There's black people and there's niggas, and niggas have got to go!

Every time black people wanna have something, ignant ass niggas fuck it up. "

What do you guys think of this statement? Of course there is a degree of truth in it, but do you think it's elitist at all?

This whole convo kinda reflects the gaps in our own society between the haves and have-nots. Middle class morality vs. a ghetto mentality.

And the gap only widens every year.

Chris Rock is on point. There is a gap in our society and I'm glad to see that we're acknowledging it, rather than glossing it over.

Putting it in blunt terms, we've had less than 50 years of civil rights (I date it back to Rosa Parks and the bus boycott).

How does one expect that around 50 years of civil rights could possibly undo around eight, nine generations (as I think Soror LI84 said in another post) of crap, including institutional racism and all its attendant ills, particularly when you still have people that, for whatever reason, can't advance their station in life?

Remember, whole populations don't advance lockstep from poverty to affluence. Only those who are prepared do so.

[Bamboozled]

Originally posted by Professor
LMBAO - - -

It never fails when I walk downtown with co-workers for lunch I run into cousins - folk that I know from childhood and they greet you with "What's Up N****R." - - - N****R you got it going on. You know those type of remarks made in front of co-workers. Well of coures my co-workers look as if they will piss in their pants and later say "Is it ok for Blacks to use the "N" word. Hell, I don't know what to say myself because many of us pubicly use the word. Just listen to some new music.

I can TOTALLY relate to this. I have a huge fear of walking downtown with my coworkers. I am the ONLY black person in my office, so you know I always try to represent. But, it never fails. Picture it ..... we're all walking along, all have on business suits, carrying briefcases and along comes Mr. Gold tooth-permed out-full length mink coat approaching me with, "whatcho name ils?". :eek: When I try to smile politely and keep going, I then have to deal with, "F*ck you then b*tch .... you ain't all that anyways. You ain't white. Don't forget where you come from." All the while, my coworkers stand by looking mortified, ready to call the police because they now think all of our lives in danger. Different versions of this scenario have happened to me quite a few times while I'm out with coworkers.

For that matter, I'm thoroughly embarrassed anytime the FedEx/UPS/copier fixer/lightbulb changer/messenger/coffee deliverer, etc.... tries to game me in my office in front of my coworkers. I know that sounds horrible, but even if the brotha was a CEO wearing an Armani suit, there is a time and place for everything. My office is NEVER the time nor the place.

Now y'all got me thinking. This is kind of a different twist on this thread, but why do SOME white people think that because you're single and black that it is there duty to "hook" you up with ANY single black man that they know. Our office manager kept telling me about this gorgeous guy that I just had to meet because we'd be perfect together. She told me, "I've never looked at a black man like that, but he's really cute." Y'all, why did she tell me to go down to a shoe store across the street during lunch to check him out. She doesn't even know that man. She only sees him through the window on her way to work. Now I'm no elitist, but damn, I do have standards. I am a professional, college educated woman. What in hades made her think that I'd have anything in common with a shoe salesman? She even asked if she could stop in and give him my phone number. Ummm no, you can't.

This has happened to me several times. I guess it's becuase they know so few black people that they figure we're all alike and just because we have similar skin color, we're bound to get along.
:rolleyes:

Dang, now I feel like I'm prejud"ist":). This topic has really got me thinking.....

[straightBOS]

Originally posted by lovelyivy84
"there's a war goin on in the black community right now and there's two sides.

There's black people and there's niggas, and niggas have got to go!

Every time black people wanna have something, ignant ass niggas fuck it up. "

What do you guys think of this statement? Of course there is a degree of truth in it, but do you think it's elitist at all?

This whole convo kinda reflects the gaps in our own society between the haves and have-nots. Middle class morality vs. a ghetto mentality.

And the gap only widens every year.

I do not believe it is elitist, especially when the people who make these comments come from the same neighborhoods as you and have the same oppurtunities. Look closely at some of the stories- we are talking about co-workers, friends of friends, classmates-- people who are sitting at the same table as the rest of us. Except, they choose to take of their shoes and put their feet up on it. And, I do not think there is ever an excuse for improper behavior.

To me, I see people trying to take advantage of a situation or streotypes. Already, they think White people view them as hostile and ignorant. So they exploit this streotype becuase they know that the whites are less likely to confront their hostility and more likely to shake their heads in silence.

That, I believe is the spirit in which this thread and Chris Rock's comments were intended. Not that their is a caste or tier system, but instead there is gross exploitation that not only trivializes true racial discrimination and injustice but also belies the intelligence and better judgement that we were all born with.

I actually just returned from the supermarket and was going to post yet another experience. I was on line at the courtesy desk trying to get a few money orders. And, a Black guy who had just been served loudly storms from the courtesy desk yelling, "Thats why I hate white people, dammit I hate you white people because you always wanna mess black people up!"

The white woman and hispanic male in front of me lowered their eyes and shook their heads. When the hispanic male in front of me gets up there he has a problem with his card ( credit, debt, whatever..) and cannot complete his transaction, so he leaves. Now, when I get up there the white male behind the counter is pleasant with me, I get my stuff and I am out of there in no time at all. Now, what is the purpose of making a scene?

When we resort to inflammatory speech and behavior to express our disappointment we reinforce stereotypes and emabarass the hell out of everyone else- regardless of race. And frankly, I agree with Rock's statements because these people OBVIOUSLY want to cause a scene. And that is wrong.

[allsmiles_22]

Originally posted by Bamboozled
For that matter, I'm thoroughly embarrassed anytime the FedEx/UPS/copier fixer/lightbulb changer/messenger/coffee deliverer, etc.... tries to game me in my office in front of my coworkers. I know that sounds horrible, but even if the brotha was a CEO wearing an Armani suit, there is a time and place for everything. My office is NEVER the time nor the place.

Can I say Amen! My stalker is the a/c repair man who likes to make sure that it's running properly in my office. One day, this fool waited until I finished talking to my mother and a manager to ask me if there was a color copier he could use to copy some cd covers for his bootleg cd business. This man and his attempts to get at me is now the joke of my whole office. I don't find it funny.


Originally posted by Bamboozled
Now y'all got me thinking. This is kind of a different twist on this thread, but why do SOME white people think that because you're single and black that it is there duty to "hook" you up with ANY single black man that they know.

This has happened to me several times. I guess it's becuase they know so few black people that they figure we're all alike and just because we have similar skin color, we're bound to get along.


I'm SO tired of hearing , "I know this really great guy that would be perfect for you". :mad:

[DSTDiva]

I was walking through the mall with a couple of my friends and we heard a commotion. When we got to the store where the commotion was, we saw the mall security escorting two females out of a store. Come to find out, the two girls had gotten into a fist fight in the store and they knocked down three racks of clothes. They even said that one of the girls was fighting while holding her baby.:eek: :mad:

A couple of years ago, I was attending a predominately white university. One day I was sitting in math class and out of no where came a loud snore. I looked over to find out that it was one of the few other black people in the class. Yall, he was snoring so loud that I was surprised that he didn't wake himself up. Nobody sitting around him tried to wake him up. He snored through 30 minutes of class while the professor kept on teaching like he didn't hear the snoring. (I know he heard it because it was a small classroom.) I was too embarassed.

[lovelyivy84]

Originally posted by Bamboozled



For that matter, I'm thoroughly embarrassed anytime the FedEx/UPS/copier fixer/lightbulb changer/messenger/coffee deliverer, etc.... tries to game me in my office in front of my coworkers. I know that sounds horrible, but even if the brotha was a CEO wearing an Armani suit, there is a time and place for everything. My office is NEVER the time nor the place.

AMEN!!!!!!


Now y'all got me thinking. This is kind of a different twist on this thread, but why do SOME white people think that because you're single and black that it is there duty to "hook" you up with ANY single black man that they know. Our office manager kept telling me about this gorgeous guy that I just had to meet because we'd be perfect together. She told me, "I've never looked at a black man like that, but he's really cute." Y'all, why did she tell me to go down to a shoe store across the street during lunch to check him out. She doesn't even know that man. She only sees him through the window on her way to work. Now I'm no elitist, but damn, I do have standards. I am a professional, college educated woman. What in hades made her think that I'd have anything in common with a shoe salesman? She even asked if she could stop in and give him my phone number. Ummm no, you can't.

This has happened to me several times. I guess it's becuase they know so few black people that they figure we're all alike and just because we have similar skin color, we're bound to get along.
:rolleyes:



IT's not just me!

JUST because we're both black and they like both of us does not immediately follow that we will be soul mates or something, lol! I politely decline those invites.

[mccoyred]

Folx think that BLACK=GHETTO!

Originally posted by loviest95

And at the grocery store.. while buying formula I was asked where my WIC paper was or was I going to use food stamps..I told the cashier {one of us} neither.. she said "you think you too good for food stamps and WIC?" ..Well you black just like me!!

:rolleyes: :mad:
WTF

My most frustrating and embarrassing moments with 'us' come at work. Even though the corporate dress code is Business Casual, people have no idea. Only 'us' come into work with club gear, you know sheer blouses, navel rings showing, mile high hairdon'ts, spike heels, spaghetti straps, etc. I also cringe when some of us get on the elevator putting all kind of personal business in the street, talking loud and carrying on. Of course 'they' think 'we' all act like that! No wonder it took so long for 'us' to move into management in my company.

[lovele1978]

Bamboozled..... I thought it was just me too. I work in a hospital and of course who tracks me down to my office to ask me out to lunch? Not the doctors or even male nurses, no the guy who makes the lunches in the cafeteria, or the brothers in housekeeping, or patient transport. Now when I decline the offer and state that I have a man, I am all of a sudden stuck-up, WTF:rolleyes: . Sorry, even if I didn't have a man, I just don't feel right dating a guy that I ask for extra cheese on my sandwich everyday.

At my previous job, every friday was casual day. But by the way some of the black women dressed you would think that they were getting ready to slide down a pole :eek:. I'm talking fishnet stockings, mini-mini skirts, booty shorts, the works. Then have the nerve to catch an attitude when told that they will have go home to change their clothes. :rolleyes:

[FeeFee]

Originally posted by lovelyivy84
"there's a war goin on in the black community right now and there's two sides.

There's black people and there's niggas, and niggas have got to go!

Every time black people wanna have something, ignant ass niggas fuck it up. "

What do you guys think of this statement? Of course there is a degree of truth in it, but do you think it's elitist at all?

This whole convo kinda reflects the gaps in our own society between the haves and have-nots. Middle class morality vs. a ghetto mentality.

And the gap only widens every year.

Chris Rock was on point when he said that. I grew up in the projects in Brooklyn, and I can tell you that I have witnessed the comparison first hand. There were (and still are) many people in my neighborhood who possessed that "project mentality" - just not caring how they kept up their surroundings. They figured that just because Public Assistance was paying the rent for some, they can just do whatever they wanted - not throwing garbage in the trash cans, urinating in the elevators, breaking the locks on the front door, etc. I am soooo glad that my mother is one of the hardworking people there and she taught me better than that. You can live in the projects without necessarily having the projects live in you.

[Wonderful1908]

I can totally relate to eating out with some people. I use to think it was an economic issue but its not. I have been out with friends who are college educated but the moment they set foot in a restaraunt its over! "How much is this, can I get no french fries extra meat (how is a potato exchangable with meat) this is nasty, when is our food coming, why do they have their food before we do?" etc. As a waitress during the summer I cannot say enough that you should tip 15% if your service was satisfactory. It is a simple formula, I would never go out to eat and not plan on tipping, its TACKY! People should consider tipping as part of the calculation when going out to dinner. Minorites period seem to not get this. One more thing to.... if one more person says to me this drink is not strong enough I'll scream!!:mad: :mad:

[cleopatrajones]

Originally posted by lovelyivy84
"there's a war goin on in the black community right now and there's two sides.

There's black people and there's niggas, and niggas have got to go!

Every time black people wanna have something, ignant ass niggas fuck it up. "

What do you guys think of this statement? Of course there is a degree of truth in it, but do you think it's elitist at all?

This whole convo kinda reflects the gaps in our own society between the haves and have-nots. Middle class morality vs. a ghetto mentality.

And the gap only widens every year.

I do think this quote is slightly elitist. Where are the "niggas"supposed to go? Maybe when Black people act out in public it is a way for them to assert themselves in a world in which they feel powerless. (Of course there could be other reasons and theories and such). All the people who have the "project mentality" have it for a reason and it may not be because they want to have it. Nobody wants to be poor, or live in a project, etc. but there are certain cultural and hisrotical forces that put us in certain situations mixed with our own actions. I think that most of the people we are talking about though are college educated people, who work at our jobs and such--I don't think they would be considered the "niggas" though. They may act out because of other reasons. I don't like the way Chris Rock is ready to cast the "undesirable people" to the side to make way for the good "civilized" people. That's how I read that statement and it definately rubs me to wrong way.

[Steeltrap]

Originally posted by cleopatrajones


I do think this quote is slightly elitist. Where are the "niggas"supposed to go? Maybe when Black people act out in public it is a way for them to assert themselves in a world in which they feel powerless. (Of course there could be other reasons and theories and such). All the people who have the "project mentality" have it for a reason and it may not be because they want to have it. Nobody wants to be poor, or live in a project, etc. but there are certain cultural and hisrotical forces that put us in certain situations mixed with our own actions. I think that most of the people we are talking about though are college educated people, who work at our jobs and such--I don't think they would be considered the "niggas" though. They may act out because of other reasons. I don't like the way Chris Rock is ready to cast the "undesirable people" to the side to make way for the good "civilized" people. That's how I read that statement and it definately rubs me to wrong way.

Here's my interpretation of Rock's statement: he's saying that we need to quit glorifying and excusing away the "project mentality." Unfortunately, too many people of ALL races believe that the only representatives of the black experience are those with that mentality. That's what I resent.

[flyygyrl1908]

Ladies, I thought that I was the only one that get's embarassed by these types of things.:)
Anyway, I am from Ohio, and we have a commercial for gold teeth!!!! Can you believe that! It's crazy. They are on a street corner in of course one of the "worst" areas that you can possibly think of, and this guy comes on in front of the camera and grits his teeth for everyone to see. I turn the channel everytime I see it!

[Steeltrap]

Originally posted by flyygyrl1908
Ladies, I thought that I was the only one that get's embarassed by these types of things.:)
Anyway, I am from Ohio, and we have a commercial for gold teeth!!!! Can you believe that! It's crazy. They are on a street corner in of course one of the "worst" areas that you can possibly think of, and this guy comes on in front of the camera and grits his teeth for everyone to see. I turn the channel everytime I see it!


:eek: :eek: :eek:

[RedefinedDiva]

Originally posted by cleopatrajones


I do think this quote is slightly elitist. Where are the "niggas"supposed to go? Maybe when Black people act out in public it is a way for them to assert themselves in a world in which they feel powerless. (Of course there could be other reasons and theories and such). All the people who have the "project mentality" have it for a reason and it may not be because they want to have it. Nobody wants to be poor, or live in a project, etc. but there are certain cultural and hisrotical forces that put us in certain situations mixed with our own actions. I think that most of the people we are talking about though are college educated people, who work at our jobs and such--I don't think they would be considered the "niggas" though. They may act out because of other reasons. I don't like the way Chris Rock is ready to cast the "undesirable people" to the side to make way for the good "civilized" people. That's how I read that statement and it definately rubs me to wrong way.

Cleopatrajones, I have to disagree with you. Not all people that act out with a "project mentality" are suffering from some unseen or overwhelming oppression. Some people are just ghetto! I also have to dispute the statement that no one wants to live in the project. I know people that love to live in the project and will take NOTHING to leave. You can offer them $3 million and they will turn it down in exchange for keeping their apartment. Some of them are ghetto as hell and know nothing more. Others know and have means to get out, but they don't. That's just how it is.

Are there "niggas" in our society? YES. Are we wrong for acknowledging such? NO. No one should be cast off because they don't meet this high standard that we set for our race. However, regardless of how much we try to ignore or deny it, everyone has the means to step up and have that stigma removed.

P.S. to flyygyrl1908, we have a commercial like that down here. The place is called "Slugs for Thugs." (down here, gold teeth are called slugs) You can get 2 slugs for $175. All these guys get the camera and show off their slugs. It is SCARY!http://www.click-smilie.de/sammlung/traurig/traurig058.gif

[korkscru]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by lovelyivy84
[B]"there's a war goin on in the black community right now and there's two sides.

There's black people and there's niggas, and niggas have got to go!

Every time black people wanna have something, ignant ass niggas fuck it up. "


This whole convo kinda reflects the gaps in our own society between the haves and have-nots. Middle class morality vs. a ghetto mentality.




Lovelyivy84, I agree with Chris Rock 1913%. In the African-American community, there ARE two sets of people: Blacks and Niggas. It's totally embarassing. I absolutely can not STAND an ignorant, loud-talking NIGGA. It's sad to say, but it's true. One of my peeves is the awards shows, yes the AWARDS SHOWS. It may sound trivial, but it's true. I hate seeing people like JaRule, Dre from Outkast, and a lot of others get up there and act, talk, and look like FOOLS. YEAH, YEAH!! WORD!!! KNOW WHAT I'M SAYIN'!!!! PEACE!!!! YA HEARD!!!! FOR REAL!!! KEEPIN' IT REAL!!! The grabbing of the crouch. The hats on in the building. The gangsta-gangsta outfits. The fifty-million gold teeth. The gang signs (you know, with the fingers). YADDA, YADDA, YADDA!!! :D :D :D I just get sick and tired of seeing that mess. Can we all atleast ACT like we have some decent and respectable home training????
:D :D :D Just by looking and listening to them, one would NEVER even THINK that they were MILLIONAIRES or even from very respectable backgrounds. IT'S A SHAME!!!

[Steeltrap]

Originally posted by korkscru
[QUOTE]Originally posted by lovelyivy84
[B]"there's a war goin on in the black community right now and there's two sides.

There's black people and there's niggas, and niggas have got to go!

Every time black people wanna have something, ignant ass niggas fuck it up. "


This whole convo kinda reflects the gaps in our own society between the haves and have-nots. Middle class morality vs. a ghetto mentality.




Lovelyivy84, I agree with Chris Rock 1913%. In the African-American community, there ARE two sets of people: Blacks and Niggas. It's totally embarassing. I absolutely can not STAND an ignorant, loud-talking NIGGA. It's sad to say, but it's true. One of my peeves is the awards shows, yes the AWARDS SHOWS. It may sound trivial, but it's true. I hate seeing people like JaRule, Dre from Outkast, and a lot of others get up there and act, talk, and look like FOOLS. YEAH, YEAH!! WORD!!! KNOW WHAT I'M SAYIN'!!!! PEACE!!!! YA HEARD!!!! FOR REAL!!! KEPPIN' IT REAL!!! The grabbing of the crouch. The hats on in the building. The gangsta-gangsta outfits. The fifty-million gold teeth. The gang signs (you know, with the fingers). YADDA, YADDA, YADDA!!! :D :D :D I just get sick and tired of seeing that mess. Can we all atleast ACT like we have some decent and respectable home training????
:D :D :D Just by looking and listening to them, one would NEVER even THINK that they were MILLIONAIRES or even from very respectable backgrounds. IT'S A SHAME!!!

Sister Greek korkscru, thank you for this post. This ill-behaviour that some of us show is disappointing and retromingent.

Many people, however, don't have good home training and just don't care.

I thank God every day that I had good home training and parents who taught me what's right. And frankly, I'm happy to be middle-class with a college degree and NOT have kids I can't take care of properly. It's called personal responsibility, people. :)

I am just so tired of those who think acting and living like a n@&&$ is something to be proud of.

[lovelyivy84]

The first time I heard that Chris Rock quote I could not have agreed more with it. And on some level I still do.

But a lot of it also seems to be subject to some sort of middle class morality- how properly you speak, clothes that are not too flamboyant, not talking too loud, don't gesture too much, etc. And some of those behaviors are related to class.

I guess I just am very leery of some sort of definition of black folks and niggas that comes down to economic standards- things you pick up in the ghetto can be survival tactics, not particularly appropriate in middle class company, but ingrained behaviors- like being cheap, lol.

[korkscru]

Originally posted by lovelyivy84
The first time I heard that Chris Rock quote I could not have agreed more with it. And on some level I still do.

But a lot of it also seems to be subject to some sort of middle class morality- how properly you speak, clothes that are not too flamboyant, not talking too loud, don't gesture too much, etc. And some of those behaviors are related to class.

I guess I just am very leery of some sort of definition of black folks and niggas that comes down to economic standards- things you pick up in the ghetto can be survival tactics, not particularly appropriate in middle class company, but ingrained behaviors- like being cheap, lol.


And I agree with you Lovelyivy84. HOWEVER, I see it like this. I'M from the ghetto (and the SOUTH at that). So, it's not like I don't know. It's all about what YOU want for yourself. It's all about the standards that you set for YOURSELF. It's all about SELF IMAGE. I don't believe that saying "You can take the person out of the ghetto, but you can't take the ghetto out of the person". THAT'S BOGUS!!! Heck, we've STILL got people in this world who EXPECT all Black people to act, look, and talk like plum idiots. What good does it do for Blacks to play into this warped type of thinking? My question is what are they trying to prove? Who are they trying to impress or intimidate? What's the reason for this mess? I just don't get it. If someone could VALIDATE that kind of behavior, then maybe I'd be more inclined to understand it. I can understand the survival tactic reasoning. But this behavior CONTINUES even AFTER some have obtained wealth, education, and fame. I mean, many of them HAVETO know that much of their behaviors are just not APPROPRIATE in ANY community be it African-American, Caucasian, Chinese, or whatever. I just can't see the reasoning behind it. How long are people going to use their disadvantaged, dsyfunctional backgrounds as EXCUSES for straight NIGGA BEHAVIOR???? It just makes NO sense to me.

[HyperBeauty]

Okay, here's my two cents.


First of all, a few months ago, a store for getting gold teeth opened up in the mall I work in. I was walking past it, and my jaw dropped. Right then, an older white woman said to me, 'What were they thinking? That's disgusting!' I told her that I had no idea. But at the same time I wanted to ask her 'Who is 'they'?

Another incident was today when I was watching the local news. Sometimes school children visit the station and the station crew films them at the end of the broadcast. Anyways, today they had some kids from a local middle school visting the station. Why is it that 3 of the kids threw up gang signs at the camera?:eek:

[korkscru]

Originally posted by HyperBeauty
Okay, here's my two cents.


First of all, a few months ago, a store for getting gold teeth opened up in the mall I work in. I was walking past it, and my jaw dropped. Right then, an older white woman said to me, 'What were they thinking? That's disgusting!' I told her that I had no idea. But at the same time I wanted to ask her 'Who is 'they'?

Another incident was today when I was watching the local news. Sometimes school children visit the station and the station crew films them at the end of the broadcast. Anyways, today they had some kids from a local middle school visting the station. Why is it that 3 of the kids threw up gang signs at the camera?:eek:


Oh my goodness, Hyperbeauty!!! :eek: That's just plain ole IGNANT!!!! Speaking of children and being embarassed, I just thought of yet ANOTHER thing that I can't STAND to see. Hows about children, whose mothers are together (meaning hair done, clothes straight, etc.), yet the children look like they are from Rowanda, Cambodia, or some place like that. I see it ALL of the time y'all. The children run around with dirty, mismatched, tatered clothing. Their heads are straight up PEEZY, noses running, faces (along with the REST of their bodies) dirty. And to top it all off, they have first-hand knowledge AND experience in being disrespectful, they call their mothers (AND grandmothers and anyone else) by their FIRST names. They cuss like sailors, and FIGHT all of the dag-gone time. The BABIES have on NOTHING except a dirty-rump diaper that needs to be changed and their hair is either NOT done or HALF done. One thing that is even MORE embarassing than this scenario is when the parents, specifically the MOTHERS, look and act the same way. Can we say complete NIGGAROSITY (and I know that there's no such word)??????? :D :D This kind of mess is just plain ole' NASTY and TOTALLY embarassing in ANY community. Yet, I've noticed it to be prevelant in the low-income African-American community.

BUT FOR THE GRACE AND MERCY OF GOD Y'ALL...!!!!! BUT FOR THE GRACE AND MERCY OF GOD...!!!!!!!!

[neicy81]

I was on BP's website(name abbreviated on purpose) and I was browsing through personal pages.I came across one page of this guy who had the bling bling thug portrayed on his page.He even had the GALL to feature his child holding a stack of money.Underneath that it said "they gotta start early". I was so disgusted I wanted to alert BP and have his page removed.

[FeeFee]

For those of you who live in NYC - did any of you catch the commercial from BQE Auto Auction? The guy they picked could not have been an actor, rather someone straight off the streets who just purchased a car from the auction. When he said "Yo, stop playing kid....." I was like WTF???? :eek: :eek: Surely they could've found someone else to do the stupid commercial :confused:

[Steeltrap]

Originally posted by korkscru
Can we say complete NIGGAROSITY (and I know that there's no such word)??????? :D :D This kind of mess is just plain ole' NASTY and TOTALLY embarassing in ANY community. Yet, I've noticed it to be prevelant in the low-income African-American community.

N*****osity.
CTFU. CTFU. CTFU.
I'm beyond entertained on this one, even though I generally avoid usage of any word that has the N connotation.
:p

[ClassyLady]

Here in Philadelphia, mass transit runs a series of trains that go to the suburbs. Most of the people who ride those trains are working, middle aged white people. There's really not that much talking going on because people are just trying to get to and from work. There aren't that many young black people riding these trains. Actually, there aren't really that many black people of any age on these trains.

Okay, so one day I was riding the train to work. These two young black girls go on, they were about twenty two or so. So, the one girl starts talking all loud about the date she had last night while her boyfriend was at work. "Girrrll, you know I had a date with Fathead last night. We went out to dinner and then back to his place. He was tryin' to hit it but I knew I couldn't because Man Man always likes to get some when he gets off in the morning. But, I knew Fathead wouldn't be tryin to take no for an answer after he just spent fifty dollars on dinner. So I told him that it was my time of the month and then, I ran in the bathroom and used my emergency tampon. Girl, that mess hurt cuz I was all dry." :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:

Please keep in mind that it was about 7:00 in the morning and me and the two females were the only black people in the car. They were so loud that everyone in the car heard the entire conversation. I just wanted to slap the taste out of their mouths.

[RedefinedDiva]

Originally posted by ClassyLady
Here in Philadelphia, mass transit runs a series of trains that go to the suburbs. Most of the people who ride those trains are working, middle aged white people. There's really not that much talking going on because people are just trying to get to and from work. There aren't that many young black people riding these trains. Actually, there aren't really that many black people of any age on these trains.

Okay, so one day I was riding the train to work. These two young black girls go on, they were about twenty two or so. So, the one girl starts talking all loud about the date she had last night while her boyfriend was at work. "Girrrll, you know I had a date with Fathead last night. We went out to dinner and then back to his place. He was tryin' to hit it but I knew I couldn't because Man Man always likes to get some when he gets off in the morning. But, I knew Fathead wouldn't be tryin to take no for an answer after he just spent fifty dollars on dinner. So I told him that it was my time of the month and then, I ran in the bathroom and used my emergency tampon. Girl, that mess hurt cuz I was all dry."

Please keep in mind that it was about 7:00 in the morning and me and the two females were the only black people in the car. They were so loud that everyone in the car heard the entire conversation. I just wanted to slap the taste out of their mouths.

:mad: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :mad:

[korkscru]

Originally posted by ClassyLady
Here in Philadelphia, mass transit runs a series of trains that go to the suburbs. Most of the people who ride those trains are working, middle aged white people. There's really not that much talking going on because people are just trying to get to and from work. There aren't that many young black people riding these trains. Actually, there aren't really that many black people of any age on these trains.

Okay, so one day I was riding the train to work. These two young black girls go on, they were about twenty two or so. So, the one girl starts talking all loud about the date she had last night while her boyfriend was at work. "Girrrll, you know I had a date with Fathead last night. We went out to dinner and then back to his place. He was tryin' to hit it but I knew I couldn't because Man Man always likes to get some when he gets off in the morning. But, I knew Fathead wouldn't be tryin to take no for an answer after he just spent fifty dollars on dinner. So I told him that it was my time of the month and then, I ran in the bathroom and used my emergency tampon. Girl, that mess hurt cuz I was all dry." :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:

Please keep in mind that it was about 7:00 in the morning and me and the two females were the only black people in the car. They were so loud that everyone in the car heard the entire conversation. I just wanted to slap the taste out of their mouths.


WTF???????? :eek: :eek:

Now see, this is just SOME of the mess that I'm talking about. This kind of stuff just makes me want to like BANISH some Black people from the face of the Earth. :mad: :mad:

[UNIQUE97]

Originally posted by PINKPOWERPUFF
What embarrassed me the most, recently?

99.9% of the 2nd Annual BET AWARDS!

I wanted to DIE...I just wanted to DIE!!!:mad: :(

[UNIQUE97]

Originally posted by ClassyLady
Here in Philadelphia, mass transit runs a series of trains that go to the suburbs. Most of the people who ride those trains are working, middle aged white people. There's really not that much talking going on because people are just trying to get to and from work. There aren't that many young black people riding these trains. Actually, there aren't really that many black people of any age on these trains.

Okay, so one day I was riding the train to work. These two young black girls go on, they were about twenty two or so. So, the one girl starts talking all loud about the date she had last night while her boyfriend was at work. "Girrrll, you know I had a date with Fathead last night. We went out to dinner and then back to his place. He was tryin' to hit it but I knew I couldn't because Man Man always likes to get some when he gets off in the morning. But, I knew Fathead wouldn't be tryin to take no for an answer after he just spent fifty dollars on dinner. So I told him that it was my time of the month and then, I ran in the bathroom and used my emergency tampon. Girl, that mess hurt cuz I was all dry." :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:

Please keep in mind that it was about 7:00 in the morning and me and the two females were the only black people in the car. They were so loud that everyone in the car heard the entire conversation. I just wanted to slap the taste out of their mouths.

OH MY!!!:eek:

[lovelyivy84]

BP! Oh somebody started on BP!

Why come some dude sent me a note, and when I clicked on his page he has a picture of himself WITH A GUN on it???

I just quietly blocked him from my list, and was happy he didn't live in my neighborhood- not such a good thing when people can find out what you look like on the net!

ANd how come every time I try to log onto the site, it directs me to BP Dating and I would really be sitting there FOREVER rating those FUGLY ASS PICTURES when I just want to see if anyone sent me a note!

And how come that BP messaging function- messages take forever to load, and you never know if the person got them. And all the CHICKENS on that site....truly disgraceful!

[AKA2D '91]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
I could be the only person who feels like this, but there are times when some of our "own people" just embarrass the hell out of me.




Those so and so's on Making the Band II
ugggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhh! :o :mad:

[Paradise359]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
Those so and so's on Making the Band II
ugggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhh! :o :mad:



Oh let's not even go there!! I had to watch the last episode w/ my head down half the time! You have the oppurtunity of a LIFETIME and you going to "da club???". What's really going on people. :mad:


But I don't think there is one black person in the States who has not wanted to be swallowed up by the gracious earth b/c of some embarassing, no class, non-self respecting "figga". I also hate it when you are standing behind said persons & everyone just assumes b/c you're all black that everyone's together. I don't assume that 10 white people in a line are related, why do we all have to be?

[Dionysus]

Bump..because of the recent fights/brawls at the games and awards. :rolleyes:

[Honeykiss1974]

Originally posted by Dionysus
Bump..because of the recent fights/brawls at the games and awards. :rolleyes:

Maybe Artest was trying to secure his "thug-ness" before his CD comes out?

[Monique]

My sista-n-law little girl was in the hospital with the flu. They asked her not to feed the baby anything solid until they can test her. Well needless to say, she feed her some greens,cornbread,chicken,yams, and rice and gravy.:rolleyes: so when the doctor and nurses(white) came in he was mad. He was like didn't we say don't feed her..She replied"We'll she was hungry and you know how us colored folks is, we go feed our chillings."
I could have died. I wanted the floor to open up and suck me in.:o

I was in the grocery store making groceries(yes MAKING:p ) and this woman and and her 2 lil girlswere fussing about some cerals. (Keep in mind it was thanksgiving holiday so u know it was packed with all kinds of people.) So she was like i'm not getting that. So the kids started to go crazy...she took of her shoe and statred to yell"I told yall lil bi***hes i wouldn't get them damn cerals. Now f**k with me if you want. I don't mind acting like a nigga in this store.

Mannnnnnnnnn i was sooooooooo ashamed i just left my grocerys and left the store...:confused:

[Dionysus]

Originally posted by Monique
My sista-n-law little girl was in the hospital with the flu. They asked her not to feed the baby anything solid until they can test her. Well needless to say, she feed her some greens,cornbread,chicken,yams, and rice and gravy.:rolleyes: so when the doctor and nurses(white) came in he was mad. He was like didn't we say don't feed her..She replied"We'll she was hungry and you know how us colored folks is, we go feed our chillings."
I could have died. I wanted the floor to open up and suck me in.:o

I was in the grocery store making groceries(yes MAKING:p ) and this woman and and her 2 lil girlswere fussing about some cerals. (Keep in mind it was thanksgiving holiday so u know it was packed with all kinds of people.) So she was like i'm not getting that. So the kids started to go crazy...she took of her shoe and statred to yell"I told yall lil bi***hes i wouldn't get them damn cerals. Now f**k with me if you want. I don't mind acting like a nigga in this store.

Mannnnnnnnnn i was sooooooooo ashamed i just left my grocerys and left the store...:confused:

CTFU :D :D :D

[TheEpitome1920]

I'm reading this book by called Authentically Black (drawing a blank on the authors name) but he talks about how we don't like to air our dirty laundry in front of white folks. Like we are supposed to not act a certain way in public for fear of reinforcing stereotypes. I wonder if other ethnic groups have this feeling. :confused:

[IvySpice]

I wonder if other ethnic groups have this feeling.

It is certainly an issue for some Jews (including myself). There is an internal debate going on within the community as to whether it is appropriate to be concerned about how we appear to the mainstream, or whether we should just go about our business and not worry about how the mainstream may interpret our actions.

I'm of the first school of thought -- plenty of ignorant people are talking/acting in the name of all Jews, and I want the world to know that they don't speak for me.
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[ljkelly]

I know this topic is so old but I had to bring it back because this was just too much!

Last year I took a public speaking class and I was the only "one of us" in the class and this football player. He was not a regular football player, they normally don't come to class, don't do any work, and that is pretty much what everyone was use to. This guy gained everyone's respect because he would come to class and actually contribute so I was proud of him UNTIL this boy (I had to call him a boy) gave a speech on how Detroit was one of the most dangerous cities in the U.S. (He is from Detroit) And he had the ignorance to be proud of that and he even said that the reason the city was so violent was because of all of the BLACK people in Detroit!!!!!!!!!!!!! I almost died right there in that class!!! Mind you, we are in one of the whitest cities in America (Springfield, MO) and he just confirmed all of the stereotypes! I still cannot look him in the eye to this day!:mad:

[CocoaCaramel]

I don't know if anyone saw the 04 BET AWARDS but there were a few comments that made me cringe. :mad:

I think the comments were made by Tisha Campbell, LisaRaye, and Nicole Ari Parker on two or three separate occasions.

"Don't let the light skin fool you"

"Y'all gone bring the dark skin out of me" :eek: WTF!?!

I don't recall the other if there was another one. But when I heard the first comment i was like...okay. When I heard another one I was really offended.

Just pray for "us".

[Exquisite5]

Oh, my I watched Strange Love for the first time today and I am just too embarrassed at his behavior!

OHMIGOD, that is all I can say, ohmigod.

[SKEEphistAKAte]

Originally posted by CocoaCaramel
I don't know if anyone saw the 04 BET AWARDS but there were a few comments that made me cringe. :mad:

I think the comments were made by Tisha Campbell, LisaRaye, and Nicole Ari Parker on two or three separate occasions.

"Don't let the light skin fool you"

"Y'all gone bring the dark skin out of me" :eek: WTF!?!

I don't recall the other if there was another one. But when I heard the first comment i was like...okay. When I heard another one I was really offended.

Just pray for "us".

I felt the same way. I was like :eek: :rolleyes: . I thoroughly detest BET.

[Rain Man]

Originally posted by Exquisite5
Oh, my I watched Strange Love for the first time today and I am just too embarrassed at his behavior!

OHMIGOD, that is all I can say, ohmigod.

Ditto what Exquisite5 said:

HC his piano ditty (Your love is so electrifying....every time I touch youuuuuuu....) is still ringing in my head 12 hours later?

Why was I so embarassed when the Italian woman sitting next to him asked him in Italian (an interpreter was with her) what his age was (his reply: 44), she said he acted like he was 13 and he said "Thank you".

Again, what Exquisite5 said.

[Gina1201]

Originally posted by Rain Man
Why was I so embarassed when the Italian woman sitting next to him asked him in Italian (an interpreter was with her) what his age was (his reply: 44), she said he acted like he was 13 and he said "Thank you".

Not to take up for Flav but I thought when he translated what she said the man who did the translation told Flav that she said he LOOKED like a 13 year old, which is why he said thank you. At either rate both he and Gitte were embarassing.

[Steeltrap]

Originally posted by Exquisite5
Oh, my I watched Strange Love for the first time today and I am just too embarrassed at his behavior!

OHMIGOD, that is all I can say, ohmigod.

Looks like a Carolina River cricket and still flashes gold teeth. I've said that any AfAm woman who complains about his "dalliance" with Gitte needs to be throttled. They can have his butt.

[Rain Man]

Originally posted by Gina1201
Not to take up for Flav but I thought when he translated what she said the man who did the translation told Flav that she said he LOOKED like a 13 year old, which is why he said thank you. At either rate both he and Gitte were embarassing.

You're probably right about the interpreter; nonetheless, it was still an embarassing moment. :o

[AKA2D '91]

Chile please. LOL

Bridget (lol) is looking like PWT nowadays. :o

I lmao when the lady said Fufi fufi acts like he's 13. The guy interpreted to Flava as if he looked like he was 13. Lawd! Flav thought it was a compliment.

Utterly embarrassing!

[Jill1228]

I wonder that too! Cause I kinda became an outcast in my family (I hesitate to use the word black sheep) :D because I had been in counseling/therapy in the past. Even though it literally saved my life it was like "you don't tell certain folx your business" (ya know what I mean by the italics)

But I do wonder about that

Originally posted by TheEpitome1920
I'm reading this book by called Authentically Black (drawing a blank on the authors name) but he talks about how we don't like to air our dirty laundry in front of white folks. Like we are supposed to not act a certain way in public for fear of reinforcing stereotypes. I wonder if other ethnic groups have this feeling. :confused:

[Covert]

On American Idol, two words..Leroy Wells.

[SKEEphistAKAte]

For those of you who missed it. Here is Leroy Wells:

http://www.leroy-wells.com/

[AKA2D '91]

LMAO. Where is Dave Chappelle? Here is some new material for him. LOL

[Steeltrap]

^^
Excellent point. He can clown Lil' STD and the newly crowned King of the Gold Teefed N****ati all at the same time.:p

[Covert]

Oh, and I saw on TV today that Mr. Wells is currently in prison for failure to show up in court. The show ran the clips of him dancing and singing and ran captions over this clip, documenting his prison history.

[NeneRx]

I was on the train in the airport and two girls were talking VERY loudly. One girl was saying that she didn't know how she got pregnant by her first baby daddy cuz she liked to drink and smoke and he was a lame and all he wanted to do was cuddle and he would mess up her high! I was so embarrassed.

[MsFoxyLoxy77]

I was at home (Miami,FL) for New Years and attended a midnight service with my sister. After the service my sister took me to Denny's, her associates from church had decided to go there. Tell me why one of the guys in our group was singing hymnals when we walked into the restaurant. After we were seated many of the others were loud and obnoxious with the waitress. To top it off a black couple was two tables down from us letting their baby play on the floor. Why did one of the girls in our group yell out call HRS. The couple looked at us like WTF, granted the child shouldn't have been on the floor but WOW did the girl have to say that...I was too embarassed.

Then another girl's fiance (whom ever knows doesn't have a job) is placing his order and asks for wangs and fry (That was not on the menu). The waitress was like what, he said wang and fry again. The girl had to step in and say the buffalo chicken strips with fries. Why was he acting like he couldn't speak functional english. Then the fiance gets up and walks off...why?...the girl explains he thinks he might know the cook and wants to go in the kitchen and ask for more food on his plate (food that he isn't paying for anyway since he doesn't have a job.)

The girl then says how she's going to get her party on in Daytona. One of the guys at the table asks how is she going to go with out the boyfriends permission. She replies he aint paying for it (remember he doesn't have a job). The guy looks at the fiance (who had come back from the kitchen) and says loudly, '"OOOOHHHH Don't hit her man, don't hit her."

I told my sister it was time to go and I know the group thought I was stuck up but they are ghetto so we're even.

[sunflower02]

Everyone was having lunch at Red Lobster ( two of "us" and five of "them") when the other one of "us" said 'Can I have the SKRIMP':eek:

[DC_Zeta1920]

Not sure if this has been posted but that dammed McDonalds commercial about the chicken select....

She kept raving about "MY Chickennnnnn"

made me want to cringe :mad:

[EchoGyrl]

Hi Ladies,

I and my entire famiy are stuck home with the flu, so I've been on GC ALLL DAY (via my bed and laptop, of course!)

Anyway - I was in mixed company at the doctor's office last week. The office is in a predominantly white neighborhood, and I was the only African-American there. On the television was the "Maury Show" with his infamous DNA results episodes. All it showed were ill behaved African-American women who were seeking out the father of their chiildren...and most of them were WRONG. One woman had been up there FOUR times and still had not found the father of her child. As an African-American women, I was SO EMBARASSED because I felt like everyone was looking at me as each result was read. They just kept shaking their heads and trying to clandestinely look my way as if they were waiting for me to pull out my cell phone and call the 800 number to request an appearance. When I told my mom, she teased me and called me pompous (pot calling the kettle...), but I couldn't ignore that. I finally got up and asked the receptionist to change the station as this was TOTALLY insulting and I found NOTHING entertaining about it. She gave me no problems and turned.

I like Maury the person (well from what I've gather from his career), but this is a complete disservice to our community and culture. I REALLY think this show should be cancelled if that's all they can come up with to entertain college students, seniors and stay-at-home moms (the demographics of those usually home during this time to watch such). I'm all for simply turning the channel when I don't wish to see something on TV, but in this instance, it's not just MY eyes that concern me. This feeds into many of the prejudices we're fighting today.

Going to take my TamiFlu...

[Alouette]

What bothers me are folks who joke around 'ethnically' around white people.

Let me try to give an example.

One of my sistafriends has this habit of going out of her way to 'be black' and joke around about 'black' things around our common white friends. Lots of "ooooh, weee girl," "Lawd have mercy," etc. And she DOESN'T talk this way to me when we're alone. She speaks regular english (like someone with an advanced degree should)! It's like it's for THEIR benefit.

I don't find it funny and find it particularly offensive when said common white friends expect ME to joke around, react and converse the same way just because I'm a 'sista' too.

Girlfriend's rationale behind acting like this is 'so they don't forget that they're dealing with black people.'

:eek:

MOST annoying....:mad:

She gets the "as a matter of fact, black people are NOT a monolith set on this earth to entertain white folks" prize.

Oh, and get well soon EG! :)

[black_princess]

To comment on what Alouette said, I had a similar, but slightly different experience just recently. Instead however, this person decided to start the bafoonery (sp) with me instead of a white person.

So, I'm calling up an out-of-state university to confirm that they recieved all parts of my grad application. It was due in 2 days. The woman (who started the phone call very prefessionally) must have picked up that she speaking to a fellow black woman because not soon after she tuns completely "Nae, Nae" on me. :rolleyes:

She starts talking extra loudly on the phone. . . using her ebonics and yelling to other people in he backgroud ( "Tasha where da mail man at. . . he come in yet ?") What topped it all off for me was when she said "Gyrl hold on fa a minute . . .I tink das da mail man right now and he might could have yo lettas and stuff" I just looked at the phone and thought what in the he** kind of office are you running. As a potential student that situation right there could have easily change my mind. This lack of professionalism could be the reason why a lot of black people are reluctant to do business with "our folks"

P:S: da mail man had it :)

[nonchalant]

It's just too much to comment on, so I will not pull quotes from the post. I am also embarassed by people who come in late to the movies talking, with cell phones on talking and/or ringing, and those that bring babies in the movies. Buckhead Backlot is probably the only theatre I can deal with. Can't stand people that don't tip, tip too little, try to comment on your generous tip, or try to take the tip from the table. Also embarrassed by those who find something to complain about everywhere they go. People that try to pronounce things they know they can't say and are loud and proud with it. Racist comments made in front of people of that race, or negative comments made about your race in front of people that make the stereotypes. The list goes on and on. Also embarrasing movies, TV shows, commercials, music, etc that degrades a race. There is a difference between comedy and degradation. There is a difference between getting your monies worth and complaining. There is a difference between educating and constructive criticism versus calling someone dumb and not giving a reason why. What is the world coming to?

[teena]

Once I was in a dining facility on a military post. A young girl who I'd met a few days earlier saw me and said hi. She asked me if I was going to get in the meal line. I said yeah. She goes on to say that there are too many white devils up in heya and that she hates white people blah blah blah. She was saying some stuff that if the shoe was on the other foot, it would have been a straight up fight. I'm talking like at least a hundred people heard her and turned around and looked at me. I was so dumbfounded as to why she would say that. I was like:eek: Seeyalata girl, Im getting in line now.

Most baffling thing was that she was biracial. She was raised by her white mother. :confused:

I hate it when 'we' say stuff like 'These white folk better get this merchandise or whatever, they know how us jiggas steal' and start laughing and raise their hand like they want a high five on that foolishness? :rolleyes:

I hate when 'we' get all Malcom X-Black Panthers over some bull-junk. I was at my young son's basketball game. My son's team was all black. The team he was playing against was mostly white. Whenever the ref made a call against our team some of 'our' parents got skrait ig-nant. "You dont want me to meet you at your car". "This is racism. Ya'll predjudiced". BTW, One of the two ref was black. I WAS NOT ready for one of 'our' parents to stand up and start yelling "We love our kids like ya'll love yours". :eek: I was like..............ummmmmm......maybe I missed something. I definately dont remember the ref yelling, Hey, you jiggas, you dont love your kids. I could do nothing but SHM because the child of that particular parent had been retained twice. Only if we could get that rowdy about some school books, life would be all good.

[glamourgirl409]

Okay I just left Wal-Mart and the lady who was working the dressing room was practically yelling across to the women's section... "Girl yea, me and my daughter went to Bingo last night. Chile I had won and she won!" then the phone rang... "Hold on girl..." and she talked quietly on the phone but as soon as she hung up... "Girl these white folks get on my nerves sometimes, I tell ya..."

But every time I go home I deal with it. I have some of the most ghetto-fied cousins in the whole entire world I swear. I am the "white-sheep" of the family. i cant even describe some of the stuff they do. Talk loud in public, get crunk with people in public etc... One of them even got into a fight with her boyfriend in public. In the parking lot of Sam's... I was too embarrassed...

[Dionysus]

I attended someone's graduaton ceremony last weekend. Some of the people in the audience and walking across the stage were so ghetto. :eek:

The people in the audience were shouting things like "YEEEEAAAAH", "OKAAAAAY", "We be clubbin'!", "Ooooh thank ya JAYSIS, my baby's graduating!", "Go ahead with your bad self!"

There were people walking across the stage dancing, lifting up their hands, posing, and a few even did flips. :o :eek: :rolleyes:

[tld221]

wow, i had 2 scenarios in 24 hours! and its only feb. 6--what does the rest of the month have in store?

1. so in one of our building meetings, where there are approximately 12 black people in the building, we we're taking a vote on something, and im sitting next to my friend (another black woman which i'm often mistaken for and vice versa). so as everyone is writing on their ballots (quietly), this black guy looks up and says something like "i almost couldnt recognize you two. you know we cant all sit together, how will they know who's who?"

which clearly as a joke, but since 1. ive heard that soooo many times already, and 2. we're 3 of the 4 black people in the room, it was definitely an awkward silence.

clearly i was pissed, moreso because he always plays the "hey im the token gay black man, so i can say whatever i want cause im a diva who tells it like it is" and sometimes its not cute.

so in response, i say, "hey jaron, remember that one time you made an ass of yourself in front of everyone?" and left it at that.


2. yesterday, the majority of staff was working on bulletin boards. one RA comes to me in front of everyone and says "what do you think of this for a bulletin board: put a bunch of black people's pictures up and a caption that says "its black people's month: appreciate!"

now im giving him a "youre an idiot" look, but i respond with, "i'll submit your query to the council of black people and we'll get back to you in 2-5 business days. is that enough time for you?"

and he's like, "im not asking for permission, i just wanna know if it's a good idea." and im like "clearly you are. as long as youre making a bulletin board every other month that says "it's white people's month: again!" do what you ya gotta do."

the problem is, my seething sarcasm is taken for amazing un-PC humor on my staff...

[dipsie10]

Noone should embarress you. You are your own individual. You represent yourself. A lot of yall are feeding into that racist BS- that "you speak/reflect everyone that happens to have your similar skin complexion"

You look at everyone as individual no?

[tld221]

Originally posted by dipsie10
Noone should embarress you. You are your own individual. You represent yourself. A lot of yall are feeding into that racist BS- that "you speak/reflect everyone that happens to have your similar skin complexion"

You look at everyone as individual no?

the sentiment goes past skin complexion. i feel similarly when someone my age acts a fool, or when another female does/says something stupid, or even when another NYU shows their @$$ and makes me out to be "another rich, spoiled NYU kid who knows too damn much"

which if you know me, im anything but.

to answer your question, yes, i do look at everyone as individual, but not everyone looks at me as individual.

[cinammonkisses]

Originally posted by Dionysus
I attended someone's graduaton ceremony last weekend. Some of the people in the audience and walking across the stage were so ghetto. :eek:

The people in the audience were shouting things like "YEEEEAAAAH", "OKAAAAAY", "We be clubbin'!", "Ooooh thank ya JAYSIS, my baby's graduating!", "Go ahead with your bad self!"

There were people walking across the stage dancing, lifting up their hands, posing, and a few even did flips. :o :eek: :rolleyes:

OMG you took it back for me. When I graduated, this was exactly how the kids acted. I didn't have to worry about my family acting an azz, but the other graduates - oh wow!

You had people walking across the stage doing the bankhead bounce, raising the roof, pimp walking across the stage. Man, I was so happy to get out of that high school, and never look back.

[IOTA-4A'88F]

I pisses me off everynight when I look at the news and the reporter talks to one of my folks and I hear either POLICES,
WORSTER or LOOKDID LIKE come out of their mouths. Dayum

[tld221]

Originally posted by cinammonkisses
OMG you took it back for me. When I graduated, this was exactly how the kids acted. I didn't have to worry about my family acting an azz, but the other graduates - oh wow!

You had people walking across the stage doing the bankhead bounce, raising the roof, pimp walking across the stage. Man, I was so happy to get out of that high school, and never look back.

lawd you wouldve thought you had went to my high school...

and :eek: to the bankhead bounce... thats a throwback!

[PerfectVerse06]

This thread reminds me of the quote that Terrance Howard's character says to Ludacris' character in Crash, "You embarrass me. You embarrass yourself."

*SMH @ this 3-6-9*

:rolleyes:

[Wonderful1908]

The two audits found that up to 900,000 of the 2.5 million applicants who received aid under FEMA's emergency cash assistance program -- which included the $2,000 debit cards given to evacuees -- were based on duplicate or invalid Social Security numbers, or false addresses and names.

I already know, that some of us did the fool with the Hurricane. Why people why? :confused:

[AKA2D '91]

It wasn't only "us". They were fraudulent as well.

[Honeykiss1974]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
It wasn't only "us". They were fraudulent as well.

No kidding. AMW *America's Most Wanted) just did a story this past Sunday aboout a couple that went around to various cities/states scamming charities, claiming to be Hurrican Katrina victims so they could get money, food, etc.

[Confucius]

.....cut each other down for no reason or jealousy. The Crabs in a Barrel syndrome, drives me nuts.

[Wonderful1908]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
It wasn't only "us". They were fraudulent as well.

Soror,
Your so right, ;) but I didn't see "them" in the Galleria in the Louis Vuitton store with the fema debit cards the next day. :mad: Why people? Why?

[Jill1228]

Ahhhh so true, so true!

It is even tougher when family members are acting a fool doing this

Originally posted by Confucius
.....cut each other down for no reason or jealousy. The Crabs in a Barrel syndrome, drives me nuts.

[dana110]

hey yall

i'm new here...

I dont know if yall have seen this cell phone commercial. It's about choices or something like that, in it this white guy on a bus tells this black woman i want you to dance for me...she automatically turns around and starts doing a booty bounce up and down on a pole on the bus...its ridiculous

Is that what people really think of black women, all we can do is shake our butts? is that dancing -(ok well sometimes)

I hate that commerical

[Confucius]

Originally posted by ClassyLady
Here in Philadelphia, mass transit runs a series of trains that go to the suburbs. Most of the people who ride those trains are working, middle aged white people. There's really not that much talking going on because people are just trying to get to and from work. There aren't that many young black people riding these trains. Actually, there aren't really that many black people of any age on these trains.

Okay, so one day I was riding the train to work. These two young black girls go on, they were about twenty two or so. So, the one girl starts talking all loud about the date she had last night while her boyfriend was at work. "Girrrll, you know I had a date with Fathead last night. We went out to dinner and then back to his place. He was tryin' to hit it but I knew I couldn't because Man Man always likes to get some when he gets off in the morning. But, I knew Fathead wouldn't be tryin to take no for an answer after he just spent fifty dollars on dinner. So I told him that it was my time of the month and then, I ran in the bathroom and used my emergency tampon. Girl, that mess hurt cuz I was all dry." :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:

Please keep in mind that it was about 7:00 in the morning and me and the two females were the only black people in the car. They were so loud that everyone in the car heard the entire conversation. I just wanted to slap the taste out of their mouths.

OMG!!!!i That takes the cake!!!! Not to mention, I take the R2 into Center City and it always our folks talking super loud on the cell phone. :eek:

[Paradise359]

Originally posted by dana110
hey yall

i'm new here...

I dont know if yall have seen this cell phone commercial. It's about choices or something like that, in it this white guy on a bus tells this black woman i want you to dance for me...she automatically turns around and starts doing a booty bounce up and down on a pole on the bus...its ridiculous

Is that what people really think of black women, all we can do is shake our butts? is that dancing -(ok well sometimes)

I hate that commerical

I have seen it & something always nags at me b/c he tells the black girl, "you, shake your junk" & she does. I'm like dayum:eek: I too don't appreciate that commercial.

[AXEAM]

What really embarrassed me was last thursday during a training I found out that 69% of AA children were born out of wedlock.:eek:

[BlueReign]

Originally posted by Paradise359
I have seen it & something always nags at me b/c he tells the black girl, "you, shake your junk" & she does. I'm like dayum:eek: I too don't appreciate that commercial.

THIS IS WHY I HATE BEYONCE and others.:mad:




I hate it when my student's names are not grammatically correct. I don't care how crazy the name is at least ASK someone how to spell it.

Don't name him Deonatae and pronounce it Deontay. Why the extra syllable in the middle???

Don't name her Laquisha and pronounce it Laquaysha?

But then why the hell did you name them those dam names in the first place????:mad: :rolleyes:

[tld221]

Originally posted by Paradise359
I have seen it & something always nags at me b/c he tells the black girl, "you, shake your junk" & she does. I'm like dayum:eek: I too don't appreciate that commercial.

WORD!!! i saw this commercial and was like what the hayle??? :eek:

[AKA2D '91]

From an email:

Lost Churches in Louisiana

One of the local television stations in South
Louisiana actually aired an interview with a black
woman from New Orleans. The interviewer was a woman
from a Boston affiliate. She asked the black woman how
such total and complete devastation of the churches in
the area had affected their
lives.

Without hesitation, the woman replied," I don't know
about all those other people, but we haven't gone to
churches in years. We get our chicken from Popeye's."


The look on the interviewer's face was priceless.



:o

[AKA2D '91]

Originally posted by Wonderful1908
Soror,
Your so right, ;) but I didn't see "them" in the Galleria in the Louis Vuitton store with the fema debit cards the next day. :mad: Why people? Why?

Yeah. Like I said before, folks were doing the same thing others have done with their student loan checks...purses, outfits, cars, paying fees to join orgs, etc. :o :o

Different events, but it's still fraud. :o

[Honeykiss1974]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
From an email:

Lost Churches in Louisiana

One of the local television stations in South
Louisiana actually aired an interview with a black
woman from New Orleans. The interviewer was a woman
from a Boston affiliate. She asked the black woman how
such total and complete devastation of the churches in
the area had affected their
lives.

Without hesitation, the woman replied," I don't know
about all those other people, but we haven't gone to
churches in years. We get our chicken from Popeye's."


The look on the interviewer's face was priceless.



:o

ROTFL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Krisco]

My dad has a convenience store that pretty much has proportionate array of races coming in the store. A 'sister' came in screaming "Ya'll ain't got no fish?? Ya'll know black folks eat fish on Fridays!" True indeed this is in the south, but it was all kinds of customers in the store. I was ashamed...

[Wonderful1908]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
From an email:

Lost Churches in Louisiana

One of the local television stations in South
Louisiana actually aired an interview with a black
woman from New Orleans. The interviewer was a woman
from a Boston affiliate. She asked the black woman how
such total and complete devastation of the churches in
the area had affected their
lives.

Without hesitation, the woman replied," I don't know
about all those other people, but we haven't gone to
churches in years. We get our chicken from Popeye's."


The look on the interviewer's face was priceless.



:o

Someone texted messaged me, that was so funny to me!!!

[chrini]

Originally posted by dana110
hey yall

i'm new here...

I dont know if yall have seen this cell phone commercial. It's about choices or something like that, in it this white guy on a bus tells this black woman i want you to dance for me...she automatically turns around and starts doing a booty bounce up and down on a pole on the bus...its ridiculous

Is that what people really think of black women, all we can do is shake our butts? is that dancing -(ok well sometimes)

I hate that commerical

Yesterday I volunteered with my group at the NBA ALL Star Jam Session. While wearing our group shirts everyone is supposed to be professional at all times. With all of the hip hop music playing it was hard to concentrate. I admit I even bopped my head. But what embarrassed me was when a group (of mostly them) came by and asked an older guy (who was one of us) a question, he broke it down doing a dance almost like Beyonce'. He had a smile stretched a mile wide. :eek: :mad: I'm sure the question had nothing to do with dancing. Then another girl went to the cabinet (which was in public view) and broke out into some kind of gyrating move from side to side when Laffy Taffy came on. :rolleyes: The guy had been there a while before I came in so no telling what else he had been doing. The girl had just got there. Within an hour or 2 she proclaimed "I'm leaving". Her shift wasn't even over. Even though we were volunteering. They were making us look bad.

[Rain Man]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91
From an email:

Lost Churches in Louisiana

One of the local television stations in South
Louisiana actually aired an interview with a black
woman from New Orleans. The interviewer was a woman
from a Boston affiliate. She asked the black woman how
such total and complete devastation of the churches in
the area had affected their
lives.

Without hesitation, the woman replied," I don't know
about all those other people, but we haven't gone to
churches in years. We get our chicken from Popeye's."

The look on the interviewer's face was priceless.

:o

REFUTED!

Grounds: Urban legend

Source: Chicken Belittle (http://www.snopes.com/katrina/humor/churches.asp)

It was at least IMHO hilarious nonetheless. ;)

[KAPPAtivating]

I work in the Education field and I am too embarrassed when somebody's mama shows up to school at 10:30 a.m., with her hair wrapped, pajamas (that don't match), no bra, house shoes, and "little Man-Man" on her hip with no shoes and a diaper!:o :mad:

[JustMyself]

Originally posted by KAPPAtivating
I work in the Education field and I am too embarrassed when somebody's mama shows up to school at 10:30 a.m., with her hair wrapped, pajamas (that don't match), no bra, house shoes, and "little Man-Man" on her hip with no shoes and a diaper!:o :mad:



ROTFLMAO. Oh Lord i'm dying. I work with Social Services and I see this everyday but to actually see it put into words is different. I needed that laugh!. This is to funny.

[AKA2D '91]

Originally posted by KAPPAtivating
I work in the Education field and I am too embarrassed when somebody's mama shows up to school at 10:30 a.m., with her hair wrapped, pajamas (that don't match), no bra, house shoes, and "little Man-Man" on her hip with no shoes and a diaper!:o :mad:

Then, they want to speak with the principal who happens to be of another race. :o
I'm glad we just got a AF AM principal. Whewwwwww!

I have one better. Within 1 week, there were separate incidences where a parent and child got in a 'knock down drag out fight' in front of the school. :eek: If the child will fight the parent, what will he or she do to administrators, teachers, or students? :confused: :( We don't stand a chance! :(

[KAPPAtivating]

See that's where you have to get the bluff in. I tell them all the time to go outside my room and look at the number on the door. I then tell them, this is not home...I RUN THIS! My kids know that I am not afraid to loose my job! I will fight a kid back! Once I had to break up a fight between two boys, and in the midst of standing between them, one drew his fist back at me. Needless to say, I temporarily lost my mind and squared up! Then he realized that I was not playing...I'll fight a kid!

[KAPPAtivating]

Originally posted by KAPPAtivating
I work in the Education field and I am too embarrassed when somebody's mama shows up to school at 10:30 a.m., with her hair wrapped, pajamas (that don't match), no bra, house shoes, and "little Man-Man" on her hip with no shoes and a diaper!:o :mad:

Then on top of that little Man-Man's nose is running and he is walking all over my office trying to touch stuff! Uh-Uh:eek:

[AKA2D '91]

Originally posted by KAPPAtivating
See that's where you have to get the bluff in. I tell them all the time to go outside my room and look at the number on the door. I then tell them, this is not home...I RUN THIS! My kids know that I am not afraid to loose my job! I will fight a kid back! Once I had to break up a fight between two boys, and in the midst of standing between them, one drew his fist back at me. Needless to say, I temporarily lost my mind and squared up! Then he realized that I was not playing...I'll fight a kid!

You and some other peeps. ;) :o

I don't have major problems with the ones I get. After their first taste of me, they swear going to the 'pen' is better than dealing with me. :D

GOOD...that means I'm doing my j-o-b!

[MsDelta797]

Originally posted by Dionysus
I attended someone's graduaton ceremony last weekend. Some of the people in the audience and walking across the stage were so ghetto. :eek:

The people in the audience were shouting things like "YEEEEAAAAH", "OKAAAAAY", "We be clubbin'!", "Ooooh thank ya JAYSIS, my baby's graduating!", "Go ahead with your bad self!"

There were people walking across the stage dancing, lifting up their hands, posing, and a few even did flips. :o :eek: :rolleyes:




What about a graduate's family with the cooking pot that you can tell came out the cabinet and the metal cooking spoon...making all sorts of noise.:eek: I didnt know the graduate but I was mortified!!!

[AKA2D '91]

Jr. Prom was Friday night. A student needed another ticket. At the last period, she decides to come to school DIRECTLY from the hair salon to make that purchase. Her conditioner was in her hair...she had a "curl" cap on her hair AND the white towel wrapped around her. :o

Um, sorry, but you cannot walk around the campus like that. She was mad when I escorted her back to the office. :o

[BabyBlue91]

I decided to get a sandwich from Blimpie's about 40 minutes ago. When I got there, there were three people on the line -- one of "us," a man, and another woman.

When the woman in front realized that the staff had taken the orders of the people behind her (because she had cut the line), she moved to the back (right in front of me, grrr) and went into a tirade about "You guys saw me standing here," blah blah blah (agreed, although I am also full-figured, she would have been very difficult to miss).

Anyway, the staff moved her sub down the line. When she got to the fixins person, she screamed at him to add more lettuce ... "Don't put on all that mayonnaise on my sandwich ... It's my mouth and I'll say what I want!"

Thankfully, she and her son decided not to eat their food there -- they paid and left. When it was my turn to pay, I commended the staff for their "handling" of the woman and added some change to the tip jar, somehing I don't normally do.

[Virtual Violet]

I'm embarrassed when we....


WEAR OUR CLOTHES TOO TIGHT FOR OUR "PLUS SIZE" BOOTIES!!!:mad:

I just saw this chick walking down the street, azz the size of 22 with all of her cellulite imprints MARKED AND JIGGILIN' through her size 14 jogging pants!!

Might I add that she had panty lines too. Of course she thought she was PHYNE!! ERRRRR, not even cute!

Disclaimer: This is not a slight to the plus size sistahs that know how to handle themselves and be classy. I'm a "booty girl" myself;)

[FeeFee]

Originally posted by MsDelta797
What about a graduate's family with the cooking pot that you can tell came out the cabinet and the metal cooking spoon...making all sorts of noise.:eek: I didnt know the graduate but I was mortified!!!

Hold up, they used the cooking pot as some sort of drumming instrument? Good Lawd!!! :eek: :eek:

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally posted by FeeFee
Hold up, they used the cooking pot as some sort of drumming instrument? Good Lawd!!! :eek: :eek:

Oh, I think everybody does this. People did it when I graduated from college and my dad said when I graduate from law school, he's bringing an air horn.

[Sahara]

(Ok, first off, I thought she was joking about the cooking pot as a drum. When I saw that she was serious, I was shocked)

I was in line in a store and a woman was further up in the line. She started looking for her daughter, and then started calling for her. She kept on yelling "Tarjhay! Tarjhay!" over and over again. I was CTFU! I just kept thinking about how we call the Target store Tarjhay!

[Sahara]

Incoherent Deposition (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ZbMntIU_v0&search=deposition) [/B]

Stuff like this.

[enigma_AKA]

Originally posted by Sahara

Incoherent Deposition (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ZbMntIU_v0&search=deposition)

Stuff like this.

:eek: :eek: Maybe she was drunk. :(

enigma_AKA

[Garifunagrl]

I went to a concert the other day (that my best friend DRAGGED me to) and Chris Brown was performing. After he performs, we go to the bathroom. While I'm waiting for her to come out, there were about 4 girls (couldn't have been older than 13), talking about "I love me some Chris Brown...I would give it to him in a hearbeat...I'd let him hit it"

I shot them a look that made them hush up so fast...

I stopped watching videos. I miss the old school stuff with dances and something worth watching. If I see another booty-shaking, grill gleamin, how many expensive cars sittin on 22's with half naked chicks dancing on them video....:mad:

[teena]

Originally posted by Sahara

Incoherent Deposition (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ZbMntIU_v0&search=deposition)

Stuff like this. [/B]
I dont know if she had mental issues or not but people around this area sound just like her. Its a country as cornflakes dialect.

[Im_just_me]

I am too embarrased when "we" come into a place of business overtly and blatently ask for a hook-up. I work at an auto repair shop where I keep the books. This man came in here and asked me what I could do to help him on his $600+ bill. I told him I could make him a copy of it and that's about it. Then he had the nerve to ask me not to fax a copy of the invoice to his company(it was for an 18-wheeler) until Thursday so they won't take it out of his check this week. Like I'm gonna screw up my job so he can have a little extra in his check...:rolleyes: I thinks NOT!!!!!

[SummerChild]

We be clubbin? LOLOLOL.
That's hilarious.

Some of these incidents are so funny, like the Churches / Church's chicken interview.

I guess I don't take responsibility for the acts of the other AAs in my vicinity so I don't really get embarrassed. I just look at them like their crazy like everybody else. I have a Secretary that sits across from the door of my office who has been talking on the telephone from the time that she gets to work until the time that she leaves since I started my job about 8 months ago. She is now even running a travel agency from her phone - mind you, I don't work at a travel agency!!! If she isn't fighting with her boyfriend, she's counseling some folk from her church or taking calls and setting up travel plans for folk. LOL. All the while I'm trying to do my job. AND SHE'S LOUD. I finally just found a good pair of earplugs after I told her I could hear her conversations several times and she kept right on talking. In fact, she has the nerve to get offended when I tell her that she is distracting.

And when the atty that she works for is out of hte office, she REALLY lets it all hang out. Whew, A Hot Mess - and yes, she's AA.

Putting my earplugs back in...
SC



Originally posted by Dionysus
I attended someone's graduaton ceremony last weekend. Some of the people in the audience and walking across the stage were so ghetto. :eek:

The people in the audience were shouting things like "YEEEEAAAAH", "OKAAAAAY", "We be clubbin'!", "Ooooh thank ya JAYSIS, my baby's graduating!", "Go ahead with your bad self!"

There were people walking across the stage dancing, lifting up their hands, posing, and a few even did flips. :o :eek: :rolleyes:

[Dionysus]

Originally posted by SummerChild
We be clubbin? LOLOLOL.
That's hilarious.



Yeah, they were kind of older. I guess they weren't with the times, lol.

[Dionysus]

OMG, I isht you all not!

There's a couple I see sometimes. I've seen them walking and and sitting on the curb. Welllllll, last week I saw them in MOTORIZED WHEELCHAIRS riding along a busy street. The woman was even on her cellphone and used those old school hand signals when she made a turn.

1. They aren't disabled
2. Hmmmm, I wonder how did they get the wheel chairs. :rolleyes:
3. What made them think it was cute to use wheelchairs as if they were cars or motorcycles?

[KSUViolet06]

From working at a daycare: When "our" 3 year old says "Shut up b*itch" and "we" laugh because "we" think it's cute.

Scenario:

Me: "Ms. Porter, we need to talk about your son's language. "
Mother: "Really?"
Me: "Yes, today when I told Marquise to clean up and get ready for snack time, he responded with "Shut up b*tch."
Mother: "Haha! For real? Tell em baby, you do what you want! Isn't he cute?"

[nikki1920]

now see.. :mad:

when he says that to her, it won't be funny. *smh*

I'd have told her no, and if he says it again, I will ask that he be removed from my class. With the quickness..:mad:

[FeeFee]

Originally posted by JocelynC
From working at a daycare: When "our" 3 year old says "Shut up b*itch" and "we" laugh because "we" think it's cute.

Scenario:

Me: "Ms. Porter, we need to talk about your son's language. "
Mother: "Really?"
Me: "Yes, today when I told Marquise to clean up and get ready for snack time, he responded with "Shut up b*tch."
Mother: "Haha! For real? Tell em baby, you do what you want! Isn't he cute?"





See, her behind would've been looking for a new daycare to put her child in. :mad: :mad:

[Rain Man]

goes to Katrina evacuee Theon Johnson:

Link to article here: "A Very Late Checkout" (http://http://www.newyorkmetro.com/news/intelligencer/17161/)

http://newyorkmetro.com/news/intelligencer/katrina060529_560.jpg

A Very Late Checkout
New York’s last Katrina evacuees prepare to depart (under duress) from the JFK Airport Holiday Inn.

This winter, FEMA put up over 300 Hurricane Katrina evacuees in New York City hotels. Almost all of them have gone back to their lives, their jobs. But not Theon Johnson. He’s currently sprawled out watching Halloween 5 on one of the two full-size beds in his room at the JFK Airport Holiday Inn. He is one of four evacuees still living in a hotel in the city.



The others left in February and March, when, after spending more than $500 million, FEMA stopped paying for hotel rooms housing some 40,000 evacuees across the country. That left many scrambling for places to live. But thanks to the city’s squatters-rights law, evacuees here were safe. Their rooms weren’t paid for, but since they’d been in them for more than 30 days, the hotels couldn’t just kick them out. Only a judge’s order could evict them.



And Johnson, 49, isn’t that motivated to leave. For one thing, AMC’s in the middle of its “Thrill Me” marathon. Next up, Gothika. “Halle Berry,” he says with lazy lust. These days he’s usually up all night—it’s hard to sleep on an empty stomach. When he has to, he’ll go outside and beg for change, but he doesn’t really like that too much. Most days he just showers and gets back in bed, showers and gets back in bed. Once a week he and another evacuee, a diabetic named Larry, walk to a church off the Van Wyck and get canned goods. When Johnson’s caseworker, Sharon, comes around, she gives him some bus passes and maybe a few bucks, but she’s getting frustrated. “They sit around on their butts watching TV. There’s only but so much I can do if they’re not willing to help themselves.”



After being flown here for free back in September, Johnson’s been at the Holiday Inn since Super Bowl Sunday. On April 21, the hotel served Johnson with three notices of occupancy termination, saying that it would begin court proceedings if he wasn’t out by May 9. He wasn’t, so it did. If the court boots him, Johnson could end up in one of the city’s homeless shelters. He’s been broke for over a month now. FEMA sent him $9,000 in housing aid, but he spent it all on booze, cigarettes, some clothes, and food—partying, mostly. “I spent my money just the way I wanted, and I think [fema] should send me some more,” he says. But it won’t. Johnson’s caseworker says FEMA offered to buy him a ticket home to New Orleans in February, but he didn’t take it. FEMA won’t now. So he’s stuck, at least until the Holiday Inn pays him to leave.



Attorneys with the Legal Aid Society have been negotiating a buyout deal for Johnson and the remaining evacuees, and expect a settlement—he heard about $1,200—imminently. He says he’ll use the money to get a room for a few nights and have some fun before flying back to his little house in New Orleans’ Third Ward. But for now, Gothika’s on. “Halle Berry,” Johnson says. “Halle . . . Berry.”

[Rain Man]

Here is a nucca story I got from another discussion board that is worthy of mention:

Girl this man is the most country niggER I have EVER come across...you can't take him ANYWHERE. First he thinks that $2 is the standard tip and gets huffy when he has to pay that...he'll run the waitperson from here to Biloxi and then not leave a tip. He had the NERVE to complain one time at O'Charleys...this is how the exchange went:

Him: Is this chicken sammich big?
Waiter: Well yessir it's a nice size
Him: Let me get onea them then...with fries
Waiter: ok sir

*meanwhile the food comes and we all eat...HE eats EVERYTHING on his plate including the decorative stuff and then calls the waiter back to the table with a resounding "Hey you!"*

Waiter: Yes sir, mayI get you anything else?
Him: Shit yeah you can, you told me this sammich was big and I'm not full. *he proceeds to just sit there staring at the man like he is about to attack him*
Waiter: Ok, what do you want me to do (which is what I'm thinking...)
Him: Let me talk to the manager

*the waiter goes to get management*

Manager: Sir is there a problem
*he proceeds to tell that stupid ass story about not being full again*
Manager: Well sir it was a 5 oz breast of chicken with fries and quite frankly you ate everything on your plate before complaining. Can I get you a basket of bread or maybe a salad
Him: I guess so...*waiter begins to walk off and then he yells across the restaurant* and make sure you don't put a lot of dressing on my damn salad either!!!

By now I'm ready to leave his ignorant ass there...but as SOON as he got the salad... he says "This aint got enough dressing on it"...I walked out.

THEN there's this time he cursed an old woman out at the movies...she wasn't all that upset and tells him "God bless you young man" his reply was..."Don't tell me that...shit the devil knows Jesus too!"

[lovelyivy84]

It's kind of hard to know how to respond to your posts RainMan....

[pinkies up]

WTH?? I mean, ummmm, RainMan, I was going to say something to you, but right now I'm at a loss for words...

[lovelyivy84]

WTH?? I mean, ummmm, RainMan, I was going to say something to you, but right now I'm at a loss for words...


Yeah...pretty much...

I aint posted here in damn near two years and that has not changed, lol.

[Honeykiss1974]

Is that "article" from Skinhead Weekly or something? I just can't believe it...:eek: I feel like I have just experienced every stereotype of black men wrapped up into three paragraphs...

I feel dirty.

[ShamikaT]

Yall, keep yall hands off my Rain MAN.

The boy is mine!

(so is Nupe4Life and starang21)

[teena]

^^^hehehehe

Shamika T, I think they were trying to flirt with your man. You have to watch women around here.:D

[litAKAtor]

who IS this rain man dude??

[lovelyivy84]

^^^hehehehe

Shamika T, I think they were trying to flirt with your man. You have to watch women around here.:D


You know you not right for that.



RM- I still dont think you like black people.

[ShamikaT]

who IS this rain man dude??

Fine and Christlike (like me).

Only black man I know who could pull off a mullet.

AKA "matchgame73" on pledge park. AKA as in "also known as".

[lovelyivy84]

^^
Dead. Wrong.

ETA: But really, really, hilariuous...

[Rain Man]

WTH?? I mean, ummmm, RainMan, I was going to say something to you, but right now I'm at a loss for words...

You're not embarassed by this? Well, I am.

Why don't you put this man up at your house for about a month or so and if this guy isn't a freeloader (or at least comes off as such), I'll gladly post a contraction and an apology.

[Rain Man]

You know you not right for that.

RM- I still dont think you like black people.

And all the other posters who contributed to this thread do?

C'mon now. Give me a break.

Clearly a double standard.

[pinkies up]

You're not embarassed by this? Well, I am.

Why don't you put this man up at your house for about a month or so and if this guy isn't a freeloader (or at least comes off as such), I'll gladly post a contraction and an apology.

I was meaning that I didn't understand the entire posting. I didn't mean to be rude, I just really didn't understand.:o

[Conskeeted19]

yes, yes, yes,

i was at my sister's wedding. it was such an elegant affair. the dj played the cha cha song. there is a part in the song that says "to the floor." my sister "ms. ghetto":D got her long flowing dress and twirked it all the way down to the floor. my mother looked as if she had swallowed a house:eek: . i had to go on the dance floor and tactfully get her off.

when my superintendent says "IRREGARDLESS":confused: during our staff developments

i was at lunch with this women's group. i was told that one of the young ladies was known for getting all of her meals free. she finds something wrong with it.....complains to the manager......gets really loud. well, she was sitting in front of me. i could not believe how she behaved. this is a christian group mind you. i stopped her right in the middle of scene. i told her that she will not behave that way in my presence apologized to the manager and told him under no circumstances would she be getting a free meal. i complimented the chef and we all left. i was so embarrassed. i called the young lady to discuss her behavior. sorors, i was so shame.

[Rain Man]

who IS this rain man dude??

Ask your sands Skeephistacate; she'll tell you.

[Sahara]

Only black man I know who could pull off a mullet.


ROTFCTFU!! :D


But seriously, I think the Katrina victim in the hotel was laying around watching TV all day because he may have been depressed.

Now, the guy in that second story was truly shameless! I wonder if he ate that salad dressing. I'm sure the staff added some special seasoning to it just for him!

[Dionysus]

Okay, I attended someone else's graduation yesterday. This had to be the worst one I've ever attended. And, no, this is not at my school!

I can't remember everything but here's some of the things that took place:

-This fool in front me blocked my vision because he was standing up videotaping part of the ceremony with his cell phone.
-There were some guys flashing signs at their peeps when they walked across the stage. PLEASE tell me those were fraternity signs or something. :eek:
-Purple and bright green suits galore!
-This boy (who was old enough to know better) shouted "MAAMAAA I GOTTA GO BOO BOO!"
-Even some Indian people were clowing. This one chick shouted "You rock my world Haffa!" I LMAO because it sounded like she said something else.
-This one guy next too me was so distracting because he was smacking on bbq fritos. Ummm, no food allowed in the auditorium!
-This old lady must have mistaken this as a church service. She was in her Nolan Miller suit and sparkly/lacy hat. When her grand-daughter crossed, she threw up her hands like she was worshipping the Lord.
-Some people were congratulating and yelling just to be doing so, regardless if they knew the people walking across the stage or not. Towards the end of the ceremony, some of the ghettoness rubbed on me! I stood up and yelled "WOO WOO!" (like the guy in that clip), along with them. OH man, that was fun!

[pinkies up]

Okay, I attended someone else's graduation yesterday. This had to be the worst one I've ever attended. And, no, this is not at my school!

I can't remember everything but here's some of the things that took place:

-This fool in front me blocked my vision because he was standing up videotaping part of the ceremony with his cell phone.
-There were some guys flashing signs at their peeps when they walked across the stage. PLEASE tell me those were fraternity signs or something. :eek:
-Purple and bright green suits galore!
-This boy (who was old enough to know better) shouted "MAAMAAA I GOTTA GO BOO BOO!"
-Even some Indian people were clowing. This one chick shouted "You rock my world Haffa!" I LMAO because it sounded like she said something else.
-This one guy next too me was so distracting because he was smacking on bbq fritos. Ummm, no food allowed in the auditorium!
-This old lady must have mistaken this as a church service. She was in her Nolan Miller suit and sparkly/lacy hat. When her grand-daughter crossed, she threw up her hands like she was worshipping the Lord.
-Some people were congratulating and yelling just to be doing so, regardless if they knew the people walking across the stage or not. Towards the end of the ceremony, some of the ghettoness rubbed on me! I stood up and yelled "WOO WOO!" (like the guy in that clip), along with them. OH man, that was fun!


Were you in Mississippi by chance? :D Just kidding, they save the bright green suits for Easter service.

[southernelle25]

I work in the Education field and I am too embarrassed when somebody's mama shows up to school at 10:30 a.m., with her hair wrapped, pajamas (that don't match), no bra, house shoes, and "little Man-Man" on her hip with no shoes and a diaper!:o :mad:

Imagine same at City Court with lil man dressed in jeans half way down his bottom, no shirt, and an earring in his ear. :rolleyes:

[Rain Man]

Minstel show "entertainment" such as:

"Fry That Chicken" (go to YouTube.com and type the words "Fry that chicken"). Nuff said.

The Chicken Noodle Soup dance (what the freak?)

Mack expert Tariq "Kingflex" Nasheed speaks on this in his online blog (http://odeo.com/audio/2051566/view) about cooning.

Excellent commentary. Very much on point.

[TotallyWicked]

I went to a concert the other day (that my best friend DRAGGED me to) and Chris Brown was performing. After he performs, we go to the bathroom. While I'm waiting for her to come out, there were about 4 girls (couldn't have been older than 13), talking about "I love me some Chris Brown...I would give it to him in a hearbeat...I'd let him hit it"

I shot them a look that made them hush up so fast...

I stopped watching videos. I miss the old school stuff with dances and something worth watching. If I see another booty-shaking, grill gleamin, how many expensive cars sittin on 22's with half naked chicks dancing on them video....:mad:

I noticed that alot when I went to Cedar Point in Sandusky, OH. Loads of people were from Cleveland and they were sporting Scream Fest tour shirts (think it was Omarion, Pretty Ricky) and it was pretty much the same thing.

What gets me though is that it's sometimes GROWN WOMEN saying those exact same things about young singers like Chris Brown or Bow Wow..I'm like you do know they're old enough to be your kids right?

[TotallyWicked]

I work with kids obviously and bluntly put some of their relatives are just straight bootleg...the kids actually hang their head in shame when one of their folks comes and pick them up...How are you gonna come pick your kid up (this is an older brother), with blue joggers almost by your knees and pink crocs showing off your crusty feet...needless to say my co-workers and I had a ball raggin on him LOL

We have nights where we get to meet the families..a potluck, why, at our last 'night', did one mother take OUR ENTIRE TRAY of chicken saying "this is for my cousin who couldn't be here, my daughter, my sister my husband" (when her husband was actually there waiting still on his first plate (LMAO); the other families were definitely perturbed at that mother.

We gave tours this past weekend and we were showing my school..it was also an open house (MIND YOU WE ARE THE ONLY MINORITIES IN A GOOD 1/2 MILE RADIUS), well we get propaganda for them about the school and their desired major,we take alot of info...and one of the kids goes by one of the dell computers and acts like she's yanking it out and tells her sister "unplug it from the back" I shoot her a look like "You are setting us back to the colonization era", and she says "Well you know us Mexicans love free S***" IN FRONT OF ALL THE TOUR GROUPS ALL OF WHOM WERE DOMINANTLY WHITE.....i seriously felt like running into the street in front of the speeding bus!

Again with our kids...Halloween is the 'holiday' I dread for various reasons (for the kids) and one of our kids confirmed my fears and left me red when someone on the street [an older Black woman] (as we trick or treated with them), asked me on the side "why do alot of minority folks let their kids dress up like hoochies? Don't they know it looks bad on us?" This little girl, 4th grader, came dressed as a 'sexy pirate' (YOU'RE IN 4th GRADE...SEXY SHOULD NOT...REPEAT NOT BE IN YOUR VOCABULARY). Showed up to our program with her skirt waaaay above knee level...if she sat wrong things would show, a low cut shirt and makeup smeared all over her face (real dark little girl with bright blue eyeshadow and LOUD red lipstick) with some humongous (sp?) open toed high heels...saying "My momma thought this was so cute..my older sister is a sexy flight attendant" :eek: needless to say I made wear that long old jacket over that horrid costume...yes I did 'ruin' (her words) her Halloween experience...but someone's gotta act like the parent...mind you she's the daughter of the same mother who took our entire chicken tray*SMH*

[TotallyWicked]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VAIN_w026aY

This reminds me of a trip we took senior yr of high school to the Cook County Courthouse....it embarassed me as the other school there were straight from the burbs and they took the behavior in the room as representative of the neighborhood...which isn't far from where I grew up (and I was the only person from that area :o:o:o:o:o )

[TotallyWicked]

I got a question for all of you...do you think it's only embarrassing when it's done around people who are not your race? Around one's own? Or anyone?

I get perturbed the most with people acting a fool INTENTIONALLY around other people, I think this only (in the eyes of the beholder), solidifies all the stereotypes about the group, I've actually apologized for someone of my folks' behavior even if I didn't know that person :o

[TotallyWicked]

I was so embarrassed today at my sister's graduation seeing my fellow Latinos acting a plum fool when their graduates came up.

What's worse, my sister's school is very diverse..like extremely and there are folks from all over the world, many of the names called we African, Arabic, and Asian...why the hell did my mom have to say OUT LOUD "what the hell kind of name is that?!" :eek:

Being that my sister was one of the last called up, I went to the hallway to prevent myself from hearing any more of that nonsense...adding onto that my dad was mimicking the Arabic names and he knows damn well most of my friends have Arabic names due to their religion or ethnicity :mad:

I love my folks but they can be straight up ignorant of other cultures sometimes!

some other Latin folks were being waaay too rowdy and I even heard a lady 3 seats above me say "They're being way too loud, are all Mexicans like that?!", some of the folks were yelling things out in Spanish that were completely inappropriate like "Yeah you can get a white girl with that degree now!", I seriously wanted to DIE right then and there....adding onto that the hood Latinos yelling out "yeah that's right that's my N**** Carlos, I see you n****"!

:mad:

[MsFoxyLoxy77]

Skimpy Prom Dresses (http://www.khou.com/news/local/education/stories/khou080509_tj_promdress.e4ef3d2b.html)

I went to a public high school and there were some girls there that just did not choose to dress appropriately. My prom was filled with girls ardoned with prom "dresses" that were practically two piece. I was and still am embarassed when I see women of African descent dressed blatantly inappropriate, the perception of black beauty is already so fragile...

[MissCaramella]

Skimpy Prom Dresses (http://www.khou.com/news/local/education/stories/khou080509_tj_promdress.e4ef3d2b.html)

I went to a public high school and there were some girls there that just did not choose to dress appropriately. My prom was filled with girls ardoned with prom "dresses" that were practically two piece. I was and still am embarassed when I see women of African descent dressed blatantly inappropriate, the perception of black beauty is already so fragile...

Another example (http://www.crunktastical.net/2008/04/23/casket-sharp-prom-edition-part-2/)... and what's more, people are standing in the background like it's Fashion Week or something! We could do so much better.

[IlovemyAKA]

These prom dresses are discussed in detail in this thread...

http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/showthread.php?t=18056&page=38

[KSUViolet06]

**When moms tell teachers and friends that "Lil Day Day don't NEED to do good in school cuz he 'gone be a rapper or a basketball player." Day Day is 8 years old and cannot read. You are an idiot.

**When she also thinks it's cute that while Lil Day Day can't read, he DOES know how to do the Soulja Boy.

[AKA_Monet]

Well, you know how most kneegrows do not celebrate Halloween with costumes... I guess they wear their "costumes" out when it is warmer...

I know right now it looks booboo... But, in a few years, the little girl's design will be the greatest of all get out and "they'll" be wearing in on the "red carpet" to the Oscars... When that happens, I'd be pissed off...

Now, the young lady should go to the Art Institutes, major in Fashion Design, wind up in France or Italy, and form "protest clothes" to just piss off adults.

That is NOT saying I liked the girl's dress, but it was ingenious. If there was a "dress code" for the prom, then the school educates the young people, ultimately, and should have told these girls why "revealing" clothes will not be tolerated... Moreover, how is that equal to the young men who dress like pimps--the pimphat and crunk juice? We are lucky to get the men out of their "$1,000,000" gym shoes...

[naturaldiscretn]

I was so embarrassed today at my sister's graduation seeing my fellow Latinos acting a plum fool when their graduates came up.

What's worse, my sister's school is very diverse..like extremely and there are folks from all over the world, many of the names called we African, Arabic, and Asian...why the hell did my mom have to say OUT LOUD "what the hell kind of name is that?!" :eek:

Being that my sister was one of the last called up, I went to the hallway to prevent myself from hearing any more of that nonsense...adding onto that my dad was mimicking the Arabic names and he knows damn well most of my friends have Arabic names due to their religion or ethnicity :mad:

I love my folks but they can be straight up ignorant of other cultures sometimes!

some other Latin folks were being waaay too rowdy and I even heard a lady 3 seats above me say "They're being way too loud, are all Mexicans like that?!", some of the folks were yelling things out in Spanish that were completely inappropriate like "Yeah you can get a white girl with that degree now!", I seriously wanted to DIE right then and there....adding onto that the hood Latinos yelling out "yeah that's right that's my N**** Carlos, I see you n****"!

:mad:

:eek: I can imagine how embarrassed you must have been.

*SMH* at those prom dresses. We have got to do better!

[TotallyWicked]

students who preach inaccurate 'facts' about their history to people who don't know it.

prime example my soc class, there is only one Black student (he was mixed with Mexican), the prof asked what "black culture" was in order to prove how much assignment has been given to Blacks/African Americans and how essentialized these assignments are...some kid says 'rap' :rolleyes: ...I say 'religious institutions like the A.M.E. church and the Nation of Islam"...this dude..again keep in mind he is the only Black student in class and the class is full of white freshmen from isolated areas of the country...


he goes on to say "but the Nation of Islam came out of rap music so they intertwine" I am like :eek::eek::eek::eek: I couldn't tell him anything cause it would've seemed like I was trying to teach him about his own history, I eventually told him it was inaccurate and he took it lightly, the white students responded with 'wow, I did not know that!'..so now they're going around thinking the NOI is a product of rap music *SMH* The Nation of Islam has been around since the 1930's...Rap came about in the 80's brotha!!! :mad::mad::mad: KNOW YOUR FACTS!

[rndiva1908]

I've been a frequent lurker on this site, but I felt compelled to post after reading some of these comments. I also have too many experiences to count, but I wanted to share something my mom encountered just last weekend...

My mom went to the nail salon and while she was being serviced, in walks a woman yelling across the shop that she'd like a "pedicurrr and manicurrr". The asian gentlemen kindly asked her to take a seat and she replies.."Oh...and I want a fake nail on both of my big toes". My mom puts her head down to hide her embarrassment and contain her laughter. The asian gentlemen could not hold his and looks at him and yells.."What the hell you laughin' at???"

And just yesterday, I realized how some of us refuse to wear maternity clothes even when our bodies say otherwise. I'm in graduate school and there's a girl in my class that looks like should could deliver at anyday. She had on a juicy couture tracksuit, with belly and buttcrack out everywhere. I was so embarrassed...nobody wants to see that mess:mad:! There is no excuse considering that even Target makes nice, affordable, and fashionable maternity clothes. I even saw a lady once strolling in the mall, belly out for miles with a halter top on. It wasn't the halter top that disgust me so much, it was the fact the she had on NO BRA and was "lactating" through her top all while strolling like she was auditioning for ANTM! Before seeing her, I was going to stop at Ms. Field's cookies before calling it a day. But once I saw that, I immediately lost my appetite....after vomiting in my mouth of course!

[preciousjeni]

It wasn't the halter top that disgust me so much, it was the fact the she had on NO BRA and was "lactating" through her top all while strolling like she was auditioning for ANTM!

:eek:

[unspokenone25]

I've been a frequent lurker on this site, but I felt compelled to post after reading some of these comments. I also have too many experiences to count, but I wanted to share something my mom encountered just last weekend...

My mom went to the nail salon and while she was being serviced, in walks a woman yelling across the shop that she'd like a "pedicurrr and manicurrr". The asian gentlemen kindly asked her to take a seat and she replies.."Oh...and I want a fake nail on both of my big toes". My mom puts her head down to hide her embarrassment and contain her laughter. The asian gentlemen could not hold his and looks at him and yells.."What the hell you laughin' at???"
And just yesterday, I realized how some of us refuse to wear maternity clothes even when our bodies say otherwise. I'm in graduate school and there's a girl in my class that looks like should could deliver at anyday. She had on a juicy couture tracksuit, with belly and buttcrack out everywhere. I was so embarrassed...nobody wants to see that mess:mad:! There is no excuse considering that even Target makes nice, affordable, and fashionable maternity clothes. I even saw a lady once strolling in the mall, belly out for miles with a halter top on. It wasn't the halter top that disgust me so much, it was the fact the she had on NO BRA and was "lactating" through her top all while strolling like she was auditioning for ANTM! Before seeing her, I was going to stop at Ms. Field's cookies before calling it a day. But once I saw that, I immediately lost my appetite....after vomiting in my mouth of course!

Hi. Can you introduce yourself in the respective thread (http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/showthread.php?t=19197&page=115)?

[tld221]

**When moms tell teachers and friends that "Lil Day Day don't NEED to do good in school cuz he 'gone be a rapper or a basketball player." Day Day is 8 years old and cannot read. You are an idiot.

**When she also thinks it's cute that while Lil Day Day can't read, he DOES know how to do the Soulja Boy.


or even worse, the excuses given why day day cant read: "he caint be smart like the rest of these kids... the system is making it harder for these kids to pass these classes... this system arent teaching what these kids need to know..."

just stop. day day knows how to read his PSP screen, the directions on the back of a video case, or a game magazine to get cheat codes. but he sho can't read the front of the newspaper, or the face on a watch with hands. hell, does day day even know his address? stop telling me "what block you stay on." you aint the only one who live on that block.

[AKA_Monet]

**When moms tell teachers and friends that "Lil Day Day don't NEED to do good in school cuz he 'gone be a rapper or a basketball player." Day Day is 8 years old and cannot read. You are an idiot.

**When she also thinks it's cute that while Lil Day Day can't read, he DOES know how to do the Soulja Boy.


just stop. day day knows how to read his PSP screen, the directions on the back of a video case, or a game magazine to get cheat codes. but he sho can't read the front of the newspaper, or the face on a watch with hands. hell, does day day even know his address? stop telling me "what block you stay on." you aint the only one who live on that block.

Wow... I missed what you said KSU!!! :D ;)

One of the famous older hall of fame athletes who lectured at my campus said that merely pursuing the high profile jobs like athletics, entertainment, etc. should NOT be the main focus because:


You can get hurt at anytime--look at Remy Ma... :eek:
Very few make it overall--something like less than 1% and that is due to KNOWING the BUSINESS--meaning do you want to be Kobe Bryant or the man that pays Kobe Bryant's salary?
You ONLY have a DEFINED amount of time to do this job at best 20 years, at worst 1 year.
Lastly, if getting hurt, lack of reading contracts, or lack of publicity, that wanes--YOU WILL GET OLD AND AGE OUT!!! Genres change. There is always someone younger and faster than you. We cannot stop time.


So when you have the education cushion to back you up, then education sets you free!!!

He said this because some ghettofabulous kneegrow baby's mama uttered that kind of question and was shocked...

[BabyBlue91]

Yesterday I was walking back to my office from a training session where I witnessed part of the following exchange:

My building is adjacent to the parking lot for a newspaper. An employee for the paper was trying to turn in to report to work, but no ... one of our folk was blocking the driveway with his Cadillac and was positively indignant when the person from the paper asked him to pull up, talking about some, "I don't have anywhere to park"! Like that's supposed to be the other guy's problem!

I watched this dialogue ensue for several minutes (yes, I know I'm wrong too, LOL) while traffic continued to build behind them, and then the guy finally pulled up. I really thought the cops were going to have to be called. I have a relationship with the paper and I thought about notifying their front desk myself. Sheesh!

[PearlGirl08]

OMG..ladies..

My sister showed me this. The clip is of a little boy who stole his grandmothers car because he was mad with his mom. He picked up his little friend for a ride. He hit several things on his driving spree then was later caught.


The interviewer asked: "Did you know that you could have killed somebody?"


The little boy said: "I know, but I dont care..I just wanted to do hoodrat things with my friend!' :cool:


SMH :confused::(:mad:

http://youtube.com/watch?v=dKN64o-vHyU


** I admit it..I laughed, but because it was so pathetic.

[PrettyInPink777]

OMG..ladies..

My sister showed me this. The clip is of a little boy who stole his grandmothers car because he was mad with his mom. He picked up his little friend for a ride. He hit several things on his driving spree then was later caught.


The interviewer asked: "Did you know that you could have killed somebody?"


The little boy said: "I know, but I dont care..I just wanted to do hoodrat things with my friend!' :cool:


SMH :confused::(:mad:

http://youtube.com/watch?v=dKN64o-vHyU


** I admit it..I laughed, but because it was so pathetic.



Oh HECK no! This is disturbing on so many levels. ..... and he needs his behind beat (I'm old school, y'all!!), in addition to some strong, CONSISTENT intervention to change his paradigms.

my Lord .....

[naturaldiscretn]

Yes, I saw that video clip with the little boy. It was a mess and he got a kick out of being bad and obnoxious. My mouth fell open when he made the hoodrat comment.

[Little32]

But that boy needs to be BEAT (not spanked), on a daily basis, for the next year or something.

H! A! M!

[AKA_Monet]

Yes, I saw that video clip with the little boy. It was a mess and he got a kick out of being bad and obnoxious. My mouth fell open when he made the hoodrat comment.

Just watched it.

The young man looked fearful of other men in authority. A woman can only do so much with our young black children... But when a man with authority steps in, it is a whole 'nother ballgame...

My little 3.5 y/o nephew shapes up when his father steps into the picture... Of course, my brother (his father) had to spank my nephew once or twice. I found a different way of disciplining my nephew when I am around, though...

[tld221]

um. did this girl just call this little boy "you p**** eatin' mothaf*****?!"

i dont get it yall.

[Jill1228]

Oh HECK no! This is disturbing on so many levels. ..... and he needs his behind beat (I'm old school, y'all!!), in addition to some strong, CONSISTENT intervention to change his paradigms.

my Lord .....

But that boy needs to be BEAT (not spanked), on a daily basis, for the next year or something.


No video games for a week my azz! I would sell the games and his system. hell, I would donate it to charity. That kid would be beyond dead. I would even beat his azz on camera! I mean grandma has to pay for the damage. She needs to take it out of his behind

[Little32]

She needs to take it out of his behind

I was saying the same thing to my brother earlier.

Grandma: 4 o'clock. Time for your daily beating boy.....

Many yelps later....

Grandma: 5 o'clock. All done. That brings the total down to... Same time tomorrow.

If he wanted to call child services, I would dial the number; and, if they wanted to take him, I would pack the bag.

[naturaldiscretn]

Just watched it.

The young man looked fearful of other men in authority. A woman can only do so much with our young black children... But when a man with authority steps in, it is a whole 'nother ballgame...

My little 3.5 y/o nephew shapes up when his father steps into the picture... Of course, my brother (his father) had to spank my nephew once or twice. I found a different way of disciplining my nephew when I am around, though...

I agree. There is definately some attention and discipline lacking in his life. :(

I was saying the same thing to my brother earlier.

Grandma: 4 o'clock. Time for your daily beating boy.....

Many yelps later....

Grandma: 5 o'clock. All done. That brings the total down to... Same time tomorrow.

If he wanted to call child services, I would dial the number; and, if they wanted to take him, I would pack the bag.

ROFL! I actually snorted like a pig while laughing at that one.

[KAPital PHINUst]

even saw a lady once strolling in the mall, belly out for miles with a halter top on. It wasn't the halter top that disgust me so much, it was the fact the she had on NO BRA and was "lactating" through her top all while strolling like she was auditioning for ANTM! Before seeing her, I was going to stop at Ms. Field's cookies before calling it a day. But once I saw that, I immediately lost my appetite....after vomiting in my mouth of course!

You should have went to Mrs. Fields to get your cookies anyway and after that you could've stepped to her and said:

"Excuse me. Can I get some milk for these cookies?" *lol*

[OneTimeSBX]

:eek:OMG..ladies..

My sister showed me this. The clip is of a little boy who stole his grandmothers car because he was mad with his mom. He picked up his little friend for a ride. He hit several things on his driving spree then was later caught.


The interviewer asked: "Did you know that you could have killed somebody?"


The little boy said: "I know, but I dont care..I just wanted to do hoodrat things with my friend!' :cool:


SMH :confused::(:mad:

http://youtube.com/watch?v=dKN64o-vHyU


** I admit it..I laughed, but because it was so pathetic.
:eek:

i am shocked into silence...

never mind. funny, but sad, but funny again. and that grandma knows she beat his behind anyway lmao!

[KAPital PHINUst]

But that boy needs to be BEAT (not spanked), on a daily basis, for the next year or something.

Do any of yall remember when the late comedian Robin Harris said that as a kid, his mother used to beat his behind while playing a blues album that had a scratch in it ("I'll whoop ya' when I wanna *whack*, when I wanna *whack*, when I wanna *whack....")

Well if I was this kid's daddy, I would've taken it one step further and beat his behind while playing the soundtrack to Blazing Saddles, and make lyrics appropriate to the situation.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7tyhpt6_pwc

While he may never watch another Mel Brooks movie in his life, he'll be sure to walk the straight and narrow.